Few concerns

[Anonymous]

I work from home a bit lately and so obviously get to see the interaction between my nanny and son more. I am a little concerned by what I have observed.

1. Nanny never contributes to the conversations when I am there (Between me and son) and seems bored and uneasy.
2. Son was playing a 'Target shooting' type game and Nanny did not want to join in even though I suggested it. She said she had hurt her hand but it seemed fine.
3. Even when watching him play, Nanny did not seem enthusiastic and did not speak much to my son or encourage him.

She has known me for a long time so it shouldn't be an issue of shyness. When I returned to work and sat in the other room, things seemed better as in they played a board game and wrote a story together but I do worry more now after the points I have mentioned as she does come across as disinterested and bored at times. I know I will be accused of micromanaging but I am in reality, just a slightly worried Mom.

[Anonymous]

You are going to be lookingng for a new nanny very soon. You are vs nightmare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are going to be lookingng for a new nanny very soon. You are vs nightmare.

vs should be are.

[Anonymous]

What does she do while your son is having his playtime?

[Anonymous]

1. I don’t join in most conversations between my charges and their parents. Why would I insert myself?
2. I don’t play shooting games, ever. If I play video games with kids, there’s something constructive to them.
3. If a child is old enough to play first person shooting games, they don’t need to be constantly engaged. If they’re talking with me, great. If not, I’m walking away.

[Anonymous]

I don’t play shooting games with children. As someone who has been shot it is something I refuse to do. I have no problem with children playing them but I will not engage. I have a bullet inside me.

[Anonymous]

You hired a Nanny to look after your son so that you can work.

So let her do her job.
You shouldn’t be listening to them all day long.
Doesn’t sound like you spend much time working

Your Nanny deserves 100% autonomy & you are not letting her enjoy her right to it.

Sorry if this sounds harsh.
It isn’t meant to, but you really need to start working or you will be forced to secure another nanny for your child.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

These are rude responses to what sounds like a worried mom . Your nanny should absolutely be engaged with your son he deserves that .
Maybe she doesn’t want to play a shooting game fine but other games yes . And you have a right to observe your nanny as she’s with your child !
If this continues address it with her and if you’re not happy after that move on . Lots of nannies out there .

[Anonymous]

Yes it just concerns me that she doesn't speak when we are all together and her lack of involvement and enthusiasm in the game she didn't want to do. Even if she just spoke with him and encouraged him, it would have been good but she didn't.

OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes it just concerns me that she doesn't speak when we are all together and her lack of involvement and enthusiasm in the game she didn't want to do. Even if she just spoke with him and encouraged him, it would have been good but she didn't.

OP.

I suspect there is a lot more to this story and part of it is that she cannot stand you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes it just concerns me that she doesn't speak when we are all together and her lack of involvement and enthusiasm in the game she didn't want to do. Even if she just spoke with him and encouraged him, it would have been good but she didn't.

OP.

20.02 again. Like 21.16, I was shot. I don’t find it entertaining, nor do I think it’s an appropriate pastime for a child. The games are rated NC-17 for a reason.

I don’t like first person shooter games. I will NEVER play them. Nor will I sit there and encourage a child to do something I believe is detrimental.

Whether a nanny has been shot or not doesn’t matter. It’s not an innocuous game like SimCity or Rollercoaster Tycoon. If the nanny refused to play those and wouldn’t encourage your child, you’d have more nannies here agreeing that you might have a dud.

[Anonymous]

Nothing you wrote in your post would have made me think negatively of your nanny. You are overthinking it.

Is your child happy to see your nanny? If your child is old enough to play a board game, you can ask your child if he likes the nanny.

[Anonymous]

You .... want your nanny to encourage your child to pretend to shoot things? And .... compliment him when he does?

Lady, you're the one with the problem.

[Anonymous]

You expect your nanny to gush over your child shooting targets with you staring at her and making notes as to how she interacts?
It sounds incredibly awkward for her. Hope she finds a better job soon.

[Anonymous]

If she's engaged when playing board games and writing then that's great. I don't know why you would expect her to sit next to him and be a cheerleader while he's playing a video game. I would never do that for my kids. And it's politeness that keeps her from inserting herself into a conversation between mother and son.