Replacing new nanny with someone else

[Anonymous]

We had a new nanny start a little over a month ago for my 5 year old and 1.5 year old and for whatever reason the kids haven’t really taken to her. My older one has asked a few times if we can get a different nanny and simply says that the new nanny isn’t nice or fun like the old nanny. Truthfully I think our old nanny was better at juggling two kids in very different phases because the younger one is a handful which can mean the older doesn’t always get as much attention. DH and I discussed looking for someone new but decided we would wait it out a little more.

Anyway, my cousin just texted me last week to let us know they are looking for a new home for their nanny of 8 years and she wanted to see if we are interested. We have all known this nanny for a long time and my kids already think she is great. My older one in particular has spent a decent amount of time with her and really likes her. This nanny also does more housekeeping than our current nanny which would certainly be helpful. While we weren’t going to make any changes so soon we also don’t want to pass someone amazing like this up.

DH and I talked again and now want to replace our current nanny with my cousin’s nanny but we feel really bad letting our current nanny go out of the blue. In the end we feel like this is the best decision for our family and our kids’ happiness is the most important thing. Any advice for the best way to handle this in the nicest way possible? Thinking we should let her go on a Friday and have the new nanny start the following week, vs giving her two weeks notice which would be more awkward and I would be concerned about how she would handle the kids if she is really pissed/angry.

[Anonymous]

Are you going to pay severance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you going to pay severance?

Was thinking of offering 2 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Your current nanny is simply not the right nanny for your family and your children’s happiness and welfare is the most important factor.

However, a month’s severance is minimum when letting an employee go as your current nanny most likely turned down other positions to accept your job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your current nanny is simply not the right nanny for your family and your children’s happiness and welfare is the most important factor.

However, a month’s severance is minimum when letting an employee go as your current nanny most likely turned down other positions to accept your job.

And yes, let her go on Friday with the month’s severance and promise of a good reference.

[Anonymous]

Your child simply missed the old nanny and he is going to say anything with the hope the old nanny will come back. He will do the same if you change
I know, because I did the same when I was young and had my favorite care giver leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your current nanny is simply not the right nanny for your family and your children’s happiness and welfare is the most important factor.

However, a month’s severance is minimum when letting an employee go as your current nanny most likely turned down other positions to accept your job.

Really - a month’s severance for someone who has worked for us for 5 weeks? That seems pretty crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your current nanny is simply not the right nanny for your family and your children’s happiness and welfare is the most important factor.

However, a month’s severance is minimum when letting an employee go as your current nanny most likely turned down other positions to accept your job.

Really - a month’s severance for someone who has worked for us for 5 weeks? That seems pretty crazy.

Not crazy at all considering she passed up other jobs to take yours and her job search begins again. You do owe I to her, OP. One day to one year service deserves a month’s severance unless otherwise stated in your contract when she is being fired for things out of her control. This nanny did nothing wrong.

-MB

[Anonymous]

How about three wks. of severance & call it a day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about three wks. of severance & call it a day?

Just be fair. One month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your current nanny is simply not the right nanny for your family and your children’s happiness and welfare is the most important factor.

However, a month’s severance is minimum when letting an employee go as your current nanny most likely turned down other positions to accept your job.

Really - a month’s severance for someone who has worked for us for 5 weeks? That seems pretty crazy.

Not crazy at all considering she passed up other jobs to take yours and her job search begins again. You do owe I to her, OP. One day to one year service deserves a month’s severance unless otherwise stated in your contract when she is being fired for things out of her control. This nanny did nothing wrong.

-MB

Nope. Totally crazy to give anything more than one week of severance. This is why DH and I put new employees on probation their first three months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your current nanny is simply not the right nanny for your family and your children’s happiness and welfare is the most important factor.

However, a month’s severance is minimum when letting an employee go as your current nanny most likely turned down other positions to accept your job.

Really - a month’s severance for someone who has worked for us for 5 weeks? That seems pretty crazy.

Not crazy at all considering she passed up other jobs to take yours and her job search begins again. You do owe I to her, OP. One day to one year service deserves a month’s severance unless otherwise stated in your contract when she is being fired for things out of her control. This nanny did nothing wrong.

-MB

Nope. Totally crazy to give anything more than one week of severance. This is why DH and I put new employees on probation their first three months.

NP here. I am assuming you put a three month probation into your contract as well as the nanny being able to leave with no notice during the first three months. OP didn’t. Nor would I ever accept such a contract.

One month severance is customary and fair when letting someone go without fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your current nanny is simply not the right nanny for your family and your children’s happiness and welfare is the most important factor.

However, a month’s severance is minimum when letting an employee go as your current nanny most likely turned down other positions to accept your job.

Really - a month’s severance for someone who has worked for us for 5 weeks? That seems pretty crazy.

Not crazy at all considering she passed up other jobs to take yours and her job search begins again. You do owe I to her, OP. One day to one year service deserves a month’s severance unless otherwise stated in your contract when she is being fired for things out of her control. This nanny did nothing wrong.

-MB

Nope. Totally crazy to give anything more than one week of severance. This is why DH and I put new employees on probation their first three months.

And why you clearly go through so many employees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your current nanny is simply not the right nanny for your family and your children’s happiness and welfare is the most important factor.

However, a month’s severance is minimum when letting an employee go as your current nanny most likely turned down other positions to accept your job.

Really - a month’s severance for someone who has worked for us for 5 weeks? That seems pretty crazy.

Firing a woman because you found someone your four year old might like better sounds crazy.

You owe her at least a month. This nanny fulfilled her duties to the best of her ability and accepted your job offer in good faith (turning down other jobs no doubt). You owe her a full month at least. She has only worked for you for five weeks because you are letting her go.

[Anonymous]

Please give her severance OP. Nanny here, who was also let go from a new position after 6 weeks. For no fault of my own. Their old nanny's new job didn't work out so she decided she wanted to come back. I was even told everything was going great about a week or two before this happened. It was devastating. To think things are good, starting to bond with the kids, and making plans of fun things to do, and then have the rug pulled out from under you. I did get 2 weeks severance but it still sucks. Now I am starting my job search from scratch and at a bad time of the year. This was an after school job (I have a morning family), so all those jobs are filled now that it's October. They really screwed me.