Truth of being a Nanny

[Anonymous]

With a fair amount of vetting and luck, the first and only family that I’ve officially nannied for has always treated me kindly, respectfully, and like family (I’ve been invited to, and attended, all birthday parties, the occasional Easter Dinner, a couple of vacations, etc.). I was only full-time for about 2.5 years when the oldest was born, but when it came time to part ways (my choice to pursue a degree-related field), they were both understanding and accommodating.

Although I’m no longer full-time, I’ve been babysitting the kids on a regular basis 2 nights/week for the last 4ish years, even now as I pursue my doctoral studies. The kids spend the occasional weekend by me. I take them on day trips to the beach, zoo, gardens, etc. when I’m free. We go to see movies, plays, etc. And they’re close with the children of family friends whom I introduced them to, as well as my niece and nephew, whom the kids consider to be like their siblings. They also know, and have spent time with, all four of my siblings and my parents. Lots of love and friendship to go around and share! I’m grateful that their parents are chill, nice, and kind folks, and are always willing to accommodate my request to spend time with the kids outside of my work hours.

When I no longer babysit for them, be it by my choice, theirs, or the position coming to a natural close, I’ll still be able to hang out and chat with the kids freely. I’m also their designated guardian should anything happen to the parents.

So there are definitely lots of wonderful parents/families out there who treat their child’s/children’s nanny kindly, respectfully, and overall humanely, understand the importance of a continued relationship, and will support such, even after the position ends, in whatever capacity is agreeable to all parties involved.

So I hope you manage to come across a family like this in your next position OP. As well as anyone else who’s been burned by one or more employers before. It’s certainly a great experience to have!

[Anonymous]

I think everyone deserves a basic level of respect, regardless of money, status, and power.

As a parent my mood and attitude heavily changed with the level of downtime I witnessed when my baby was asleep. I don't mind my emploeyes having breaks, but there is a limit before I feel I am just shelling out money to watch you read your e-mail and surf the internet.

Anonymous wrote:With a fair amount of vetting and luck, the first and only family that I’ve officially nannied for has always treated me kindly, respectfully, and like family (I’ve been invited to, and attended, all birthday parties, the occasional
Easter Dinner, a couple of vacations, etc.). I was only full-time for about 2.5 years when the oldest was born, but when it came time to part ways (my choice to pursue a degree-related field), they were both understanding and accommodating.

Although I’m no longer full-time, I’ve been babysitting the kids on a regular basis 2 nights/week for the last 4ish years, even now as I pursue my doctoral studies. The kids spend the occasional weekend by me. I take them on day trips to the beach, zoo, gardens, etc. when I’m free. We go to see movies, plays, etc. And they’re close with the children of family friends whom I introduced them to, as well as my niece and nephew, whom the kids consider to be like their siblings. They also know, and have spent time with, all four of my siblings and my parents. Lots of love and friendship to go around and share! I’m grateful that their parents are chill, nice, and kind folks, and are always willing to accommodate my request to spend time with the kids outside of my work hours.

When I no longer babysit for them, be it by my choice, theirs, or the position coming to a natural close, I’ll still be able to hang out and chat with the kids freely. I’m also their designated guardian should anything happen to the parents.

So there are definitely lots of wonderful parents/families out there who treat their child’s/children’s nanny kindly, respectfully, and overall humanely, understand the importance of a continued relationship, and will support such, even after the position ends, in whatever capacity is agreeable to all parties involved.

So I hope you manage to come across a family like this in your next position OP. As well as anyone else who’s been burned by one or more employers before. It’s certainly a great experience to have!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The MBs who are the most seemingly open and effusive are the biggest phonys. Beware of the employers who pretend to be so loving and caring - they are lying. Because you and the parents share a love for their child, the parents can manipulate you into turning down better jobs or complaining about late returns and added nanny-tasks. And they will fire you in an instant.

It is a job. Love the child and do right by your charge - but never believe that your employers love or even care about you.

Lessons learned the hard way.

Agreed. Protect yourself. I let my current MB say these things but I always remember this is a job and I must look out for myself. My last long-term position ended badly and that MB was supposedly my “friend” and felt I was family and “didn’t know what they’d do without me.” But when I did leave she treated me like shit and threatened that I couldn’t see the kids anymore out of spite. Now when I see them she can’t even look me in the eye. But I love these kids and enjoy seeing them every few months and they love to see me too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think everyone deserves a basic level of respect, regardless of money, status, and power.

As a parent my mood and attitude heavily changed with the level of downtime I witnessed when my baby was asleep. I don't mind my emploeyes having breaks, but there is a limit before I feel I am just shelling out money to watch you read your e-mail and surf the internet.

