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Anonymous
| While at the movies with other APs, our AP met a boy (no one we know knows him). AP would like to go on a day trip with said boy - driving an hour or so away. In his car. Kinda makes me a little worried, like why not get coffee or something close by first? This US experience is AP's first time out from under her dad's thumb and she is older (college grad) and sensible/conservative for the most part, but does lack a little street smarts and even common sense sometimes. Thoughts? It's entirely possible they already did get coffee and she just didn't feel like sharing that...I don't want to be invasive but worry a tad. |
Anonymous
| I’d just casually ask AP if she has shared these plans, and info about the boy with her parents... and encourage her to share that. Let them do the parenting... |
Anonymous
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Well she’s an adult so even if you’re right, you aren’t really in a position to stop her in her free time.
My first AP dated a bit of a dirtbag for 4 years (including the first two with me, then long distance another 2). Wish I coulda stopped it but what can you do. |
Anonymous
Just act like you would with your own daughter, ask her to be careful and to tell you where she is going and to be reachable 
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Anonymous
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I always say I feel responsible for them and would want someone to feel responsible for my kids if they ever become APs. Therefore I’d love to know the name and number of the person they’re going with, just out of an abundance of caution. But I always say if they don’t feel
Comfortable with that I understand. |
Anonymous
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Our aps best friend (another ap) is eating a guy who literally just got out of prison.
Our ap went on a double date with his former cellmate. Sometimes knowing who they are going out with is even worse. MYOB. |
Anonymous
| Potential sexual assault is all of our business |
Anonymous
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Give her the street smarts that she lacks. Then it's her choice what to do with it.
"People here aren't always as good-intentioned as you and people from your country. Generally here, people work up to big trips, all-day dates, etc. It's safer to go with a friend, to stay closer to home so you can more easily get back. If you wanted to leave, what would be your exit plan? Uber? Bus?" Teach her. |
Anonymous
| Also make sure she doesn't give out your address or be allowed to visit the house. We had an unknown guy bang on our door around 9am one night. She said they were just "friends" but we were not at all happy about it. |
Anonymous
| It wouldn't worry me. I mean AP isn't your child, let them figure out things on their own. |
Anonymous
Omg. This is not funny but I’m totally laughing. |
Anonymous
You are terrible. |
Anonymous
"Hey, AP's mom? Yeah. Uhm. I just wanted to let you know that unfortunately your adult child is missing. Yeah. No. No idea. She was dating that guy who just got out of prison and she is gone now. Yeah. No, no idea how that could happen. What? No. None of my business that your adult daughter is dating a convict, right? I mean, she is my employee. So this is really not my business, right? Right?! I will let you know if they find her dead in a ditch somewhere. Or maybe I will just let the LCC call you, that all right with you? As she is gone I now have to start making new childcare arrangements. I might not have time to call you again. Bye bye." Nope. Nothing to worry about. Not your child. Not your responsibility! |
Anonymous
I know! I couldn't stop laughing, but i m no sure what is more funny, the OP saying "eating" or the double cellmate date! |
Anonymous
X2. I’m pretty sure there’s a porno out with just this scenario. |