DC co-op duty

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are the people who are against having the nanny go to co-op okay with the parents cutting the nanny's hours and pay during the time the child and parent are at the co-op? Somehow, I think not. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

I'm completely okay with that. I would quit, but I don't think its unfair. It doesn't make sense to pay someone for a bunch of hours they aren't working, and I wouldn't expect it. I also don't subscribe to the idea that as kids get older, I need to become a housekeeper/personal assistant. Makes more sense to me for both sides to accept that nanny jobs aren't forever, and part ways when the job is no longer necessary?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are the people who are against having the nanny go to co-op okay with the parents cutting the nanny's hours and pay during the time the child and parent are at the co-op? Somehow, I think not. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

Good luck keeping a nanny while doing that. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

So, what would you suggest? Keep the nanny full-time or full-time day care as the only options.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are the people who are against having the nanny go to co-op okay with the parents cutting the nanny's hours and pay during the time the child and parent are at the co-op? Somehow, I think not. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

Good luck keeping a nanny while doing that. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

So, what would you suggest? Keep the nanny full-time or full-time day care as the only options.

I don't care what you do. I was pointing out thy you risk losing your nanny of you cut her hours.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are the people who are against having the nanny go to co-op okay with the parents cutting the nanny's hours and pay during the time the child and parent are at the co-op? Somehow, I think not. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

Good luck keeping a nanny while doing that. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

So, what would you suggest? Keep the nanny full-time or full-time day care as the only options.

I notice you only respond to the stupid post. What about the other answer to your question?

[Anonymous]

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Are the people who are against having the nanny go to co-op okay with the parents cutting the nanny's hours and pay during the time the child and parent are at the co-op? Somehow, I think not. You can't have your cake and eat it too.



Good luck keeping a nanny while doing that. You can't have your cake and eat it too.


So, what would you suggest? Keep the nanny full-time or full-time day care as the only options.


I don't care what you do. I was pointing out thy you risk losing your nanny of you cut her hours.

There are many more nannies than jobs. This risk is a phantom risk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Are the people who are against having the nanny go to co-op okay with the parents cutting the nanny's hours and pay during the time the child and parent are at the co-op? Somehow, I think not. You can't have your cake and eat it too.



Good luck keeping a nanny while doing that. You can't have your cake and eat it too.


So, what would you suggest? Keep the nanny full-time or full-time day care as the only options.


I don't care what you do. I was pointing out thy you risk losing your nanny of you cut her hours.

There are many more nannies than jobs. This risk is a phantom risk.

Are you so callous toward everything/everyone that matters to your child? Yes there are more nannies out there, but you have one that knows your job, your family, and presumably has bonded with your kid. That is not as replaceable as you think. If any nanny will do for you, then yes, change them like you change pants.

[Anonymous]

everyone needs to calm down. we have a nanny who volunteered to do co-op duty for us. we thanked her but told her that most of the schools we applied for don't allow it. a few did. we were attracted to the co-op b/c we want to be involved and meet other kids/parents; however, i know that not all parents have the flexibility and doesn't make me think less of those parents.

as it is, it looks like the only option for next fall is a co-op that requires you to volunteer but not for your child's classroom. I told DH to sign us up for the rate where we don't co-op. i didn't see the point in taking leave and not being able to co-op in DD's class, nor would we send our nanny b/c what would any of us get out of that arrangement.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Are the people who are against having the nanny go to co-op okay with the parents cutting the nanny's hours and pay during the time the child and parent are at the co-op? Somehow, I think not. You can't have your cake and eat it too.



Good luck keeping a nanny while doing that. You can't have your cake and eat it too.


So, what would you suggest? Keep the nanny full-time or full-time day care as the only options.


I don't care what you do. I was pointing out thy you risk losing your nanny of you cut her hours.

There are many more nannies than jobs. This risk is a phantom risk.

Are you so callous toward everything/everyone that matters to your child? Yes there are more nannies out there, but you have one that knows your job, your family, and presumably has bonded with your kid. That is not as replaceable as you think. If any nanny will do for you, then yes, change them like you change pants.

A "bond" with a caregiver is not equal to one of a parent or family member that will be life long. Nannies are replaceable just like any other employee. Just the same with any job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Are the people who are against having the nanny go to co-op okay with the parents cutting the nanny's hours and pay during the time the child and parent are at the co-op? Somehow, I think not. You can't have your cake and eat it too.



Good luck keeping a nanny while doing that. You can't have your cake and eat it too.


So, what would you suggest? Keep the nanny full-time or full-time day care as the only options.


I don't care what you do. I was pointing out thy you risk losing your nanny of you cut her hours.

There are many more nannies than jobs. This risk is a phantom risk.

