Where is this mythical nanny who is never on her phone?

[Anonymous]

I know my worth as a nanny. As one former employer often said, she couldn't do her job as well as she did, if she didn't have me to do my job as well as I did.

It's truly amazing how sheer honesty can work wonders for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It makes me sad to read threads like this, especially when it's obvious that the nanny who thinks nannies are "substitute mothers" is really only trying to hurt MBs and make them feel guilty for no other reason than to make herself feel more important. It's like pouring fuel on an unnecessary fire and making the nanny/MB dynamic even more contentious than it already is.

I'm a single mom with the DD who has had the same nanny, her only nanny, for the whole 5 years of her life. I've posted about her before. She is amazing. Her nanny is not her mother, but she is a valuable partner in the raising of my DD. She knows things about my child that I don't because she spends different hours with her and sees her in different settings and circumstances than I do. As a result, her input and insight is invaluable to me as I try to make the best parenting decisions I can make as her mother. I consider myself and DD incredibly lucky to have her as an important part of our team. She doesn't run the show, and I don't run the show. We are a kind of partnership, supported by teachers, friends, and other important people in DD's life, in bringing up the best kid possible.

Before anyone worries, I don't over rely on our nanny or blur the professional lines just because I'm a single mom. We have healthy boundaries and mutual respect. When the day comes that our nanny feels ready to move on, we will miss her terribly but support her, because that is what you do when you respect people.

Yes, I am actively engaged in the art of mothering and part of that engagement is to enlist and appreciate the talents and wisdom of our nanny.

Thank you for your post in response to mine. You are in the minority of MBs on this forum, in that you credit the nanny as a partner, of sorts. A good long-term nanny should have that distinction. Your child is truly blessed to have you both. Stability is so crucial during those first years of life, as you already know. Your child has already received what most others will never have. Your commitment is a real testament to your caring for your child.

[Anonymous]

Not all nannies are only there for a short period of time. You can have a long term relationship and make a lasting impact on their lives.

I was with the same family for 10 years full time and another 4 years part time. I have a wonderful relationship with the children (who are now 14, 15 1/2 and 17 1/2) and their parents. I don't live in the same state as them now, but go visit approximately 2-4 times a year. Love spending time with the "kids" doing fun things and just hanging around the family. My relationship with MB and DB has changed into more of a friendship now that I don't work for them.

I was never in charge or thought of myself as a substitute mother, but definitely a partner with MB and DB in raising the children. They both had complicated jobs that required a fair amount of travel, so I did spend a lot of time alone with the kids espcially as they got older.

I know not everyone is lucky enough to have a long term position like mine, but it is a special thing for children to have only 1 nanny for their entire lives MB and DB tell me frequently that my influence and dedication is one of the reasons that the kids have all turned out to be so fantastic.

[Anonymous]

My nanny doesnt have texting or internet on her phone (I wish she did though). She may take 1-3 calls a day from her kids or grandkids (who she has custody of) but thats it. And I work from home, so I see her pretty much all the time.

[Anonymous]

I am usually on cell to take pics/check texts every hour or so while out!

[Anonymous]

My phone stays in my bag while I am working, but I do use my ipad. Obviously not to text, but to listen to NPR or podcasts while siting with the baby. The ipad screen is turned off and it sits on the table. So it is basically a radio during waking hours. During naps I may get online or play a game. Otherwise, I am completely tech free.

[Anonymous]

What are you doing with the kids otherwise. I get so sick of interacting with my own family member's kids after a while. They can sit on the floor and play and be content. Or eat and be content. Is "being on your phone" code words for taking LSD or something? You're not in a different world, you're still right there.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny never uses her phone. Half the time she doesnt even bring it. During her interview I noticed that she had non-smart phone and the screen on it was cracked. I knew that was a good sign.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want that nanny caring for my child if she does in fact exist.

I want my nanny to have a portable cellular telephone on her since I do not have a landline in my home and I need a way to contact her either via text message or phone call in case of an emergency or if I have a question about something.

And a big plus is when she surprises me with an adorable picture of my sweet child smiling and enjoying his day with her.

Signed,

~A Mom Boss in 2015

The above nanny does have a cell phone - she said if she is ever talking or texting it is to her employers. And no one else. I would LOVE to hire that nanny!!!

I suggest you simply hire a wise nanny, who puts her charge first, but prevents self-isolation during a long workday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want that nanny caring for my child if she does in fact exist.

I want my nanny to have a portable cellular telephone on her since I do not have a landline in my home and I need a way to contact her either via text message or phone call in case of an emergency or if I have a question about something.

And a big plus is when she surprises me with an adorable picture of my sweet child smiling and enjoying his day with her.

Signed,

~A Mom Boss in 2015

The above nanny does have a cell phone - she said if she is ever talking or texting it is to her employers. And no one else. I would LOVE to hire that nanny!!!

I suggest you simply hire a wise nanny, who puts her charge first, but prevents self-isolation during a long workday.

Does any parent want to be isolated at her job for 50 hours a week?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want that nanny caring for my child if she does in fact exist.

I want my nanny to have a portable cellular telephone on her since I do not have a landline in my home and I need a way to contact her either via text message or phone call in case of an emergency or if I have a question about something.

And a big plus is when she surprises me with an adorable picture of my sweet child smiling and enjoying his day with her.

Signed,

~A Mom Boss in 2015

The above nanny does have a cell phone - she said if she is ever talking or texting it is to her employers. And no one else. I would LOVE to hire that nanny!!!

I suggest you simply hire a wise nanny, who puts her charge first, but prevents self-isolation during a long workday.

Does any parent want to be isolated at her job for 50 hours a week?

No.

[Anonymous]

Our former nanny never texted and did not have a smart phone. It was actually kind of annoying. She didn't use email or facebook either. Often hen I needed to reach her I had to call our house phone.

She was also 36yrs old, so maybe that had something to do with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our former nanny never texted and did not have a smart phone. It was actually kind of annoying. She didn't use email or facebook either. Often hen I needed to reach her I had to call our house phone.

She was also 36yrs old, so maybe that had something to do with it.

Yes, little troll. What every you say...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our former nanny never texted and did not have a smart phone. It was actually kind of annoying. She didn't use email or facebook either. Often hen I needed to reach her I had to call our house phone.

She was also 36yrs old, so maybe that had something to do with it.

You are a silly little girl.

[Anonymous]

So I feel if I'm paying a fortune for my phone I should be able to use it. No I don't ifno the children. I just use it at nap or if I'm out and need to send my boss a text.