Nannies - DO NOT allow...

[Anonymous]

So sick of nannies on here trying to do as little as possible and feel entitled to the entire MB paycheck.

It's not a healthy attitude. It's not how you embrace a job. If you want to work hard, earn lots of money, you don't go into "let me make sure I never help MB with any cooking, any cleaning."

I've run into a ton of nannies saying "the kids got older and so they went to a center for socialization" Translation: Nanny was lazy and did the bare minimum so the MB found an alternative without the unpleasantness of firing someone but in effect, kicked the nanny out.

That's what you will become with that attitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not allow parents to bully you into doing everything. Some of them love to say that the nanny needs to do everything. Tell them nannies do children. Housekeepers clean your bathroom. Personal chefs do your cooking. If you want to do all 3 jobs, that adds up to a VERY fat paycheck.

This is very important for nannies to know.

[Anonymous]

I used to have a nanny.

She was ... I would say savvy and manipulative. I'd ask her to wrap a present for my kid's friend's birthday party. She says "Oh, you don't want me to do that. I'm terrible at it. It would look so ugly." But surprise! everything she wrapped in the years after she said that looked just fine.

When she didn't want to do the laundry, she would say "I didn't do it today because I wanted to get tomorrow's laundry done together for you so you have one less day of laundry sitting in the hamper over the weekend." I almost bought that but she also took the kids to McDonalds that day and otherwise did absolutely nothing around the house, no play with kids, no baths, no reading, nothing. I know she just let the day slip by while she literally laid on her butt all day long staring at her phone and ranting about Trump on her FB feed.

If I ask her to organize the kids toys, she would take the entire toy shelf to the basement storage without going through a single thing in it and say "Done!! Anything else you want me to do?" That happened week 2 of her employment and after that happened a few more times, I stopped asking her to organize anything for the years afterwards.

She ran personal errands whenever she wanted (average 3x per week) and each time it was an emergency or some convenient reason she just couldn't let me know about before.


She surfed the phone or the laptop she brought to work for her webs surfing while I made the kids breakfast before I headed off the work because of a migraine or whatever reason every morning(reasons such as that's just her routine and what she always did every morning).


She was with us for years and as you know, kids get older and need less and less help. Her job got easier and easier. She asked for a raise and said her job was getting much harder than when she started. I couldn't believe my ears. That was the straw the broke the camel's back. I fired her.

After she left, I hired a professional organizer to go through the house. Then I hired another nanny who is open to doing more around the house. It cost me a fortune but it was worth it. But I'm not giving a raise to someone who doesn't deserve it.

So think about that when you plot out how you can get by doing as little as possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So sick of nannies on here trying to do as little as possible and feel entitled to the entire MB paycheck.

It's not a healthy attitude. It's not how you embrace a job. If you want to work hard, earn lots of money, you don't go into "let me make sure I never help MB with any cooking, any cleaning."

I've run into a ton of nannies saying "the kids got older and so they went to a center for socialization" Translation: Nanny was lazy and did the bare minimum so the MB found an alternative without the unpleasantness of firing someone but in effect, kicked the nanny out.

That's what you will become with that attitude.

+1000. I am well regarded at work mainly because I am dependable and people see me as a team player. I would never dream of going to work with the crap attitude of some of these nannies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sick of nannies on here trying to do as little as possible and feel entitled to the entire MB paycheck.

It's not a healthy attitude. It's not how you embrace a job. If you want to work hard, earn lots of money, you don't go into "let me make sure I never help MB with any cooking, any cleaning."

I've run into a ton of nannies saying "the kids got older and so they went to a center for socialization" Translation: Nanny was lazy and did the bare minimum so the MB found an alternative without the unpleasantness of firing someone but in effect, kicked the nanny out.

That's what you will become with that attitude.

+1000. I am well regarded at work mainly because I am dependable and people see me as a team player. I would never dream of going to work with the crap attitude of some of these nannies.

And I meant to specify I take on tasks outside of my day to day job all the time because I know it will help my manager out and I am rewarded for it.

[Anonymous]

Nannies do not wrap presents, decorate Christmas trees or take down decorations,.

[Anonymous]

Who the F has the time to dig up all these old threads?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sick of nannies on here trying to do as little as possible and feel entitled to the entire MB paycheck.

It's not a healthy attitude. It's not how you embrace a job. If you want to work hard, earn lots of money, you don't go into "let me make sure I never help MB with any cooking, any cleaning."

I've run into a ton of nannies saying "the kids got older and so they went to a center for socialization" Translation: Nanny was lazy and did the bare minimum so the MB found an alternative without the unpleasantness of firing someone but in effect, kicked the nanny out.

