Junk Food Nanny...Part II. [UPDATE] OMG!

[Anonymous]

She made one or two good points but she's goosed in thinking that because her current child doesn't care what she's eating that no child dates what their nanny eats. I've had charges that would eat my entires lunch if I let them.

[Anonymous]

I just ate a fried bologna sandwich with fried onions, white bread and slathered with Hellman's original mayonnaise. Had a big gulp coke, french fries with gobs of ketchup and dessert is going to be either Key Lime pie with vanilla ice cream or brownie with walnuts.and double fudge icing also with vanilla ice cream

Let me guess..you're one of the overweight nannies on the other thread claiming how you are healthy while skinny nannies are not. You are also claiming that your obesity is from a medical condition not your eating habits or lack of exercise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I just ate a fried bologna sandwich with fried onions, white bread and slathered with Hellman's original mayonnaise. Had a big gulp coke, french fries with gobs of ketchup and dessert is going to be either Key Lime pie with vanilla ice cream or brownie with walnuts.and double fudge icing also with vanilla ice cream

Let me guess..you're one of the overweight nannies on the other thread claiming how you are healthy while skinny nannies are not. You are also claiming that your obesity is from a medical condition not your eating habits or lack of exercise.

Not pp, but you are aware that there are people out there who weigh a 'normal' weight and able to eat non healthy food often right? Because I am one of them. I'm sure I have high cholesterol but just an fyi.

[Anonymous]

I believed your original post 95% but after reading your update I'm getting this feeling that you're creating stories. If not then I apologize but also, you could have updated in your original thread instead of creating two of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From the responses received here, it is obvious that people are either for or against something which most certainly clouds their judgement.

I am a nanny who also brings her lunch to work. My employers are Muslims and do not eat meat. However I cannot even fathom what kind of lunch I would bring that didn't contain some meat. Primarily my sandwiches since I do not like cheese or PB & J, etc. While my boss is against killing animals for human consumption on a personal level, she allows me to bring turkey or chicken sandwiches to work. Trust me, her 6 + 8 yr old sons do not sit at the table salivating over my lunch. They happily eat their spicy rice dishes and could care less what the hell I am eating.

For this woman to actually think her kids will be affected by a nanny who munches on Cheetos or Pringles or whatever, etc. is just ludicrous. Kids could care less what their nanny eats. As long as they have their lunches in front of them, they are good. If a child asks about the nanny's lunch, all she has to say is "This is Nanny's lunch and that is your lunch," and leave it at that.

I disagree with this. Kids don't care quite so much about real types of food that they don't like or have never had a chance to eat themselves, but it is a different story when it is something like a sugary treat. My charges won't ask for my beef when I am eating it, because they either don't like it or don't eat it often enough for them to remember the taste of it and want it. One of them likes french fries and the other does not. So while one wouldn't care if I ate them for lunch, the other child WOULD want some of them as well. With sugary foods, I can say that no matter if the kid gets to eat treats like that on a regular basis or just rare occasions, if they saw me eating a piece of cake or a bowl of ice cream, they would want some as well. They might have better manners than to actually ask for some, but at least 7/10 times they would be thinking that they want some and if offered would take me up on that offer. Even if not that hungry or wanting a lot of it, they would go ahead and take a few bites before leaving the rest forgotten.

So while the kids might be happy eating their spicy rice while you eat your sandwich instead, I think that you are wrong to think that most kids wouldn't be affected by a nanny who eats cheetos or oreos with her lunch, while the kids are sitting with her and watching.

While I do agree that saying that is your lunch, and they have theirs, is what it comes down to, you really aren't teaching the kids any good healthy eating decisions when you eat snacks like that in front of them instead of making some healthy snack choices of your own as well. Kids will learn in time that once they are adults, they can choose to make any kind of decision they want to, but this is the time to try and model good eating habits for them, so that they will KEEP making good choices later in life when it *is* totally up to them.

[Anonymous]

Wow....I cannot believe you guys are siding with the mother here. Just because her kids see someone else eating something she doesn't want her kids to eat, you guys think it is okay for the mother to discipline the nanny vs. the children.

Who are the adults here? Who are the authority figures here? By this MB telling the nanny to NOT eat certain foods she finds unacceptable is catering BIG time to her kids.

Kids need to be taught that they cannot have everything they want. If they see their nanny eating potato chips with her lunch, and ask for some, they need to be told that they cannot have that to eat because their mother doesn't allow it. Plain and simple.

This mother is chicken to discipline her own kids. Instead of teaching them values, etc. she opts to focus everything on Ms. Nanny.

It is the MOTHER'S job here to teach her kids that in life, there will be many times where they will see something they want. And there will be many times that they will not be able to have everything just because their hearts desire it.

That's like a person talking to a grocery store manager and asking him to please stop displaying toys in the cereal aisle or checkout. It would be stupid to complain about the toys creating a problem since when your kids see it, they start to ask for it and/or fuss, etc.
As a parent your job is to parent your child. Teach him restraint, etc.

This mother is obviously a horrible mother.
She is too scared to tell her sons that what the nanny eats is her business and that all that matters to her is that they are well-taken care of by her every day.
Instead she is trying to take the easy road and ask the nanny to switch her lunch choices up because in her head that is much easier than dealing w/two young kids who will cry and fuss just because they see something they want but cannot have.

I shudder to think that some of you parents would do the same as this MB.
Grow a spine and tell your kids "No" every now and then.
Society will thank you later when it is run by adults who do not have self-entitlement issues. Isn't that a common complaint these days with our youth?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
That's like a person talking to a grocery store manager and asking him to please stop displaying toys in the cereal aisle or checkout. It would be stupid to complain about the toys creating a problem since when your kids see it, they start to ask for it and/or fuss, etc.
As a parent your job is to parent your child. Teach him restraint, etc.

