My nanny just really upset me

[Anonymous]

My nanny has worked for us for 8 years. We have three kids in elementary school. We have a good relationship. She started working for us when another family that she worked for had kids that had gotten to middle school/high school age and didn’t need a nanny anymore. She still works for that family one day a week doing housework and laundry and she works for us the remainder of the week.

My husband and I both are working full time from home and are lucky to have kept our jobs. We are both heavily involved in handling the COVID crisis for our respective companies and it’s been stressful. We recognize we’re lucky to have jobs and be getting paid. We’re strictly observing social distancing other than our nanny, who we literally need so that we can keep our jobs. My youngest is a kindergartner and needs adult care.

Anyway, my nanny came in this morning and told me that she’s so lucky because her other family told her not to come in for two weeks and they’re paying her anyway. I felt it was a clear hint that we should do something similarly. I told her immediately that I was sorry we couldn’t do that for her, but that I needed her to work so that I can keep my job. She said she understood she was lucky to have a job and we were all lucky to have jobs. But I can’t help but feel like she was hinting that she wanted paid time off when I’m at the one of the worst points in terms of my own workload.

It would be a totally different thing if any of us were even a whiff of sick or if we weren’t strictly observing social distancing. However, I don’t think there is any real fear of getting sick driving her here. I think it’s wanting to get paid for not working.

[Anonymous]

Hey nanny here
It could have just meant she’s excited and wanted to share with you
Plus- it’s good for you at least you know she’s not bringing germs from other family into your house
She should be lucky she still has a job, most nannies don’t

[Anonymous]

For you to automatically jump that conclusion about a woman that has been devoted to helping to raise and bond with your children for EIGHT YEARS speaks to your character OP. She was probably just simply giving you the info because it’s an update on her life and it’s good for you to know she won’t be in contact with them also which is good for your family.


Everyone is concerned right now. There’s so much we don’t know about covid still so it’s natural to be weary whenever you have to leave the house for anything. Unless she asks to be off with no pay, be appreciative that she is still willing to come and get off of your high jumping conclusions horse.

[Anonymous]

I hope she quits. You sound impossible. Furthermore, you should be paying her twice her salary because every day by coming to your house she is putting her own health at risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope she quits. You sound impossible. Furthermore, you should be paying her twice her salary because every day by coming to your house she is putting her own health at risk.

She could minimize her risk further by refusing to come. She might not get paid but oh well..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nanny has worked for us for 8 years. We have three kids in elementary school. We have a good relationship. She started working for us when another family that she worked for had kids that had gotten to middle school/high school age and didn’t need a nanny anymore. She still works for that family one day a week doing housework and laundry and she works for us the remainder of the week.

My husband and I both are working full time from home and are lucky to have kept our jobs. We are both heavily involved in handling the COVID crisis for our respective companies and it’s been stressful. We recognize we’re lucky to have jobs and be getting paid. We’re strictly observing social distancing other than our nanny, who we literally need so that we can keep our jobs. My youngest is a kindergartner and needs adult care.

Anyway, my nanny came in this morning and told me that she’s so lucky because her other family told her not to come in for two weeks and they’re paying her anyway. I felt it was a clear hint that we should do something similarly. I told her immediately that I was sorry we couldn’t do that for her, but that I needed her to work so that I can keep my job. She said she understood she was lucky to have a job and we were all lucky to have jobs. But I can’t help but feel like she was hinting that she wanted paid time off when I’m at the one of the worst points in terms of my own workload.

It would be a totally different thing if any of us were even a whiff of sick or if we weren’t strictly observing social distancing. However, I don’t think there is any real fear of getting sick driving her here. I think it’s wanting to get paid for not working.

You spent four long paragraphs on this nonsense? Evidently, you are neither as busy or as important as you claim you are!

[Anonymous]

Get over yourself, OP. You’re being absolutely ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Not everything is about you...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself, OP. You’re being absolutely ridiculous.

+1

[Anonymous]

OP here. You all are right. My reaction was selfish. I just really felt she was hinting that she wanted to get paid for not working. However, now that a few hours have passed, my head is back on straight.

[Anonymous]

OP
Don’t listen to all these nasty comments
People are very nasty
You’re not selfish
It shows that you care
Not having gotten upset would have been selfish
Most nannies still work
At least be happy that you and your nanny still have jobs and an income!

[Anonymous]

I’m jealous of all my friends that have weeks off work while still being paid. I’m working so much it’s ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. You all are right. My reaction was selfish. I just really felt she was hinting that she wanted to get paid for not working. However, now that a few hours have passed, my head is back on straight.

Plus she was telling you that her one day a week job is off. I'm sure she doesn't expect to have her five day week job off with pay. I'm a nanny and there are so many social, financial and ethical ramifications between going and not going to work my head is spinning right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nanny has worked for us for 8 years. We have three kids in elementary school. We have a good relationship. She started working for us when another family that she worked for had kids that had gotten to middle school/high school age and didn’t need a nanny anymore. She still works for that family one day a week doing housework and laundry and she works for us the remainder of the week.

My husband and I both are working full time from home and are lucky to have kept our jobs. We are both heavily involved in handling the COVID crisis for our respective companies and it’s been stressful. We recognize we’re lucky to have jobs and be getting paid. We’re strictly observing social distancing other than our nanny, who we literally need so that we can keep our jobs. My youngest is a kindergartner and needs adult care.

Anyway, my nanny came in this morning and told me that she’s so lucky because her other family told her not to come in for two weeks and they’re paying her anyway. I felt it was a clear hint that we should do something similarly. I told her immediately that I was sorry we couldn’t do that for her, but that I needed her to work so that I can keep my job. She said she understood she was lucky to have a job and we were all lucky to have jobs. But I can’t help but feel like she was hinting that she wanted paid time off when I’m at the one of the worst points in terms of my own workload.

It would be a totally different thing if any of us were even a whiff of sick or if we weren’t strictly observing social distancing. However, I don’t think there is any real fear of getting sick driving her here. I think it’s wanting to get paid for not working.

Sounds more like she was worried about not knowing the exposure of the other family, especially since she’s only there one day per week. Now, she’s letting you know that her circle has closed a bit more.

[Anonymous]

I think that your Nanny just wanted to let you know that by no longer working for the other family, she now will have less exposure to other people.