The nerve

[Anonymous]

I signed on with this new family 2 days per week to care for their 4 month old son. I was very considerate and shared I was pregnant (most people would not do this), so she could determine if this would work- I would hate to keep such info as I didn’t plan on continuing after my baby is born. She shared how every candidate she met with from care.com was horrible and she was relieved when she found me- she had over 60 candidates apply to a job she posted in January and I reached out in March. She is in the medical field so she obviously knew I would have appointments, which, we addressed. Her idea was that we would coordinate schedules in advance so that she could a) switch schedule or b) find coverage. I watch their son one time before they offered and I accepted the position. The first time I cared for him he cried so much and the mom claimed she didn’t know why he was so fussy and made tons of excuses. I have watched him a total of 3 times. All three times this little baby cried, cried and cried. I kept them informed, shared pictures, took him for walks and treated their child as if my own. The parents even expressed how they appreciated my patience. However, I determined that the baby cries all the time because his parents hold him all day long and bounce him as he’s being held (every time they’re holding him). I’ve seen them do it but the last day, the dad decided to come home early to give me a hand because, I have a feeling this isn’t the first time the baby’s been like this with someone else and they didn’t want me to get frustrated- even when I started they both kept asking if he cried too much for me (red flag). I didn’t mind dad coming home because he is very laid back, cool and easy to talk to; he also has a great sense of humor. Mom is/was nice but she had a dry sense of humor.

That was the run down on our short time together now fast forward to how we parted was after 2 weeks. As the mom requested, I gave her ample notice about my appointments which I 1 day per month, and all of a sudden, it was an issue. I wish she would have been upfront because I had 4 other families interested in me for part-time whom were also aware of my pregnancy. I chose them because of location. She basically told me I was a liar because I told her my OB appts take about an hour. She said and I quote “it only takes 15 minutes” where in the hell do you go and can I have their contact information?! I have never been in and out of any appointment in 15 minutes! Has anyone else been in and out in 15 minutes? I have to consider patience before me, pee in a cup, get my vitals checked, meet with doctor and ask questions while she finds baby’s heartbeat and give blood- is this not standard when you’re pregnant?! I wanted to call her an idiot. Her email was also rude and she canceled on me at 9PM the night before and said to mail her their house key! I try so hard to be professional but I’m human. Lady, I have carried your crying baby on and off all day long for 10 hours, have been on-time, very active (reading books, singing, taking on walks) and you’re going to be rude? And didn’t even give me the courtesy to say farewell as I’ve did nothing wrong to them. You also new what you signed up for so how can you be this angry? She also said she will send me money when they receive their key. I told her keep her money! And now that I’ve thought about (May be the hormones) she can come get her key from my concierge! I’m not made about parting ways it’s just how she went about it. She could have easily let me finish my scheduled shift and had a face to face conversation to tell me she didn’t have the flexibility she told me she had and we would need to part ways. My next appointment was a two months away because next month it falls on a day I wouldn’t work. I would have helped them until they found a replacement because it seemed like we got along. The dad texted me and apologize that it didn’t work out and to confirm I got the email because it was short notice, the mom was just a capital you know what. See what happens when you’re honest and try to help people out.

[Anonymous]

You work two days a week. You have three other days to do your appointments. They hire child care so they can work. If you cannot provide care, they cannot work. You are unreasonable and not being professional. And, yes, you should be holding the baby. That is your only responsibility so what are you complaining about?

[Anonymous]

Give her the keys back and also get your money, you will need it for your baby and don't make them that favor : you worked for that money

I'm sure you will find a better family to work for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You work two days a week. You have three other days to do your appointments. They hire child care so they can work. If you cannot provide care, they cannot work. You are unreasonable and not being professional. And, yes, you should be holding the baby. That is your only responsibility so what are you complaining about?