They actually do have kid-friendly checkout lanes that don't stock candy...

Kids are kids. You are a nanny, right? For a while? Because you can teach your kids the best behavior from the day they are born until they are 18 and there will STILL be meltdowns and tantrums and they will still act out, because that is what they do. They test the world around them, they test the adults around them, and their growing brains are still working on emotional regulation and self-control.

I think a mom asking her nanny to model certain eating behaviors to minimize this struggle on a day-to-day basis is fine. I think asking the nanny to do all the other things OP listed is absolutely insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
That's like a person talking to a grocery store manager and asking him to please stop displaying toys in the cereal aisle or checkout. It would be stupid to complain about the toys creating a problem since when your kids see it, they start to ask for it and/or fuss, etc.
As a parent your job is to parent your child. Teach him restraint, etc.

They actually do have kid-friendly checkout lanes that don't stock candy...

Kids are kids. You are a nanny, right? For a while? Because you can teach your kids the best behavior from the day they are born until they are 18 and there will STILL be meltdowns and tantrums and they will still act out, because that is what they do. They test the world around them, they test the adults around them, and their growing brains are still working on emotional regulation and self-control.

I think a mom asking her nanny to model certain eating behaviors to minimize this struggle on a day-to-day basis is fine. I think asking the nanny to do all the other things OP listed is absolutely insane.

I agree completely with this post and think the previous one saying that the mom is to afraid to say no to her children is WAY off base. Why make every day a battle? It's ludicrous to compare shopping in a grocery store to exposing the kids to what the nanny eats every day, possibly multiple times a day. Do you go to the grocery store every day?

For starters, the way to teach your children healthy eating habits isn't by saying "because I said so." So when your children are little they will listen to you if you make them little robots who have to do what their parents say without any understanding of the reason why. If you want them to grow up and continue to make healthy choices you need to teach them WHY eating healthy is good and the most important part of that is leading by example. If you just tell them no to everything without their understanding when they are old enough they will just stop listening to you. Even more so if you say no but continue to show them an opposite example by what you do.

Example: This morning DS who is 2 1/2 started rocking back and forth in his booster seat. I told him "I don't want you to do that because the chair could tip over and you could fall on your head." And guess what happened? He stopped doing it. But what if I had told him not to do that but was rocking back and forth in my own chair? How much do you think he would have listened then? Of course he might have listened to me in that moment because I said so but when I wasn't around he might have done it again. Now he knows WHY he shouldn't do it.

Sometimes you just have to say "no" but if it's possible it's always better to explain things and teach by example.

[Anonymous]

OP is obviously a troll and a sock puppet.

The issue is simply that the nanny and the MB don't share the same values. The nanny has a bad attitude and doesn't wish to change her bad behavior to a more acceptable one that suits her job.

Nanny should be fired because it isn't a good fit. End of story

[Anonymous]

I agree with the poster who stated that us adults do way too much these days to accommodate children. As a child, I would see my parents eat and drink certain things that were simply off-limits to me. I grew up knowing that as a child, my parents were in charge of me and if they didn't allow me to eat or drink certain things, then I didn't whether I liked it or not.

Part of the excitement of becoming a grown-up was the fact that my parents could no longer mandate my eating choices.

I talked to my boss about this and she laughed.
Why you may ask?
We are in a similar situation ourselves.
She teases me about my unhealthy lunches. She thinks I eat too many carbs and consume too much dairy and don't eat enough green vegetables and fresh fruit.
I sometimes bring a Subway sandwich, chips & a soda and sometimes I bring a Lunchable if I only have time to grab that. When she opens the fridge and sees my lunches, she always teases me and asks where is the fresh broccoli. If I do eat fresh carrots, I usually bring ranch dip which I get teased about as well.

She prepares her child's lunch the night before and her child eats more of a balanced lunch than I do.
But my MB knows I am a grown adult and am entitled to eat what I choose to eat.
She KNOWS that what I eat does not negatively impact her own child in any way, shape or form.

When my charge asks me what Jello is for instance, I just tell her it is my lunch and that this is what I am eating today and that what she is eating is what her lunch is today.
Not ONCE has she ever asked to try anything I eat.
Actually since it's so foreign to her, she thinks it all looks gross anyway. She thinks my Jello looks "bouncy."

Anyway, you cannot shield your kids forever.
Someday they will be exposed to worse things than Hot Cheetos. Trust me.

[Anonymous]

It is obvious OP that most of us are in agreement that your boss is a nut case.

I like the above poster's statement that in their lifetimes, those children will be exposed to things worse than Cheetos.

If this mother would just stop stressing about the "little" things in life, I am sure she would have a better quality of life. She is major Type A personality.

[Anonymous]

OP, you should find another job. Make sure you ask the parents in the interview if they mind whether you eat hot Cheetos and Lunchables in front of the kids. If they are uncomfortable, you will know that the job is not for you.

[Anonymous]

While i dont agree with her MB, i am still trying to.wrap my head around.the fact that a grown woman chooses to eat lunchables!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While i dont agree with her MB, i am still trying to.wrap my head around.the fact that a grown woman chooses to eat lunchables!!

I am forty seven and I love Lunchables!!

Esp. the newer healthier ones.

If I am short on time in the morning, I grab one of my son's out of the fridge and eat it at my desk for lunch.

My co~workers tease me but at least they know I originally bought them for my kid.

However once he outgrows them or moves out, I will still buy them!!

No shame!`

[Anonymous]

Oh my gosh! Your boss is INSANE. I feel like I always see both sides, like I could imagine where the other person is coming from but I think she just is controlling to the point that she is an unhealthy person.