Are you so callous toward everything/everyone that matters to your child? Yes there are more nannies out there, but you have one that knows your job, your family, and presumably has bonded with your kid. That is not as replaceable as you think. If any nanny will do for you, then yes, change them like you change pants.

A "bond" with a caregiver is not equal to one of a parent or family member that will be life long. Nannies are replaceable just like any other employee. Just the same with any job.

So yes. The answer is yes. You don't give two shits about how it would affect your kid, or the people they care about. Parent of the year right here, ladies and gents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Are the people who are against having the nanny go to co-op okay with the parents cutting the nanny's hours and pay during the time the child and parent are at the co-op? Somehow, I think not. You can't have your cake and eat it too.



Good luck keeping a nanny while doing that. You can't have your cake and eat it too.


So, what would you suggest? Keep the nanny full-time or full-time day care as the only options.


I don't care what you do. I was pointing out thy you risk losing your nanny of you cut her hours.

There are many more nannies than jobs. This risk is a phantom risk.

Are you so callous toward everything/everyone that matters to your child? Yes there are more nannies out there, but you have one that knows your job, your family, and presumably has bonded with your kid. That is not as replaceable as you think. If any nanny will do for you, then yes, change them like you change pants.

A "bond" with a caregiver is not equal to one of a parent or family member that will be life long. Nannies are replaceable just like any other employee. Just the same with any job.

When a child's caregiver is with the child over 75% of his waking hours, that child has just as strong an attachment to the caregiver as he does to a parent. It's insulting that you put the word bond in quoations.
That bond is very, very real to your child.

[Anonymous]

Putting their child in the coop, cut the nanny's hours and pay, and send her to do duty day is exactly what's my boss is doing to me. I'm really unhappy right now as it is very hard for me to fill in the mornings with another job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Putting their child in the coop, cut the nanny's hours and pay, and send her to do duty day is exactly what's my boss is doing to me. I'm really unhappy right now as it is very hard for me to fill in the mornings with another job.

Kids need socialization in a structured environment. I don't agree with cutting your hours but I would probably try to shift them to make it work better for everyone. Don't like the co-op. Quit, find a new job. Simple. It is a part of your job requirement. Many of us do things at work we don't care to do but that is what they pay us for.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Are the people who are against having the nanny go to co-op okay with the parents cutting the nanny's hours and pay during the time the child and parent are at the co-op? Somehow, I think not. You can't have your cake and eat it too.



Good luck keeping a nanny while doing that. You can't have your cake and eat it too.


So, what would you suggest? Keep the nanny full-time or full-time day care as the only options.


I don't care what you do. I was pointing out thy you risk losing your nanny of you cut her hours.

There are many more nannies than jobs. This risk is a phantom risk.

Are you so callous toward everything/everyone that matters to your child? Yes there are more nannies out there, but you have one that knows your job, your family, and presumably has bonded with your kid. That is not as replaceable as you think. If any nanny will do for you, then yes, change them like you change pants.

A "bond" with a caregiver is not equal to one of a parent or family member that will be life long. Nannies are replaceable just like any other employee. Just the same with any job.

When a child's caregiver is with the child over 75% of his waking hours, that child has just as strong an attachment to the caregiver as he does to a parent. It's insulting that you put the word bond in quoations.
That bond is very, very real to your child.

Please keep telling yourself that you are far more important than the parents. This is a caretaker. Caretakers come and go. Family and parents are the stability.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Are the people who are against having the nanny go to co-op okay with the parents cutting the nanny's hours and pay during the time the child and parent are at the co-op? Somehow, I think not. You can't have your cake and eat it too.



Good luck keeping a nanny while doing that. You can't have your cake and eat it too.


So, what would you suggest? Keep the nanny full-time or full-time day care as the only options.


I don't care what you do. I was pointing out thy you risk losing your nanny of you cut her hours.

There are many more nannies than jobs. This risk is a phantom risk.

Are you so callous toward everything/everyone that matters to your child? Yes there are more nannies out there, but you have one that knows your job, your family, and presumably has bonded with your kid. That is not as replaceable as you think. If any nanny will do for you, then yes, change them like you change pants.

A "bond" with a caregiver is not equal to one of a parent or family member that will be life long. Nannies are replaceable just like any other employee. Just the same with any job.

When a child's caregiver is with the child over 75% of his waking hours, that child has just as strong an attachment to the caregiver as he does to a parent. It's insulting that you put the word bond in quoations.
That bond is very, very real to your child.

Please keep telling yourself that you are far more important than the parents. This is a caretaker. Caretakers come and go. Family and parents are the stability.

I never said a caretaker's bond with a child is more important than the parents'.
I simply stated that a child will develop an emotional bond to any person who meets his needs.
Why so nasty?