I'm a gay nanny!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB who doesn't think my 4 year old is ready to understand same sex relationships. When he is older I would like to be the one to explain to him about different types of families and loving everyone while also teaching him our family's view about what kind of relationships we feel are appropriate and why. I would have no problem if I found out my nanny was gay and I would not want her to feel like she has to lie to keep a job. I think if the kids are asking lots of questions about your personal life and you have a hard time being honest, but vague, then you need to bring it up to MB and ask how she would like it handled. I would be upset with my nanny if she took on my son's first exposure to the whole idea of "some men love women and some women love women," etc. If you are a good nanny I hope you would understand that and not be offended or think I am attacking your lifestyle.

I'm glad you have decided what your son is allowed to think is "appropriate"...but no judgement, right?

Wow.. It is HER son, not yours and she has every right to decide what is right for her son and what is not. She may decide that she wants to expose her sons to only certain things at a certain age. You can be gay all you want but there is no need to force your devil may care attitude on others. People are ALLOWED to have an opinion twit.

Why are you being so rude? Unless she keeps her kid in a bubble, he's likely going to be exposed to it at a young age and not exactly when you had planned - sorry, just the reality.

[Anonymous]

I think you should not hide it. I think you should let the mother know. If they find it unacceptable for any reason you don't want to work for someone who doesn't support what is right and who you are. Kids need to be introduced to it at a young age so they can learn to understand it and think its normal as it should be. But the only issue is if it indeed hurts your relationship with the family or your job it won't be comfortable anymore and this is your means of living. But as someone else said there are many families who'd love to have you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB who doesn't think my 4 year old is ready to understand same sex relationships. When he is older I would like to be the one to explain to him about different types of families and loving everyone while also teaching him our family's view about what kind of relationships we feel are appropriate and why. I would have no problem if I found out my nanny was gay and I would not want her to feel like she has to lie to keep a job. I think if the kids are asking lots of questions about your personal life and you have a hard time being honest, but vague, then you need to bring it up to MB and ask how she would like it handled. I would be upset with my nanny if she took on my son's first exposure to the whole idea of "some men love women and some women love women," etc. If you are a good nanny I hope you would understand that and not be offended or think I am attacking your lifestyle.

I'm glad you have decided what your son is allowed to think is "appropriate"...but no judgement, right?

Wow.. It is HER son, not yours and she has every right to decide what is right for her son and what is not. She may decide that she wants to expose her sons to only certain things at a certain age. You can be gay all you want but there is no need to force your devil may care attitude on others. People are ALLOWED to have an opinion twit.

Why are you being so rude? Unless she keeps her kid in a bubble, he's likely going to be exposed to it at a young age and not exactly when you had planned - sorry, just the reality.

Because it is NOT your place to tell her what she can and can't do with her own son. Shame on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB who doesn't think my 4 year old is ready to understand same sex relationships. When he is older I would like to be the one to explain to him about different types of families and loving everyone while also teaching him our family's view about what kind of relationships we feel are appropriate and why. I would have no problem if I found out my nanny was gay and I would not want her to feel like she has to lie to keep a job. I think if the kids are asking lots of questions about your personal life and you have a hard time being honest, but vague, then you need to bring it up to MB and ask how she would like it handled. I would be upset with my nanny if she took on my son's first exposure to the whole idea of "some men love women and some women love women," etc. If you are a good nanny I hope you would understand that and not be offended or think I am attacking your lifestyle.

I'm glad you have decided what your son is allowed to think is "appropriate"...but no judgement, right?

Wow.. It is HER son, not yours and she has every right to decide what is right for her son and what is not. She may decide that she wants to expose her sons to only certain things at a certain age. You can be gay all you want but there is no need to force your devil may care attitude on others. People are ALLOWED to have an opinion twit.

Why are you being so rude? Unless she keeps her kid in a bubble, he's likely going to be exposed to it at a young age and not exactly when you had planned - sorry, just the reality.

