Do you allow your nanny help youself with some food in your house?

[Anonymous]

I grew up with a nanny and now employ a nanny. Of course she is welcome to eat whatever she wants.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The cheapness of posters on this board is raw. I really hope your nanny leaves you in a lurch when a better offer comes along.

Our nanny as been with us for 8 years. She tells me horror stories of how her nanny friends can be treated.

You are being ridiculous. It’s neither cheap nor heartless to expect an adult to pack his or her own lunch. And yes, people forget their lunch and yes, it would be petty to not let them make a sandwich, etc. But I employ a nanny to make my life easier. I don’t want to spend extra time making sure I procured the items on my nanny’s shopping list.

Perfect example pf cheap employers. When is your nanny's undisturbed lunch hour? 12-1? Do you come home and watch your own kids (horrors!) while nanny goes out to Panera?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At the interview you TELL tell the nanny she will be leaving you a list of the foods you need to purchase to feed her breakfast/lunch or lunch/dinner. She does not / should not depend of eating the scraps left by the children. Nanny may be a completely different ethnicity or race from you and needs you to stock *her* typical foods in the house.

Even at my firm when admins order food for us for a long day of client meetings they ask each of us what we want to eat. One time they made the mistake of ordering all non-veg food when 5 of us (out of 14, including 2 of the clients) ) are strict veg (no meat, no fish). You need to ASK the nanny what she wants and have her write it down for you.

Professionals provide their own food. Its a nice thing to do to provide food but no one should expect it. I've never ever worked at a job where lunch or a meal was ever provided. It depends on the profession. If you are working at a firm it may be different but most jobs are not like that.

Have you ever worked at a job where you were unable to leave even to just grab a lunch?

Trust me. In home workers are always provided their meal if they choose.

Yes, or didn't have time. I either brought food, skipped it or found a few minutes usually around 2-3-4 to grab something to eat from a vending machine. In home workers are not always provided with meals. That is absolutely not true. Its the right thing to do, but its not a given.

So, do you provide construction workers, repair men, etc. food? (yes, we do if they are here for more than a few hours).. they are in home workers.

First, construction workers and repair men are able to leave your house for lunch - a nanny can’t.

Second, if you have construction workers and repair men at your home five days a week, for eight hours a day, for several years on end - you have bigger problems than your nanny’s lunch.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The cheapness of posters on this board is raw. I really hope your nanny leaves you in a lurch when a better offer comes along.

Our nanny as been with us for 8 years. She tells me horror stories of how her nanny friends can be treated.

You are being ridiculous. It’s neither cheap nor heartless to expect an adult to pack his or her own lunch. And yes, people forget their lunch and yes, it would be petty to not let them make a sandwich, etc. But I employ a nanny to make my life easier. I don’t want to spend extra time making sure I procured the items on my nanny’s shopping list.

I employ a nanny to teach and engage my child. My life doesn’t come into play.

And speaking from experience, remembering that Nanny loves apples and whole wheat bread doesn’t tax my brain too much. Luckily apples aren’t too hard to procure.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny works for us 10 hours a day, which means she eats breakfast and lunch in our home. As a PP above does, we give her (a small) grocery allowance weekly to shop at her Latino market and keep ingredients in our home to make her own meals. It's a small gesture to keep a wonderful nanny who loves our children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here.

You should know by now that all familes aren't alike.

This family just doesn't realize this is a nice perk they could give you by saying you can help yourself to drinks or snacks.
Maybe they're nice in other ways.

I'd let it go and not expect anything.
Just ask if you can use a separate cupboard to store your own snacks.

They don't have to feed you so stop being upset.

Then you should give her a lunch break so she can go out and have her lunch. You would also need to arrange care for children while she is out. Only cheap people would not feed their nanny!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The cheapness of posters on this board is raw. I really hope your nanny leaves you in a lurch when a better offer comes along.

Our nanny as been with us for 8 years. She tells me horror stories of how her nanny friends can be treated.

You are being ridiculous. It’s neither cheap nor heartless to expect an adult to pack his or her own lunch. And yes, people forget their lunch and yes, it would be petty to not let them make a sandwich, etc. But I employ a nanny to make my life easier. I don’t want to spend extra time making sure I procured the items on my nanny’s shopping list.

Perfect example pf cheap employers. When is your nanny's undisturbed lunch hour? 12-1? Do you come home and watch your own kids (horrors!) while nanny goes out to Panera?

I’d want to compare total compensation packages and working conditions before deciding whether an employer was cheap or not. A free lunch doesn’t make up for less stress/pay/PTO/health benefits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny works for us 10 hours a day, which means she eats breakfast and lunch in our home. As a PP above does, we give her (a small) grocery allowance weekly to shop at her Latino market and keep ingredients in our home to make her own meals. It's a small gesture to keep a wonderful nanny who loves our children.

