Quitting advice I’m desperate

[Anonymous]

Hello,
I wanted to quit with my nanny family. They were very nice before. Therefore, I wanted to do the same with them. Just few examples, the mom was home and didn’t need someone until one month later. I was coming sometimes for few hours or less than 10 hours but they were paying me. So, I started to clean up their home, doing the family laundry every day, baking and cooking at least two or three times a week. The problem is, the DD has a brother who had kids so they started to giving me the kids ( 2) without paying me. Doing the brother groceries and so. Before, I started they ask me if I’m comfortable doing play date with his brother’s kids I said “yes” without knowing that they don’t have a nanny or I’m the one will stay with all 4 kids. Also, the family ‘s Parents come every month or other month. They told me that when their parents are around I would be off but no. Their parents eat left everything in the counter for me to clean up. They went into the fridge put everything out and make me clean it or the pantry. I have to do the family closet too. The family ate and leave in the counter. They cook over the week and left all the pots for me to clean it. Before, I was doing it to be fair because they could tell me to come twice or three times a week but they were paying me. I don’t like to take advantage on people to receive money without working. However, it was one kid and the mb was pregnant. Now she is pregnant again with the third one. They also have a dog that I have to take for a walk once a day. They said if they travel I’m off but they want me to come in the morning to drop the dog to the sitter and clean their home. They supposed to have a cleaner who have to come every two week but they said when they travel she hasn’t come and I need to clean their home. I’m very resentful because I think it’s disrespectful to just throw things on me. I feel I’m working for two families for the pay of one. I was flexible because I lost my mom two years ago and they gave me two weeks off so I really wanted to show them how grateful I was. Sorry, for the typo and the spelling I speak Spanish. The mb grew up in Spain so she doesn’t really mind for the English because I speak Spanish to her and the kids. I need some advices how to quite without any drama and stay in the good relation with them for the kids. Also, they had a nanny who quit before me because she said nobody would take advantage of her and she is not a maid or housekeeper. Their old nanny friend told me that at the playground when I just started with them. It has been 3 years now I’m working for them.
Thank you all for your time and all the grammar mistakes.

[Anonymous]

Whew! Girl get the HELL out of there and fast. They were not being nice at the beginning, they were lulling you into a false sense of security and paying you a retainer to keep you on board. Your kindness has been stretched beyond and just tell them it’s not a good match after all and you tell them you will be quitting with 2 weeks notice.

[Anonymous]

You don't have to give a reason. Just tell them you've decided to move on, and your last date will be ___________.

[Anonymous]

Thank you all for replying! I was just wondering if I’m doing the right things. Thank you ?

[Anonymous]

My first response is generally to ask if you have had a conversation with them; I’m guessing that you have not. I always think that is the first step, with a hope the reset the professional relationship.

On the other hand, they have been taking advantage of you in so many ways, that I honestly do not know how you can possibly reset that. I absolutely think that you are doing the right thing. So many families take advantage of immigrants tans that is exactly what is happening here. I think you should give notice and move on. Have you found a new position?

[Anonymous]

Of course you are lol!
Just because they gave you time off because of your mom doesn’t mean you need to give them special treatment and agree to everything they ask you to do! In the future, I learned, just quit, there are many wonderful families out there! I stuck with two very bad jobs too, one for 7 years the other for almost 4, until I got really bad anxiety and I knew I had to run! Good luck let us know what happens!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't have to give a reason. Just tell them you've decided to move on, and your last date will be ___________.

Immediately.

[Anonymous]

I’m really thankful for all your advices and responses. I will start looking for a new position this week. I will get you posted

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m really thankful for all your advices and responses. I will start looking for a new position this week. I will get you posted

Good! Have a friend, preferably a nanny, whose mother tongue is English to read new contract so that you eliminate being taken advantage of. Good luck

[Anonymous]

Yikes!
Your post was very difficult for me to fully comprehend but it sounds to me like the gist of it is that your current Nanny Family is taking FULL advantage of you so you would like to quit?

If I am correct then simply give your MomBoss your 2-week notice or whatever is in your contract.
Hopefully you can leave earlier.

While I think it would be wonderful to continue your relationship w/the children....
I would not count on it.

This family sounds like they could care less about their own kids.
Instead they worry more about how to stretch their last dollar.

[Anonymous]

I left a situation similar to that last year. The parents were divorcing and angry all the time, cancelling on me with no notice etc. It was truly terrible. I feel like you can just let them know you've found another position and leave. I am not sure I would even give them notice once you've found another job.

Good luck to you and when you start interviewing let people know you're happy to clean up messes you made during the time you're working but other housekeeping needs to be negotiated and compensated accordingly (if you're willing to do it at all.) If they bring up other kids, let them know you're happy to have paydates for a couple of hours, as long as the kids get along (once the kids are older they make your job easier, usually.)

If things are going well, you can always do something extra to help out during a busy time for them or if they're sick etc.