Employers are habitually late.

[Anonymous]

I’ve worked for this family for nearly a year and have adjusted my end time twice to accommodate their lateness but they still don’t arrive home on time. She is ten to 15 minutes late frequently but he is always exactly seven minutes late every time it’s his turn to come home first and always has. When my quitting time was 4:30 he arrived at 4:37. When I extended my day to 5:00, he arrived at 5:07. Now it’s 5:15 and he arrived at 5:22. And it’s really starting to piss me off! It’s like a power play with him. She is just a disorganized mess but sometimes is home on time.

I have mentioned it to them several times. I don’t want to be paid more. I want to go home.

For the record, I have never once been late to work.

It’s just disrespectful, isn’t it?

[Anonymous]

What does your contract say? Mine has that I can be charged a late fee by the minute if it is a repeated problem

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does your contract say? Mine has that I can be charged a late fee by the minute if it is a repeated problem

OP here. Lateness isn’t in my contract but I could certainly bring up a late fee and they’d pay it but wouldn’t change. It’s not about the money. I hate their disrespect.

[Anonymous]

I would suggest letting them know that unless they have an objection, you're moving the end time back to the original time. Then, I would suggest mentally adding the extra time, and don't get talked into extending again.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it’s clearly a power-play from the father. He is asserting dominance. The mother is just rude and self-centered.

Please think about leaving this job. People like that will never change and will screw you in the end (no matter what cost to themselves or their child). Ask me how I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it’s clearly a power-play from the father. He is asserting dominance. The mother is just rude and self-centered.

Please think about leaving this job. People like that will never change and will screw you in the end (no matter what cost to themselves or their child). Ask me how I know.

+1

[Anonymous]

Op, they are in breach of contract. If your end time is 5pm, they should be walking in the door by 4:55pm if they expect a verbal run down on the day.

I had an employer like that and the dad was late almost every day, even when I decided to extend my time, he was still late. Eventually I gave my noticed because they turned into you know what and I could no longer stand to help people like that.

I would address it or give notice. They expect you to be on time, so you should be given the same courtesy. I didn’t want extra money either, I wanted to be relieved on-time.

[Anonymous]

What if you had an appointment one day - hair, gym class, dinner with old friend, babysitting job for someone else.... Tell them you have to be out by 5 exactly to get to your next thing. See.if it makes a difference. If they are still late knowing that you have somewhere to be, look for a new job

[Anonymous]

Can you imaging the responses if the situation were reversed and the nanny was habitually late in spite of changing her start time to accommodate her?

Quit, OP. It’s not going to get better. They’re jerks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you imaging the responses if the situation were reversed and the nanny was habitually late in spite of changing her start time to accommodate her?

Quit, OP. It’s not going to get better. They’re jerks.

+1. The cries from DCUM to “fire her!” Would be deafening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you imaging the responses if the situation were reversed and the nanny was habitually late in spite of changing her start time to accommodate her?

Quit, OP. It’s not going to get better. They’re jerks.

+1. The cries from DCUM to “fire her!” Would be deafening.

Seems like plenty of people are on the nanny’s side, pp.

[Anonymous]

Wow, the Dad Boss sounds like a piece of work!!

It is totally unacceptable what they are doing to you.

Definitely speak up.
If they continue doing this - then find a new family for sure.

[Anonymous]

They are both horrible people and they will screw you over in the end. See this total disrespect as a red flag and start looking for another job now. They are only going to get worse and you’ll get more attached to the child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve worked for this family for nearly a year and have adjusted my end time twice to accommodate their lateness but they still don’t arrive home on time. She is ten to 15 minutes late frequently but he is always exactly seven minutes late every time it’s his turn to come home first and always has. When my quitting time was 4:30 he arrived at 4:37. When I extended my day to 5:00, he arrived at 5:07. Now it’s 5:15 and he arrived at 5:22. And it’s really starting to piss me off! It’s like a power play with him. She is just a disorganized mess but sometimes is home on time.

I have mentioned it to them several times. I don’t want to be paid more. I want to go home.

For the record, I have never once been late to work.

It’s just disrespectful, isn’t it?

It is most definitely disrespectful!! Let them now that you have a life too!! WTF!! I hate when employers do that!!

[Anonymous]

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