Parents coming home late

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once my mb and db didn't get home until 3 am on a Friday night. I had started at 7 am and usually get off by 6 but after work they decided to do dinner and a movie. They said they would be home around 10 pm. They showed up at 3 am. I never called or texted and they didn't either. I literally thought they were dead. It was totally out of character. Thankfully they were just out at a karaoke bar. But 5 hrs late is ridiculous.

Why on earth didn’t you call or text them?!!

I would have called the police and given my notice when they walked in the door. What a bunch of dirtbags!

Call or text. No response? Call the emergency contact or CPS. I would assume there had been a serious issue.

[Anonymous]

My bosses literally never tell me when they’re coming home. It can be 7pm or 1am. But they pay $30/hr plus guarantee 40hrs when I only work 25-30. So I deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My bosses literally never tell me when they’re coming home. It can be 7pm or 1am. But they pay $30/hr plus guarantee 40hrs when I only work 25-30. So I deal with it.

So do you never make plans in the evening?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve only had chronic lateness with one family. I will never put up with it again. It did me no favors in keeping quiet and accepting their disrespect and total disregard. Lesson learned.

+1. It never pays off to let people walk on you to keep the peace. Like you, I learned this lesson the hard way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a situation when you're given a time frame when parents are supposed to be home, how much time do you give them before you start calling them? Do you call or do you just fume inside?

(And let's not turn this into evil MB always late and never pays me because yes, it's a given we should be paid for additional time and our time should be respected. We're talking when for whatever reason the parents are late without letting us know in advance).

They have a time to come home just as you have a time to arrive in morning. Are you habitually late? No . So why do you put up with them being late. I would not. Your MB may not be evil but she has no respect for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My bosses literally never tell me when they’re coming home. It can be 7pm or 1am. But they pay $30/hr plus guarantee 40hrs when I only work 25-30. So I deal with it.

So do you never make plans in the evening?

And what about your poor charges?! Aren’t they waiting for their parents or wonder where they are?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My bosses literally never tell me when they’re coming home. It can be 7pm or 1am. But they pay $30/hr plus guarantee 40hrs when I only work 25-30. So I deal with it.

So do you never make plans in the evening?

And what about your poor charges?! Aren’t they waiting for their parents or wonder where they are?

And this is how wealthy children get neglected by their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My bosses literally never tell me when they’re coming home. It can be 7pm or 1am. But they pay $30/hr plus guarantee 40hrs when I only work 25-30. So I deal with it.

So do you never make plans in the evening?

And what about your poor charges?! Aren’t they waiting for their parents or wonder where they are?

And this is how wealthy children get neglected by their parents.

Do you think this only happens with wealthy people? The parents who were always late were strictly middle class (and low rent).

[Anonymous]

Late fees and a 3 strike policy.

I knew people who just budgeted for late fees. The 3 lates and you're out policy set them back on their heels. They had a nanny quit after their third time being late. It took them six whole weeks to lose her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My bosses literally never tell me when they’re coming home. It can be 7pm or 1am. But they pay $30/hr plus guarantee 40hrs when I only work 25-30. So I deal with it.

So do you never make plans in the evening?

If I have something planned, I will ask if they will be late that day and usually they can give me an answer. Both parents are in the film industry so it’s not a normal job and I know they’re on set and can’t leave, not out shopping or whatever. I generally don’t make plans during the week unless the person is cool that I might have to cancel. Weekends I go out. It’s worth it to me for the pay,

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My bosses literally never tell me when they’re coming home. It can be 7pm or 1am. But they pay $30/hr plus guarantee 40hrs when I only work 25-30. So I deal with it.

So do you never make plans in the evening?

And what about your poor charges?! Aren’t they waiting for their parents or wonder where they are?

And this is how wealthy children get neglected by their parents.

That’s a terrible thing to say. As I wrote earlier, I’m paid for 40hrs but only usually work around 25 BECAUSE THE PARENTS ARE HOME WITH THEIR KIDS. They’re usually going out at night to events. The parents are wonderful and involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My bosses literally never tell me when they’re coming home. It can be 7pm or 1am. But they pay $30/hr plus guarantee 40hrs when I only work 25-30. So I deal with it.

So do you never make plans in the evening?

And what about your poor charges?! Aren’t they waiting for their parents or wonder where they are?

And this is how wealthy children get neglected by their parents.

That’s a terrible thing to say. As I wrote earlier, I’m paid for 40hrs but only usually work around 25 BECAUSE THE PARENTS ARE HOME WITH THEIR KIDS. They’re usually going out at night to events. The parents are wonderful and involved.

I think the point is more that if you don’t know if or when the parents will be home for bedtime, neither do the children. This is not good in any scenario, PP, regardless of whatever else good they do.

[Anonymous]

Okay so I have a FT job and one of my old nanny families asked very last minute if I could watch the kids overnight on a Friday while the parents went to a wedding. I agreed and asked what time they would be home on Saturday morning. They said 11, but didn’t end up getting home until 1:30. I made it VERY CLEAR that I had something important to go to at 12. So they were 2.5 hours late and gave no reason.

I told them that while I love their kids, I won’t be able to watch them again since the parents clearly do not respect my time. I am an adult with a career, responsibilities, and a life - I was doing this more as a favor than anything else. If you want someone older/more experienced/more responsible to watch your littles overnight, you should expect that arriving that late will have consequences. I strongly suggest all of you other sitters to stick up for yourself in a similar way (6 hours late?! Um, no)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay so I have a FT job and one of my old nanny families asked very last minute if I could watch the kids overnight on a Friday while the parents went to a wedding. I agreed and asked what time they would be home on Saturday morning. They said 11, but didn’t end up getting home until 1:30. I made it VERY CLEAR that I had something important to go to at 12. So they were 2.5 hours late and gave no reason.

I told them that while I love their kids, I won’t be able to watch them again since the parents clearly do not respect my time. I am an adult with a career, responsibilities, and a life - I was doing this more as a favor than anything else. If you want someone older/more experienced/more responsible to watch your littles overnight, you should expect that arriving that late will have consequences. I strongly suggest all of you other sitters to stick up for yourself in a similar way (6 hours late?! Um, no)

I agree with everything you said except calling children "littles"! What the hell are littles? Children are not littles!