Quitting without notice

[Anonymous]

I’ve been at my new job for three months. It’s a nanny share with two infants. Both MBs are first time moms. I rather not get into the specifics, but the job is causing me so much stress that I’m having nocturnal panic attacks every night. Our contract says I will give them 2 weeks notice, however I’m not sure I can wait that long. Is there anyway I can quit gracefully with no notice?

[Anonymous]

Gracefully? No. Professionally? No. Without a valid reason, I can’t imagine anyone supporting this decision. I am an adult, career nanny that handles my work professionally.

[Anonymous]

Give the two weeks notice. No, you cannot simply walk away without repercussions.

Be a grown up. Give notice today and honor your word.

[Anonymous]

No there is no way to quit gracefully. Give 2 weeks notice. How would you like it if they fired you with no notice or pay?

[Anonymous]

You can be honest and let them know the share isn’t working. Without more information it’s hard to really give advice. If they are mistreating you then I would leave without notice. If it’s just a case of the work being hard I would at least give a weeks notice (let them know on a Monday that Friday would be your last day).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been at my new job for three months. It’s a nanny share with two infants. Both MBs are first time moms. I rather not get into the specifics, but the job is causing me so much stress that I’m having nocturnal panic attacks every night. Our contract says I will give them 2 weeks notice, however I’m not sure I can wait that long. Is there anyway I can quit gracefully with no notice?

Wait until you cash your final pay. And QUIT.
Take care of yourself, OP.

[Anonymous]

Have they broken the contact in any way? What is the main source of stress?

[Anonymous]

You are legally “at will”. That means you can quit OR they can fire you with ZERO notice.

[Anonymous]

Legally you can do it. Gracefully no. If you quit without notice, I would not expect any kind of positive reference from the parents and it’d probably be best to not mention this job altogether since it’s only been 3 months.
There might be some extenuating circumstance such as the parents suddenly treating you in a terrible manner that is traumatic, but if it is simply a case of babies crying, not napping, or being more work than you anticipated, it is very bad form and the parents will be rightfully upset about it.

[Anonymous]

Think long term, think of this as training yourself in persistence and endurance. Anyone can hang in there another 2 weeks, don’t act like a self centered child. Tell them, Start looking today, and act professionally. If you quit with no notice, be prepared for either mom to rightfully badmouth you to no end, to people directly, and online. You are screwing them big time if you don’t give notice. You want them to take vacation time for at least a week while scrambling to find a substitute? It takes at least ten days.

[Anonymous]

Wait until your final pay clears on Friday and then quit that day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been at my new job for three months. It’s a nanny share with two infants. Both MBs are first time moms. I rather not get into the specifics, but the job is causing me so much stress that I’m having nocturnal panic attacks every night. Our contract says I will give them 2 weeks notice, however I’m not sure I can wait that long. Is there anyway I can quit gracefully with no notice?

Wait until you cash your final pay. And QUIT.
Take care of yourself, OP.

Wrong. Live your life with honor and grace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been at my new job for three months. It’s a nanny share with two infants. Both MBs are first time moms. I rather not get into the specifics, but the job is causing me so much stress that I’m having nocturnal panic attacks every night. Our contract says I will give them 2 weeks notice, however I’m not sure I can wait that long. Is there anyway I can quit gracefully with no notice?

Wait until you cash your final pay. And QUIT.
Take care of yourself, OP.

Wrong. Live your life with honor and grace.

Are you a doormat? I highly doubt it, but it’s certainly nice when they do your childcare, isn’t it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been at my new job for three months. It’s a nanny share with two infants. Both MBs are first time moms. I rather not get into the specifics, but the job is causing me so much stress that I’m having nocturnal panic attacks every night. Our contract says I will give them 2 weeks notice, however I’m not sure I can wait that long. Is there anyway I can quit gracefully with no notice?

No. You can't quit gracefully with no notice.

You can quit with no notice and be done with it.

Gracefully, and the professional thing to do, is to give 2 weeks notice but be prepared for it to be awkward.


You could also try talking to them and addressing the issues that are giving you the most stress. If that does not work than at that time either quit on the spot or give them their notice.

[Anonymous]

Since I do not know the true source of concern here, it is tough for me to advise you.

If the parents are not honoring the contract/agreement, are adding chores to your duties and/or are treating you w/zero respect then by all means quit immediately.
Just make sure your final check clears the bank first.

However if you thought you could handle two infants, and now realize that you are in over your head.....
Then you should stick it out until they find a replacement.
Not to exceed two weeks.
Or who knows?
They may fire you on the spot when you give them notice, which would be a good thing for you.

If you can talk to the parents + try to resolve your issue w/them, of course that would be an ideal alternative to quitting.
Especially if you really need the money right now.

Hope this helps.
I wish you the best.