I was offended and disappointed by our nanny:

[Anonymous]

Dh and I have two kids under 7 years old. Our kids are very picky eaters and we just feed them what they want and worry about things later. Nanny last day was last Friday. This is our third nanny in five years and she lasted five months. I received a email today from our nanny reasons why she is no longer working for us.

1. Kids are too loud
2. Kids diet is terrible
3. Too strict on technology
4. Kids eat too much ( poopy diapers 3 a day)
5. Cry too much and not Discipline
6. I didn’t sign up for parents to be home all day ( my job gave us a opportunity to work from home)
7. Kids are too sickly( cold, diaper rash and etc)

I was upset when I read it and my husband said, just ignore it and etc.

[Anonymous]

Your Nannh was trying to give you advice. You should take it.

[Anonymous]

Troll game weak

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I have two kids under 7 years old. Our kids are very picky eaters and we just feed them what they want and worry about things later. Nanny last day was last Friday. This is our third nanny in five years and she lasted five months. I received a email today from our nanny reasons why she is no longer working for us.

1. Kids are too loud
2. Kids diet is terrible
3. Too strict on technology
4. Kids eat too much ( poopy diapers 3 a day)
5. Cry too much and not Discipline
6. I didn’t sign up for parents to be home all day ( my job gave us a opportunity to work from home)
7. Kids are too sickly( cold, diaper rash and etc)

I was upset when I read it and my husband said, just ignore it and etc.

Yeah, your household sounds like chaos. Good luck finding another experienced nanny to put up with all that, and with a parent home all day to boot? LOL.

And what does “we feed them what they want and worry about things later” mean? That sounds like terrible, lazy parenting. When exactly is “later?”

[Anonymous]

Post this on r/nanny. It's a Reddit page. You will get more replies then this page. I agree with your nanny and you should take her advice. You're going to keep going through nannies if this keeps up.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP.. to hear that. But if I were your nanny; I would have quit aswell.

First of all; Healthy habits it's very important to me and the way that I would care for your children. And letting me eat junk food and only snacks; whenever they want, doing tantrums for that, complaining and whining and all the time calling "mommy, daddy... help to save me? Nanny it's being so bad and so mean with me" And you always going the rescue? No way.

Second; if you both are working for home? Are you the ones who are all the time popping in and popping out? Interrupting nanny's job, making her work very stressful and harder and always watching me every single word-do "micromanaging" and hanging around at it was Saturday or Sunday? (Besides it's so uncomfortable) And both of you don't work or doesn't have in Private Home offices, without a door. I would move on too.

Third. Who don't want to run away like it it was a 5K race? With a couple of kids misbehaved, rude, unrespectful, yelling at their nanny, kids who don't want to listen bcs "mommy and daddy are here". And parents Do not do nothing to discipline their own kids. Don't have any rules, hit, punch, scream, yell, lie and doing tantrums and crying all day long. What a nightmare. Me, NO thanks.

To me; those are the super Red Flags and I will quit immediately.

I'm glad for your Nanny. She was smart. I guess this position was so draining and awful experience for her.

[Anonymous]

You can't be offended and disappointed; only because your nanny was very honest with you about her leaving. It really seems a very difficult Position; working in that environment very stressful.

You have to keep in mind that part of this was also you and husband probably working in common spaces; interrupting her routine; she being watched every single step etc, when you don't give her; her space and don't let her take the lead and charge and autonomy with your children. For what I read; I'm guessing that you have not learned yet how to work from home; when you have a nanny. And the fact that your children seems to be very difficult and misbehaved. Everything, all the points that Nanny describe; sorry but I believe her.

I'm sure I would quit too. Just you have to be grateful for having someone who told you What's feel working for you.

Good luck and good luck for all the nannies who probably try to give it a try. Honestly; I wouldn't take a position like this; as your Family, environment and habit it wouldn't be a good fit for me.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you have some serious parenting issues to work on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I have two kids under 7 years old. Our kids are very picky eaters and we just feed them what they want and worry about things later. Nanny last day was last Friday. This is our third nanny in five years and she lasted five months. I received a email today from our nanny reasons why she is no longer working for us.

1. Kids are too loud
2. Kids diet is terrible
3. Too strict on technology
4. Kids eat too much ( poopy diapers 3 a day)
5. Cry too much and not Discipline
6. I didn’t sign up for parents to be home all day ( my job gave us a opportunity to work from home)
7. Kids are too sickly( cold, diaper rash and etc)

I was upset when I read it and my husband said, just ignore it and etc.

You're lucky to have had only 3 nannies in five years. It is easy to see why she quit. If the truth upsets you, tough.

[Anonymous]

I was about to comment the same; for a Family who has had 3 nannies already, it's not a good to be proud of. That certainly it's not a good sign at all. Probably you have never wanted to see the real reasons why every single nanny have left.

Good for this nanny.

[Anonymous]

Why on earth would the nanny send that email? Was she genuinely trying to give you helpful advice? What a weird thing to do unsolicited.

I would either (1) ignore or (2) write back with all the ways she could improve her own nanny game, since she’s into unsolicited advice.

On the other hand if she wrote down stuff that you should work on, then go for it! There’s no such thing as perfect parents, we are all works in progress. (There’s also no such thing as a perfect nanny… except for the ones posting here, of course)

[Anonymous]

1. Kids are too loud

They’re kids. Has she been to a playground? Childrens museum? Are your kids feral or something?

2. Kids diet is terrible

The only reason she should care is if it affects her work (ie are they wired from sugar all day? Crashing from carbs?). Why would she care whether they’re eating chicken nuggets versus kale salad for dinner? Are your kids obese?

3. Too strict on technology

No screen time? I could definitely see that as a dealbreaker depending on your situation. But yeah if you’re paying her well and it’s only two kids, she shouldn’t have to plop them down in front of a TV.

4. Kids eat too much ( poopy diapers 3 a day)

Again, are your kids obese? Some kids poop 3x / day, it is what it is.

5. Cry too much and not Discipline

Ok yeah that’s a valid reason to quit.

6. I didn’t sign up for parents to be home all day ( my job gave us a opportunity to work from home)

Seems like this could be worked out but ok

7. Kids are too sickly( cold, diaper rash and etc)

Sounds pretty standard for kids.

[Anonymous]

Yup. 2 of those is doable. All of them especially working from home and no discipline is a no go. And im an employer. Had 2 amazing nannies in 6 years. First one left to care for her first grandchild or she would have stayed. The one year DH worked from home he didn't bother the kids or nanny at all except designated lunch walk time.
Seems its all connected. Bad diet snd lack of discipline means kids are loud and unruly. Irregular bowel movements and frequent poops can lead to more opportunities for diaper rash. Picky and carb centric diet without enough fruit and veg can lead to kore colds and other issues especially if kids were not taught to wash hands and blow noses well.

[Anonymous]

You are what you eat.

Poor food choices lead to higher incidences of hormonal and auto-immune disorders, as well as elevated heart disease and cancer risks.

It's not just about obesity (which is why intense sports for kids do not replace a healthy diet). It's about hormone disruptors and accumulation of cell injury and toxicity due to toxic molecules present as additives, or formed secondarily through high heat or other processing (like that used to produce potato chips, for example).

Please be a real parent. If there are special needs, evaluate, diagnosed and treat. Do your job.

[Anonymous]

You’ve had 3 nannies in 5 years.

OP look deep into you and your husband— this is the root of all troubles