Would you give a nanny a glowing recommendation just to avoid unemployment claims?

[Anonymous]

What if an unemployed claim could bring attention to a someone questionable employment (a nanny paid by a company - as if she were an employee of the company rather than the owner’s household?)

[Anonymous]

If she was let go she can still get unemployment with a glowing reference.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I pay unemployment taxes so my nanny could get unemployment. That's what it's for. I'll give a reference appropriate to the performance (my nanny was awesome) if asked.

[Anonymous]

Would I lie about a nanny’s performance in order to get her hired (and possibly fired) more quickly? All because I lied about her being a business employee vs a household employee? Am I reading this correctly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would I lie about a nanny’s performance in order to get her hired (and possibly fired) more quickly? All because I lied about her being a business employee vs a household employee? Am I reading this correctly?

Yes. You are reading it correctly.

[Anonymous]

Give her anything she wants, because you could be in trouble if she brings any kind of attention to you.

[Anonymous]

Unscrupulous, selfish people do unscrupulous, selfish things. However someone like that shouldn’t be believed regardless - a good or bad recommendation from a known liar means nothing.

[Anonymous]

Wow. OP, I hope you see that attempting to skirt the law to serve a few dollars has consequences that you didn’t foresee. Take some accountability for your actions. Why was she let go? Did you honestly not think about this? I hope that you are a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. OP, I hope you see that attempting to skirt the law to serve a few dollars has consequences that you didn’t foresee. Take some accountability for your actions. Why was she let go? Did you honestly not think about this? I hope that you are a troll.

OP here and I am the former nanny. I’m trying to understand why my former employer (who actually told me she hated me when she fired me) gave me a glowing recommendation to my new employers!

And for the record, I had no idea I was being paid by his company.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. OP, I hope you see that attempting to skirt the law to serve a few dollars has consequences that you didn’t foresee. Take some accountability for your actions. Why was she let go? Did you honestly not think about this? I hope that you are a troll.

OP here and I am the former nanny. I’m trying to understand why my former employer (who actually told me she hated me when she fired me) gave me a glowing recommendation to my new employers!

And for the record, I had no idea I was being paid by his company.

What!?! If you are being paid through a business, that would be clear on your paystubs. And you worked for a family that told you they “hated” you upon termination? This all sounds too bogus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. OP, I hope you see that attempting to skirt the law to serve a few dollars has consequences that you didn’t foresee. Take some accountability for your actions. Why was she let go? Did you honestly not think about this? I hope that you are a troll.

OP here and I am the former nanny. I’m trying to understand why my former employer (who actually told me she hated me when she fired me) gave me a glowing recommendation to my new employers!

And for the record, I had no idea I was being paid by his company.

What!?! If you are being paid through a business, that would be clear on your paystubs. And you worked for a family that told you they “hated” you upon termination? This all sounds too bogus.

OP here. Not bogus. Automatic deposit and I actually never thought about it since the father owned the company. I gave my hours to the bookkeeper but thought the funds came from a household account.

And... whatever. My question is why the MB would give me a glowing recommendation when she hates me. Is it so that I would never file for unemployment? I got my new job in only four days from firing.

[Anonymous]

Yes, probably. If I were engaged in this kind of illegal activity, I probably would give a good recommendation just to keep the nanny off the radar.

But I hope you learned your lesson, OP. Pay attention and ask questions. That your employer cheated his company and then turned around and fired you is no coincidence.

[Anonymous]

They give a glowing recommendation to get rid of you and so you don't sue them for slander or termination.

[Anonymous]

Why would that be a benefit to pay you through the company?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They give a glowing recommendation to get rid of you and so you don't sue them for slander or termination.

+1. They want to be done with you.