Nanny asking for money after quitting

[Anonymous]

Our nanny quit a few weeks ago. It was a nanny share, and she chose to stay with the other family, and quit from working with us. She gave us 2 weeks notice originally, although extended to 3 weeks notice, although our contract asked for 30 days.

We were rushing to find other care, and eventually as we got closer to the end of the 3 weeks, we asked if she'd be willing to work the rest of the 30 days in case we couldn't find other care before then. She said yes. Luckily, we found other care, and were able to honor her 3 weeks request, and move on. We thought everything was done with her.

Now she is contacting us asking for money. Even though the other family from the share is paying her full-time, she is asking for money from us to finish out the 30 days. It's ironic because she didn't even remember the 30 day part of the contract until we reminded her of it.

So even though she wanted to quit with only 2 weeks notice originally, now she wants 30 days of pay even though she's still being paid full-time by the other family! If we had known she felt this way, we would have waited to start our other care after the 30 days. But we were rushing to meet her needs.

We feel stressed by her continuing to contact us, and worried about her taking things further. Any suggestions?

[Anonymous]

She quit, therefore you only owe for the days worked, you don't owe payment for a notice unless you terminate the contract.

[Anonymous]

You may owe her the money, OP. You contracted to have her work for those days and it seems right that you pay her. I know it sort of sucks but you and the nanny made an agreement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You may owe her the money, OP. You contracted to have her work for those days and it seems right that you pay her. I know it sort of sucks but you and the nanny made an agreement.

Agreed. Even at normal jobs, if you tell your employer you’re giving them two weeks notice, they have to pay you for those two weeks even if they ask you to not work your notice. This happened to me at an accounting position because they weren’t comfortable having an employee writing checks who would be leaving the company. They issued me a check for two weeks of pay and all wages owed and gave it to me on my last day. I think she could take you to small claims court if you don’t pay her. Also, are you sure she is working for the other family during this time period? When I left one nanny job for a new one, my old boss asked me to extend my notice from three weeks to four, and I asked my new family if that was ok with them. They arranged for other childcare until I could start fulltime. If my boss had said she no longer wanted me to work my notice, I would’ve be out of work until the new job started on the arranged date.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely do not pay her. She quit on you. You do not owe her additional pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You may owe her the money, OP. You contracted to have her work for those days and it seems right that you pay her. I know it sort of sucks but you and the nanny made an agreement.

Agreed. Even at normal jobs, if you tell your employer you’re giving them two weeks notice, they have to pay you for those two weeks even if they ask you to not work your notice. This happened to me at an accounting position because they weren’t comfortable having an employee writing checks who would be leaving the company. They issued me a check for two weeks of pay and all wages owed and gave it to me on my last day. I think she could take you to small claims court if you don’t pay her. Also, are you sure she is working for the other family during this time period? When I left one nanny job for a new one, my old boss asked me to extend my notice from three weeks to four, and I asked my new family if that was ok with them. They arranged for other childcare until I could start fulltime. If my boss had said she no longer wanted me to work my notice, I would’ve be out of work until the new job started on the arranged date.

OP here. We did pay her for the 3 weeks she asked for, and she is getting paid full-time by the other family currently. We just didn't pay her past the 3 weeks she asked for that she stopped watching him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely do not pay her. She quit on you. You do not owe her additional pay.

This, she needs to work it out with the other family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You may owe her the money, OP. You contracted to have her work for those days and it seems right that you pay her. I know it sort of sucks but you and the nanny made an agreement.

Agreed. Even at normal jobs, if you tell your employer you’re giving them two weeks notice, they have to pay you for those two weeks even if they ask you to not work your notice. This happened to me at an accounting position because they weren’t comfortable having an employee writing checks who would be leaving the company. They issued me a check for two weeks of pay and all wages owed and gave it to me on my last day. I think she could take you to small claims court if you don’t pay her. Also, are you sure she is working for the other family during this time period? When I left one nanny job for a new one, my old boss asked me to extend my notice from three weeks to four, and I asked my new family if that was ok with them. They arranged for other childcare until I could start fulltime. If my boss had said she no longer wanted me to work my notice, I would’ve be out of work until the new job started on the arranged date.

No, they can terminate you on the spot. Or, pay for the two weeks you work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She quit, therefore you only owe for the days worked, you don't owe payment for a notice unless you terminate the contract.

No, no. OP asked her to stay on for the 30 days. Immaterial that she did need her. She owes her.

[Anonymous]

I do think you owe her for the time you agreed to. You and she agreed to extend her employ. You have to meet the terms of your agreement. It has nothing to do with the other family or what she is being paid. You and this nanny entered into an agreement and you have to honor it.

-MB here

[Anonymous]

I would not pay. She terminated with little notice. She was asked to continue because the OP needed time to find care. It was crappy of the nanny and family to do that to them. New family pays full salary so its should be a non-issue.

[Anonymous]

Since the Nanny quit & you found someone competent to replace her, you do not owe her a red cent.

