NF posted footage of me online

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you snooping on her social media?

Seriously.

Posting video from a nanny cam without consent on social media > looking at someone’s social media page

She didn’t post a photo or video of you. She posted one of her child doing something cute. You were in the background. You are acting like she posted something about you. She didn’t. It’s fine if you don’t like it. Everyone has a right to control their social media presence. Did you actually try, you know, TALKING to her about it before you quit?

Grow up. The photo wasn’t found by you randomly because it is “globally available”. You were snooping on her page. Talk to her about your concerns and get off her Instagram.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you snooping on her social media?

Seriously.

Posting video from a nanny cam without consent on social media > looking at someone’s social media page

She didn’t post a photo or video of you. She posted one of her child doing something cute. You were in the background. You are acting like she posted something about you. She didn’t. It’s fine if you don’t like it. Everyone has a right to control their social media presence. Did you actually try, you know, TALKING to her about it before you quit?

Grow up. The photo wasn’t found by you randomly because it is “globally available”. You were snooping on her page. Talk to her about your concerns and get off her Instagram.

How can she "Snoop" on a social media page thetebis the for the entire world to see! Het MB is wrong and you are too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a lot of overreaction here. You *could* go the lawyer route, but it will be such a waste of time and money for something that could be resolved by just talking to the offending party. I am not even sure how much legal ground there is for suing over such footage -- the place where the video was taken is the nanny's place of employment (and expectation of privacy for an employee at the workplace is pretty limited). The MB is clearly also not using the footage for commercial purposes, where there's more grounds for requiring consent.

Just TALK to her, at least to start with, and you can take a different course of action if she doesn't react well to your concerns. The parent/nanny relationship is not an equal one and it's not necessarily because there's intentional disrespect. As a parent, I'm allowed to do all sorts of things with my kid without my nanny's permission (like taking her out of the country, piercing her ears, dropping her off at a neighbor's house while I run out for an errand, etc), but it certainly should be a fireable offense for the nanny to do those to the kid without the parents' permission. Your MB may well consider security footage from cameras in her house as something she gets to decide what to do with, just as you might feel you get to decide what to do with photos on your phone, even if other people are visible in them.

Those aren't relevant arguments, it's the parent's child, and nanny is not negatively impacted. By posting videos online, nanny's privacy was breached and she was not asked for consent.

Think about it this way: every single school or camp your child attends will have a waiver. If you don't sign, they can't post your child in any pictures. You decide whether your nanny can take and post pictures. Yes this parent thought it was perfectly okay to post a video of nanny and child (to me, it would be totally different if it was nanny from hip down, as the focus would be completely on the child) without asking for her consent. Are you okay with your employer taking a video of you spilling coffee all down the front of your shirt? What about picking up papers blowing across a parking lot after someone knocked an expandable file out of your hand?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow.... I was at the park... A public place. Someone took a photo of his kid.... I was standing behind her.... he posted the photo online.... can I sue?

You aren't listed by name. Nobody can search your name and find it. Most likely, you have zero friends and family in common. And it's a public park, with zero expectation that anyone would ask first (unless you're in the way).

[Anonymous]

It is considered impolite and an invasion of privacy to post any photograph of any person without their permission - whether the person is tagged/named or not.

Come on, people - this is not a difficult concept. The employer who did this was wrong. It is not a crime but it is simply wrong and disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is considered impolite and an invasion of privacy to post any photograph of any person without their permission - whether the person is tagged/named or not.

Come on, people - this is not a difficult concept. The employer who did this was wrong. It is not a crime but it is simply wrong and disrespectful.

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[Anonymous]

Are you sure you want to quit right before the holidays, OP? Do you not receive holidays off and an end of year bonus? Seems a bit foolish not to wait a bit longer if you’ve been there 10 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For heaven's sake. This could very easily be a foolish lack of awareness on the employer's part.

The over reactions here are absurd.

Treat each other with respect and decency. Talk to each other if something concerns you. Do not leap to the worst possible intent - give people the benefit of the doubt.

If the world did more of that and less fuming about perceived injustices we'd all be a lot happier.

The employer would never have tolerated a "foolish lack of awareness" on the nanny's part nor did she treat the nanny with respect and decency. It works both ways.

My nanny loves to take photos and video, including some of us and the kids. I’ve had to remind her a few times that we value our privacy. I don’t fire her because I’ve learned that acting out of anger usually leads to less-than-desirable outcomes. Sounds like OP needs to line up a new job and give notice due to her overall dissatisfaction with the job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure you want to quit right before the holidays, OP? Do you not receive holidays off and an end of year bonus? Seems a bit foolish not to wait a bit longer if you’ve been there 10 years.

Agree, she should first take her earned benefits, then resign.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm an MB who never posts any photos on any social media, and I would be LIVID. That said, I don't know whether you have a legal right to privacy in this case; I know photos taken in public of you (or any of us) can be posted anywhere without permission, and I'm not sure if this would count as a "public place" for you or not.

The bigger issue seems to be that you can't agree on this with your boss/and she with you. I imagine there are other issues you should be communicating about and aren't--never a good employer-employee scenario.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For heaven's sake. This could very easily be a foolish lack of awareness on the employer's part.

The over reactions here are absurd.

Treat each other with respect and decency. Talk to each other if something concerns you. Do not leap to the worst possible intent - give people the benefit of the doubt.

If the world did more of that and less fuming about perceived injustices we'd all be a lot happier.

The employer would never have tolerated a "foolish lack of awareness" on the nanny's part nor did she treat the nanny with respect and decency. It works both ways.

My nanny loves to take photos and video, including some of us and the kids. I’ve had to remind her a few times that we value our privacy. I don’t fire her because I’ve learned that acting out of anger usually leads to less-than-desirable outcomes. Sounds like OP needs to line up a new job and give notice due to her overall dissatisfaction with the job.

02.58 here. If I had done that, I would have been fired immediately.