Because it is NOT your place to tell her what she can and can't do with her own son. Shame on you.

I never purported to tell her what she can and can't do. I'm just pointing out that her son's exposure to certain things in life might not fit in the neat box she would like it to. When you're at Target and your kid see a same sex couple holding hands or kissing and asks why, that's when the lesson will happen. Again, if you're that anti-same sex, you're going to have to keep your kid confined or - GASP - he will be exposed to other lifestyles. If that's a devil-may-care attitude, so be it. It's reality.

[Anonymous]

I think you should not hide it. I think you should let the mother know. If they find it unacceptable for any reason you don't want to work for someone who doesn't support what is right and who you are. Kids need to be introduced to it at a young age so they can learn to understand it and think its normal as it should be. But the only issue is if it indeed hurts your relationship with the family or your job it won't be comfortable anymore and this is your means of living. But as someone else said there are many families who'd love to have you.

[Anonymous]

Some kids are exposed to it from early on, and not by the nanny. Our next door neighbors were a family with two dads. Thinking you can control this may not be so. Now my kids know that some families have two dads, and some have two moms, and some have a dad and a mom (like their family). You know what message they are getting? That children should have stable two-parent families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an MB who doesn't think my 4 year old is ready to understand same sex relationships. When he is older I would like to be the one to explain to him about different types of families and loving everyone while also teaching him our family's view about what kind of relationships we feel are appropriate and why. I would have no problem if I found out my nanny was gay and I would not want her to feel like she has to lie to keep a job. I think if the kids are asking lots of questions about your personal life and you have a hard time being honest, but vague, then you need to bring it up to MB and ask how she would like it handled. I would be upset with my nanny if she took on my son's first exposure to the whole idea of "some men love women and some women love women," etc. If you are a good nanny I hope you would understand that and not be offended or think I am attacking your lifestyle.

I'm glad you have decided what your son is allowed to think is "appropriate"...but no judgement, right?

Wow.. It is HER son, not yours and she has every right to decide what is right for her son and what is not. She may decide that she wants to expose her sons to only certain things at a certain age. You can be gay all you want but there is no need to force your devil may care attitude on others. People are ALLOWED to have an opinion twit.

I'm the pp you are responding to. I have no problem with a parent deciding what their child is exposed to, I was merely pointing out the hypocrisy of her assertion that she wasn't attacking anyone's "lifestyle". To me, if you are deeming something inappropriate, that's a pretty blatant attack/judgement and one that I would have to right to be offended by. Everyone is ALLOWED to have an opinion but perhaps we could question our opinions that hurt and de-humanize others.

[Anonymous]

Everyone has judgements. She who claims she doesn't, is well, you know.....

[Anonymous]

I love how people throw out things from the Bible without knowing the Bible.

A parent has the right to keep their children from things they do not feel to be appropriate. If a parent does not want their children exposed to thinking it is ok to be gay, that is the parents choice. OP has the choice to live her lifestyle, parents have the right not to expose their children to it.

[Anonymous]

You absolutely have the right to use a 2000 year old book to justify your homophobia. Go ahead, teach your kids to condemn others for what they cannot change. I'm sure it will make them better people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone has judgements. She who claims she doesn't, is well, you know.....

Does anyone here claim to make no judgements?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You absolutely have the right to use a 2000 year old book to justify your homophobia. Go ahead, teach your kids to condemn others for what they cannot change. I'm sure it will make them better people.

Not your business. And people do NOT have to accept the gay lifestyle. Some feel it is a sin and that it is immoral. If they chose to life that lifestyle then they chose the judgement. I feel bad for the child exposed to that gay lifestyle. Keep sinning and people will keep judging as they have every right to do.

[Anonymous]

OP makes lots of judgements to, apparently.

[Anonymous]

Too*

And I'm not OP.

[Anonymous]

I just love the way people call you judgemental, as is they weren't.