I work the other 3 days, which, they were aware of (even spoke to my other families as a reference)- “hence” why she said we would coordinate schedules in advance, #1. #2 if you read my post thoroughly, you could understand my frustration because she asked me to coordinate schedules, in advance, so she could work things out because she can be flexible when given ample notice. I gave her a TWO MONTHS NOTICE OF MY APPOINTMENT- how much more notice could I have given. When I sent her the date via email the evening before my next shift, that was her response. So, how did we go from we can work this if she knows in advance? I also told her I WOULD ROTATE DAYS SO THE APPOINTMENTS DO NOT ALWAYS FALL ON A DAY I CARE FOR HER SON, which is why my appointment did not interfere with our schedule for the month of MAY! ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME HERE NOW? #3, do you think it’s healthy for a baby to be held all day long? And when I said held, I mean while you stand up and walk all around the house holding and bouncing him? I have no problems holding a soothing him but yes, all day is a problem and unhealthy! But we may have different views on that and that is totally fine. #4, I was nothing but nice to this family. She was out of line for calling me a liar and telling me my OB appointments are only 15 minutes. She knows nothing about my medical history because it’s none of her business. Are you in and out of appointments in 15 minutes?

The way she went about things and the tone of the email was unprofessional and rude. She also gave no notice which is in MY contract that I had written up and she signed it- that’s how professional I am!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Give her the keys back and also get your money, you will need it for your baby and don't make them that favor : you worked for that money

I'm sure you will find a better family to work for.

Thanks pp. People like that can keep their money!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You work two days a week. You have three other days to do your appointments. They hire child care so they can work. If you cannot provide care, they cannot work. You are unreasonable and not being professional. And, yes, you should be holding the baby. That is your only responsibility so what are you complaining about?

You are a fool. In today's world, medical appointments are made at the convenience of doctors. Stupid, ignorant people should be banned from DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Your post is way too long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your post is way too long.

I’m sure you haven’t picked up a book in a while, you should read it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You work two days a week. You have three other days to do your appointments. They hire child care so they can work. If you cannot provide care, they cannot work. You are unreasonable and not being professional. And, yes, you should be holding the baby. That is your only responsibility so what are you complaining about?

You are a fool. In today's world, medical appointments are made at the convenience of doctors. Stupid, ignorant people should be banned from DCUM.

People are just miserable and misery loves company. Clearly this poster took what he/she wanted to so he/she could be the ***hole of the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You work two days a week. You have three other days to do your appointments. They hire child care so they can work. If you cannot provide care, they cannot work. You are unreasonable and not being professional. And, yes, you should be holding the baby. That is your only responsibility so what are you complaining about?

You are a fool. In today's world, medical appointments are made at the convenience of doctors. Stupid, ignorant people should be banned from DCUM.

So we don't have to hear from you anymore?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You work two days a week. You have three other days to do your appointments. They hire child care so they can work. If you cannot provide care, they cannot work. You are unreasonable and not being professional. And, yes, you should be holding the baby. That is your only responsibility so what are you complaining about?

You are a fool. In today's world, medical appointments are made at the convenience of doctors. Stupid, ignorant people should be banned from DCUM.

No, you are the fool who took a job that you are not able to work at. You work 2 days a week. Parents rely on you so they can work. If you don't work, they cannot work. You have 3 days to schedule an appointment a week. Most doctors are in the office 5 days a week. If you cannot get an appointment on those days, find a new doctor. You are not reliable if you work 8 days a month and miss 1 day. They need reliable child care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You work two days a week. You have three other days to do your appointments. They hire child care so they can work. If you cannot provide care, they cannot work. You are unreasonable and not being professional. And, yes, you should be holding the baby. That is your only responsibility so what are you complaining about?

I work the other 3 days, which, they were aware of (even spoke to my other families as a reference)- “hence” why she said we would coordinate schedules in advance, #1. #2 if you read my post thoroughly, you could understand my frustration because she asked me to coordinate schedules, in advance, so she could work things out because she can be flexible when given ample notice. I gave her a TWO MONTHS NOTICE OF MY APPOINTMENT- how much more notice could I have given. When I sent her the date via email the evening before my next shift, that was her response. So, how did we go from we can work this if she knows in advance? I also told her I WOULD ROTATE DAYS SO THE APPOINTMENTS DO NOT ALWAYS FALL ON A DAY I CARE FOR HER SON, which is why my appointment did not interfere with our schedule for the month of MAY! ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME HERE NOW? #3, do you think it’s healthy for a baby to be held all day long? And when I said held, I mean while you stand up and walk all around the house holding and bouncing him? I have no problems holding a soothing him but yes, all day is a problem and unhealthy! But we may have different views on that and that is totally fine. #4, I was nothing but nice to this family. She was out of line for calling me a liar and telling me my OB appointments are only 15 minutes. She knows nothing about my medical history because it’s none of her business. Are you in and out of appointments in 15 minutes?