Anonymous wrote:With a fair amount of vetting and luck, the first and only family that I’ve officially nannied for has always treated me kindly, respectfully, and like family (I’ve been invited to, and attended, all birthday parties, the occasional
Easter Dinner, a couple of vacations, etc.). I was only full-time for about 2.5 years when the oldest was born, but when it came time to part ways (my choice to pursue a degree-related field), they were both understanding and accommodating.

Although I’m no longer full-time, I’ve been babysitting the kids on a regular basis 2 nights/week for the last 4ish years, even now as I pursue my doctoral studies. The kids spend the occasional weekend by me. I take them on day trips to the beach, zoo, gardens, etc. when I’m free. We go to see movies, plays, etc. And they’re close with the children of family friends whom I introduced them to, as well as my niece and nephew, whom the kids consider to be like their siblings. They also know, and have spent time with, all four of my siblings and my parents. Lots of love and friendship to go around and share! I’m grateful that their parents are chill, nice, and kind folks, and are always willing to accommodate my request to spend time with the kids outside of my work hours.

When I no longer babysit for them, be it by my choice, theirs, or the position coming to a natural close, I’ll still be able to hang out and chat with the kids freely. I’m also their designated guardian should anything happen to the parents.

So there are definitely lots of wonderful parents/families out there who treat their child’s/children’s nanny kindly, respectfully, and overall humanely, understand the importance of a continued relationship, and will support such, even after the position ends, in whatever capacity is agreeable to all parties involved.

So I hope you manage to come across a family like this in your next position OP. As well as anyone else who’s been burned by one or more employers before. It’s certainly a great experience to have!

Oh my God! You again!!! Holy hell, Lady, get a life! Your nanny reading her email while your child is sleeping is the least of your issues. Seek help. You write the same post for every single thread and it simply is not relevant or on point!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The MBs who are the most seemingly open and effusive are the biggest phonys. Beware of the employers who pretend to be so loving and caring - they are lying. Because you and the parents share a love for their child, the parents can manipulate you into turning down better jobs or complaining about late returns and added nanny-tasks. And they will fire you in an instant.

It is a job. Love the child and do right by your charge - but never believe that your employers love or even care about you.

Lessons learned the hard way.

Agreed. Protect yourself. I let my current MB say these things but I always remember this is a job and I must look out for myself. My last long-term position ended badly and that MB was supposedly my “friend” and felt I was family and “didn’t know what they’d do without me.” But when I did leave she treated me like shit and threatened that I couldn’t see the kids anymore out of spite. Now when I see them she can’t even look me in the eye. But I love these kids and enjoy seeing them every few months and they love to see me too.

Yes and yes! My last employer was the biggest hypocrite and liar. I took all the cards she wrote me telling me how much she loved me and how I was family and always will be and put them in a file marked “biggest phony” with my dismissal papers. She loved me one week and fired me the next.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The MBs who are the most seemingly open and effusive are the biggest phonys. Beware of the employers who pretend to be so loving and caring - they are lying. Because you and the parents share a love for their child, the parents can manipulate you into turning down better jobs or complaining about late returns and added nanny-tasks. And they will fire you in an instant.

It is a job. Love the child and do right by your charge - but never believe that your employers love or even care about you.

Lessons learned the hard way.

Agreed. Protect yourself. I let my current MB say these things but I always remember this is a job and I must look out for myself. My last long-term position ended badly and that MB was supposedly my “friend” and felt I was family and “didn’t know what they’d do without me.” But when I did leave she treated me like shit and threatened that I couldn’t see the kids anymore out of spite. Now when I see them she can’t even look me in the eye. But I love these kids and enjoy seeing them every few months and they love to see me too.

No matter what kind of job you hold, your boss is never ever your friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The MBs who are the most seemingly open and effusive are the biggest phonys. Beware of the employers who pretend to be so loving and caring - they are lying. Because you and the parents share a love for their child, the parents can manipulate you into turning down better jobs or complaining about late returns and added nanny-tasks. And they will fire you in an instant.

It is a job. Love the child and do right by your charge - but never believe that your employers love or even care about you.

Lessons learned the hard way.

Agreed. Protect yourself. I let my current MB say these things but I always remember this is a job and I must look out for myself. My last long-term position ended badly and that MB was supposedly my “friend” and felt I was family and “didn’t know what they’d do without me.” But when I did leave she treated me like shit and threatened that I couldn’t see the kids anymore out of spite. Now when I see them she can’t even look me in the eye. But I love these kids and enjoy seeing them every few months and they love to see me too.

No matter what kind of job you hold, your boss is never ever your friend.

+4. It’s a job. Yes, you love your charges but their mother is a phony, lying, sack of hypocrisy and will fire you at the drop of a hat.