That's very nice of you. Your nanny must be lucky to have you to think like that.

[Anonymous]

I have a new nanny starting soon and am grateful for this thread because it would have never occurred to me that a family would not let their nanny help themselves to snacks or whatever food is in the fridge! I will now make sure I make that super clear to her when she starts. OP hopefully this family just forgot to say something when you started!

[Anonymous]

I agree with previous posters , it is not cheap to ask a nanny to bring their own lunch . I bring my own lunch to work and I do not get an assigned lunch break , I just eat while I do work . Nannies act like it’s polite for employers to provide food for them but the last nanny I had (we told her she can help herself) would drink an entire jar of coffee creamer by herself in less than a week as well as eat all of our fruit, cheese and bread and sometimes even the kids snacks. It was getting ridiculous! After that I told our current nanny to bring her own lunch daily . She chose not to and then I felt bad because she just wasn’t eating at all then . So now I’m back to providing food for the nanny and I agree with the previous mom , it’s an additional thing for me to worry about weekly. I like her though and I pay her very well for her help. I agree with the other moms who said it’s just professional behavior to bring your own lunch daily and not “expect to be fed.”

[Anonymous]

Our nanny is free to eat whatever she wants. She’s a health-nut and vegetarian and always brings her own lunch but she’s certainly welcome to our food.

The sweetest thing is that she always eats with our son and she shares her lunch with him if he wants it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with previous posters , it is not cheap to ask a nanny to bring their own lunch . I bring my own lunch to work and I do not get an assigned lunch break , I just eat while I do work . Nannies act like it’s polite for employers to provide food for them but the last nanny I had (we told her she can help herself) would drink an entire jar of coffee creamer by herself in less than a week as well as eat all of our fruit, cheese and bread and sometimes even the kids snacks. It was getting ridiculous! After that I told our current nanny to bring her own lunch daily . She chose not to and then I felt bad because she just wasn’t eating at all then . So now I’m back to providing food for the nanny and I agree with the previous mom , it’s an additional thing for me to worry about weekly. I like her though and I pay her very well for her help. I agree with the other moms who said it’s just professional behavior to bring your own lunch daily and not “expect to be fed.”

Wow, do you think your first two nannies were hungry (as in poor and underfed)?

Why doesn’t this third nanny eat what she makes for your children?

PS having gone through three nannies doesn’t really paint you in a good light, PP. c

[Anonymous]

Kids and I eat the same thing. I model both manners and healthy eating. That’s one of the usual reasons I’m hired vs someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with previous posters , it is not cheap to ask a nanny to bring their own lunch . I bring my own lunch to work and I do not get an assigned lunch break , I just eat while I do work . Nannies act like it’s polite for employers to provide food for them but the last nanny I had (we told her she can help herself) would drink an entire jar of coffee creamer by herself in less than a week as well as eat all of our fruit, cheese and bread and sometimes even the kids snacks. It was getting ridiculous! After that I told our current nanny to bring her own lunch daily . She chose not to and then I felt bad because she just wasn’t eating at all then . So now I’m back to providing food for the nanny and I agree with the previous mom , it’s an additional thing for me to worry about weekly. I like her though and I pay her very well for her help. I agree with the other moms who said it’s just professional behavior to bring your own lunch daily and not “expect to be fed.”

Wow, do you think your first two nannies were hungry (as in poor and underfed)?

Why doesn’t this third nanny eat what she makes for your children?

PS having gone through three nannies doesn’t really paint you in a good light, PP. c

No, I don’t think the nannies were so poor and underfed. I think when something is FREE, people help themselves very FREELY.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with previous posters , it is not cheap to ask a nanny to bring their own lunch . I bring my own lunch to work and I do not get an assigned lunch break , I just eat while I do work . Nannies act like it’s polite for employers to provide food for them but the last nanny I had (we told her she can help herself) would drink an entire jar of coffee creamer by herself in less than a week as well as eat all of our fruit, cheese and bread and sometimes even the kids snacks. It was getting ridiculous! After that I told our current nanny to bring her own lunch daily . She chose not to and then I felt bad because she just wasn’t eating at all then . So now I’m back to providing food for the nanny and I agree with the previous mom , it’s an additional thing for me to worry about weekly. I like her though and I pay her very well for her help. I agree with the other moms who said it’s just professional behavior to bring your own lunch daily and not “expect to be fed.”

Wow, do you think your first two nannies were hungry (as in poor and underfed)?

Why doesn’t this third nanny eat what she makes for your children?

PS having gone through three nannies doesn’t really paint you in a good light, PP. c

No, I don’t think the nannies were so poor and underfed. I think when something is FREE, people help themselves very FREELY.

I don’t think so, OP. You have a very negative view of people.