Sure you did ask her if you didn’t secure care if she would assist your family & she said she would.
However being that you ended up not needing her - does not mean that you owe her for hours not worked.

Your former Nanny is contacting you only for the purpose of a $$ money grab.
Tell her you will not give her any more money.
And if she continues to harass you, get help from your city.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny quit a few weeks ago. It was a nanny share, and she chose to stay with the other family, and quit from working with us. She gave us 2 weeks notice originally, although extended to 3 weeks notice, although our contract asked for 30 days.

We were rushing to find other care, and eventually as we got closer to the end of the 3 weeks, we asked if she'd be willing to work the rest of the 30 days in case we couldn't find other care before then. She said yes. Luckily, we found other care, and were able to honor her 3 weeks request, and move on. We thought everything was done with her.

Now she is contacting us asking for money. Even though the other family from the share is paying her full-time, she is asking for money from us to finish out the 30 days. It's ironic because she didn't even remember the 30 day part of the contract until we reminded her of it.

So even though she wanted to quit with only 2 weeks notice originally, now she wants 30 days of pay even though she's still being paid full-time by the other family! If we had known she felt this way, we would have waited to start our other care after the 30 days. But we were rushing to meet her needs.

We feel stressed by her continuing to contact us, and worried about her taking things further. Any suggestions?

So you are talking about one week’s pay?

The nanny didn’t want to give you 30 days but she did finally work three weeks and give you the last week, completing her commitment. If I understand this correctly, yes -you absolutely owe her the last week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny quit a few weeks ago. It was a nanny share, and she chose to stay with the other family, and quit from working with us. She gave us 2 weeks notice originally, although extended to 3 weeks notice, although our contract asked for 30 days.

We were rushing to find other care, and eventually as we got closer to the end of the 3 weeks, we asked if she'd be willing to work the rest of the 30 days in case we couldn't find other care before then. She said yes. Luckily, we found other care, and were able to honor her 3 weeks request, and move on. We thought everything was done with her.

Now she is contacting us asking for money. Even though the other family from the share is paying her full-time, she is asking for money from us to finish out the 30 days. It's ironic because she didn't even remember the 30 day part of the contract until we reminded her of it.

So even though she wanted to quit with only 2 weeks notice originally, now she wants 30 days of pay even though she's still being paid full-time by the other family! If we had known she felt this way, we would have waited to start our other care after the 30 days. But we were rushing to meet her needs.

We feel stressed by her continuing to contact us, and worried about her taking things further. Any suggestions?

I feel so bad for your nanny. She tried to give you the standard notice, which is two weeks. (Sorry parents who disagree, but two weeks is standard for any job!) She was nice enough to work with you and extend her notice to three weeks, and to extend it AGAIN, then you found someone and cancel on her for the last week of her notice. And you phrase that as you, “were able to honor her 3 week request.” Three weeks was never her request, it was yours, then you asked for a month. Way to end a relationship with your nanny on a terrible note! And over what? One week’s pay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny quit a few weeks ago. It was a nanny share, and she chose to stay with the other family, and quit from working with us. She gave us 2 weeks notice originally, although extended to 3 weeks notice, although our contract asked for 30 days.

We were rushing to find other care, and eventually as we got closer to the end of the 3 weeks, we asked if she'd be willing to work the rest of the 30 days in case we couldn't find other care before then. She said yes. Luckily, we found other care, and were able to honor her 3 weeks request, and move on. We thought everything was done with her.

Now she is contacting us asking for money. Even though the other family from the share is paying her full-time, she is asking for money from us to finish out the 30 days. It's ironic because she didn't even remember the 30 day part of the contract until we reminded her of it.

So even though she wanted to quit with only 2 weeks notice originally, now she wants 30 days of pay even though she's still being paid full-time by the other family! If we had known she felt this way, we would have waited to start our other care after the 30 days. But we were rushing to meet her needs.

We feel stressed by her continuing to contact us, and worried about her taking things further. Any suggestions?

I feel so bad for your nanny. She tried to give you the standard notice, which is two weeks. (Sorry parents who disagree, but two weeks is standard for any job!) She was nice enough to work with you and extend her notice to three weeks, and to extend it AGAIN, then you found someone and cancel on her for the last week of her notice. And you phrase that as you, “were able to honor her 3 week request.” Three weeks was never her request, it was yours, then you asked for a month. Way to end a relationship with your nanny on a terrible note! And over what? One week’s pay?

Their contract required 30 days notice. Nanny did not honor that.
Since when is two weeks enough? People are constantly jumping all over employers when they only want to give their nanny two weeks' notice, yet when a nanny only gives two weeks it's fine? Double standard. No.

Contract was 30 days.
Nanny gave 2 weeks.
Family asked to make it 3 weeks.
Nanny said yes.
Family was scrambling and asked if nanny could possibly push it to 4 weeks if it was necessary.
Nanny said yes.
Family found care and did not need the additional week.

Family does NOT owe nanny more money.