Ugh

[Anonymous]

I’ve been a nanny for over 20 years. I currently nanny for a 4 year old who happens to be special needs as well as a 2 year old. I’ve been with the kids for 3 years. I was blindsided today. The parents asked if I would take a pay cut. The reason being is because their reno was more expensive. I’m livid not to mention feel disrespected. Has anyone had this happen?

[Anonymous]

No, in all honesty I haven’t however I would be really miffed if my employers asked me to do this for such an outrageous reason!!

Why don’t they instead try to negotiate the reno cost w/their contractor.

Why the Nanny?
Do they really think so much more of their home then the person who cares for their precious (+ special needs) children so they can go to work and afford to live in a nice, updated home?

So sorry OP - -
I wouldn’t accept unless they can offer you a benefit or two that would sweeten the pot.

• Use of family washer & dryer for your clothing.
• Monthly gym membership.
• More Paid Time Off (PTO) and/or add’l vacation days.
Etc.

Otherwise, it would entirely up to you.
But it is highly likely that you will have to leave & find another family to work with.

Either way, I am just so sorry they asked this of you.
Unfair, inconsiderate and just plain lacking any tact.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, OP. You need to find another position. Obviously you turn them down and get ready for their bad attitude.

[Anonymous]

Oh thank y’all! I’m so annoyed .. it’s so demeaning honestly. I just can’t deal with it.. I’m hurt for various reasons.

[Anonymous]

They’re not trying to offend you, just to make their budget work. You say you understand but your bills have not changed, so you’re unable to accept.

[Anonymous]

sounds fake

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:sounds fake

I wish it was fake. However, it’s not.

[Anonymous]

Start looking for a new job, OP. This is completely unacceptable as well as insulting. I don’t see how you could stay in your current job.

Give your notice according to your contract and get out of there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been a nanny for over 20 years. I currently nanny for a 4 year old who happens to be special needs as well as a 2 year old. I’ve been with the kids for 3 years. I was blindsided today. The parents asked if I would take a pay cut. The reason being is because their reno was more expensive. I’m livid not to mention feel disrespected. Has anyone had this happen?

O would have told them HELL NO! I we oukd be looking for a new job without delay. They cannot afford you.

[Anonymous]

I would not accept and immediately start looking for a new position. Depending on the relationship, I may be honest about my thoughts and how I now need to consider the security of this position in terms of my future. Do you plan to stay or look for a new position? How long had you planned to stay with this family prior to this request?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not accept and immediately start looking for a new position. Depending on the relationship, I may be honest about my thoughts and how I now need to consider the security of this position in terms of my future. Do you plan to stay or look for a new position? How long had you planned to stay with this family prior to this request?

I plan on being blunt “under no terms can I accept a pay cut”. We will see what happens from there. I’m low key looking for a position if they are hell bent on the pay cut. The confusing part of this is after I was informed about the cut, DB says,”I don’t want to put them in daycare”. But thinking about it now it could just be a guilt trip type of thing. Before the Reno, it was discussed I’d stay on until the younger child went to kindergarten.

[Anonymous]

Regardless of their response to your ultimatum, start looking for another job. They are unethical and stunningly unappreciative.

[Anonymous]

I know the feeling as this actually HAS happened to me, to an extent. The family I was working for (3 kids, 5, 3, and 9 months) was sending their 5 year old to kindergarten and asked if I could take a pay cut for the hours he wouldn’t be home. I would still be responsible for his laundry, sick days, packing lunch, pickup, drop off, etc. but they wanted to cut me back down to my previous 2-kid pay. I told them I understood where they were coming from but since I would still be responsible for him to a certain extent it didn’t feel right not to be compensated for that. They “understood” but kept trying to nickel and dime me from there, which I had never had a problem with from them. I quit about 6 months later and if I hadn’t been with them for nearly 5 years it would’ve been a lot sooner than that. It’s so unfortunate, OP, but it will probably continue, even if you don’t accept and they seem ok with it right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry, OP. You need to find another position. Obviously you turn them down and get ready for their bad attitude.

So sorry OP. Say no and look for another job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh thank y’all! I’m so annoyed .. it’s so demeaning honestly. I just can’t deal with it.. I’m hurt for various reasons.

Demeaning is the right word. They are asking you to contribute to the reno.