That's what you will become with that attitude.

+1000. I am well regarded at work mainly because I am dependable and people see me as a team player. I would never dream of going to work with the crap attitude of some of these nannies.

And I meant to specify I take on tasks outside of my day to day job all the time because I know it will help my manager out and I am rewarded for it.

I hear from good nannies that they were taken advantage of, and not at all fairly compensated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If nanny wants to do extra jobs, that fine as long as the kids are still being somehow cared for (nap whatever). But if the extra workload is in the contract, the jobs get done, and the kids get neglected. Not such a bargain.

Now, there's a point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We hired a nanny/housekeeper and had ample wonderful candidates. My kids are in preschool and elementary school age level. Everyone either uses or beforecare/aftercare, an au pair or has a nanny who provides childcare, housekeeping and some level of meal preparation. A nanny who will only do one thing but expects to be paid for many hours with little or no work just doesn't fit with families who have kids in scholl 15-30 hours a week. heck the au pairs even do errands and share in family light housekeeping. For infants and young toddlers its more a mix but all the nannies do kid related chores and the majority do other light housekeeping. When our kids were little, it was a huge value having a nanny that did all laundry, grocery trip once a week and some light housekeeping during nap time.

If you don't want to do anything, you have limited options which I understand pisses you off. However, MBs are not going to hire someone who doesn't fit the job just because you feel entitled to a different type of job. I'm sure that there are families out there with a full house staff including a fulltime butler, housekeeper, chef, chauffer, and nanny. These jobs are fewer and you are welcome to search for them. You probably will not get the other perks of feel free to run your errands on the clock with our kids in tow on the way back from activities, sure you can bring your young niece over on a snow day and we'll pick you up and drive you home since we have a SUV, add your own food to the grocery list for your lunch, grandma's in town in next week she drives me nuts so you don't have to come in and you still get paid etc etc.

Its a choice you make but there are trade offs and you limit your opportunities but being unflexible in what you will or will not do. Simple.

The people with kids in school should just do before and after care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Every time the Nanny picks up a child development book or periodical, she's still caring for your children. Part of being a professional means always learning more. Professional nannies do this even when they aren't on the clock. But when they do have reading/studying time while at your home, you and your child are the likely beneficiaries. Parents who choose a professional nanny, rather than a warm body, appreciate this clear difference.

Good point.

[Anonymous]

The military family's nanny sounds like me. I've done things which I wasn't told to do. I am a very neat person and hate seeing anything out of place. My employers would leave things around and tell me not to do them, but I couldn't. I refused to make lunches over a sink of over night pots and pans. Therefore, I would wash them if I had some free time. Sure I could have pile them on the counter and make lunches, then put them back but why? It probably would hurt me more than it would my employers. I grew up very poor, but if you came to our home you wouldn't know that. And you could eat off of our floors without catching a diseases. And to this day I am still the same way. Therefore, family your nanny was probably like me, not being able to stand a messy place. We just stay to the scrip it isn't in our DNA like some other nanny or employer for that matter. We treats everything and wherever we go like the way we carry ourselves......very professionally and neatly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The military family's nanny sounds like me. I've done things which I wasn't told to do. I am a very neat person and hate seeing anything out of place. My employers would leave things around and tell me not to do them, but I couldn't. I refused to make lunches over a sink of over night pots and pans. Therefore, I would wash them if I had some free time. Sure I could have pile them on the counter and make lunches, then put them back but why? It probably would hurt me more than it would my employers. I grew up very poor, but if you came to our home you wouldn't know that. And you could eat off of our floors without catching a diseases. And to this day I am still the same way. Therefore, family your nanny was probably like me, not being able to stand a messy place. We just can't stay to the scrip it isn't in our DNA like some other nannies or employers for that matter. We treats everything and wherever we go like the way we carry ourselves......very professionally and neatly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The military family's nanny sounds like me. I've done things which I wasn't told to do. I am a very neat person and hate seeing anything out of place. My employers would leave things around and tell me not to do them, but I couldn't. I refused to make lunches over a sink of over night pots and pans. Therefore, I would wash them if I had some free time. Sure I could have pile them on the counter and make lunches, then put them back but why? It probably would hurt me more than it would my employers. I grew up very poor, but if you came to our home you wouldn't know that. And you could eat off of our floors without catching a diseases. And to this day I am still the same way. Therefore, family your nanny was probably like me, not being able to stand a messy place. We just can't stay to the scrip it isn't in our DNA like some other nannies, or employers for that matter. We treats everything and wherever we go like the way we carry ourselves......very professionally and neatly.