The way she went about things and the tone of the email was unprofessional and rude. She also gave no notice which is in MY contract that I had written up and she signed it- that’s how professional I am!

Read your post. You are nasty and belligerent. They need reliable child care. You are not reliable. You do not meet their needs. You are going to have more appointments as the pregnancy progresses. Yes, I have been in and out of doctors appointments in 15 minutes. It really depends on the doctor and staff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You work two days a week. You have three other days to do your appointments. They hire child care so they can work. If you cannot provide care, they cannot work. You are unreasonable and not being professional. And, yes, you should be holding the baby. That is your only responsibility so what are you complaining about?

I work the other 3 days, which, they were aware of (even spoke to my other families as a reference)- “hence” why she said we would coordinate schedules in advance, #1. #2 if you read my post thoroughly, you could understand my frustration because she asked me to coordinate schedules, in advance, so she could work things out because she can be flexible when given ample notice. I gave her a TWO MONTHS NOTICE OF MY APPOINTMENT- how much more notice could I have given. When I sent her the date via email the evening before my next shift, that was her response. So, how did we go from we can work this if she knows in advance? I also told her I WOULD ROTATE DAYS SO THE APPOINTMENTS DO NOT ALWAYS FALL ON A DAY I CARE FOR HER SON, which is why my appointment did not interfere with our schedule for the month of MAY! ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME HERE NOW? #3, do you think it’s healthy for a baby to be held all day long? And when I said held, I mean while you stand up and walk all around the house holding and bouncing him? I have no problems holding a soothing him but yes, all day is a problem and unhealthy! But we may have different views on that and that is totally fine. #4, I was nothing but nice to this family. She was out of line for calling me a liar and telling me my OB appointments are only 15 minutes. She knows nothing about my medical history because it’s none of her business. Are you in and out of appointments in 15 minutes?

The way she went about things and the tone of the email was unprofessional and rude. She also gave no notice which is in MY contract that I had written up and she signed it- that’s how professional I am!

Read your post. You are nasty and belligerent. They need reliable child care. You are not reliable. You do not meet their needs. You are going to have more appointments as the pregnancy progresses. Yes, I have been in and out of doctors appointments in 15 minutes. It really depends on the doctor and staff.

Welp OP, your former employer found the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post is way too long.

I’m sure you haven’t picked up a book in a while, you should read it!

Are you actually equating your rambling post with a published book?! NP here and you are a mess, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You work two days a week. You have three other days to do your appointments. They hire child care so they can work. If you cannot provide care, they cannot work. You are unreasonable and not being professional. And, yes, you should be holding the baby. That is your only responsibility so what are you complaining about?

I work the other 3 days, which, they were aware of (even spoke to my other families as a reference)- “hence” why she said we would coordinate schedules in advance, #1. #2 if you read my post thoroughly, you could understand my frustration because she asked me to coordinate schedules, in advance, so she could work things out because she can be flexible when given ample notice. I gave her a TWO MONTHS NOTICE OF MY APPOINTMENT- how much more notice could I have given. When I sent her the date via email the evening before my next shift, that was her response. So, how did we go from we can work this if she knows in advance? I also told her I WOULD ROTATE DAYS SO THE APPOINTMENTS DO NOT ALWAYS FALL ON A DAY I CARE FOR HER SON, which is why my appointment did not interfere with our schedule for the month of MAY! ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME HERE NOW? #3, do you think it’s healthy for a baby to be held all day long? And when I said held, I mean while you stand up and walk all around the house holding and bouncing him? I have no problems holding a soothing him but yes, all day is a problem and unhealthy! But we may have different views on that and that is totally fine. #4, I was nothing but nice to this family. She was out of line for calling me a liar and telling me my OB appointments are only 15 minutes. She knows nothing about my medical history because it’s none of her business. Are you in and out of appointments in 15 minutes?

The way she went about things and the tone of the email was unprofessional and rude. She also gave no notice which is in MY contract that I had written up and she signed it- that’s how professional I am!

Read your post. You are nasty and belligerent. They need reliable child care. You are not reliable. You do not meet their needs. You are going to have more appointments as the pregnancy progresses. Yes, I have been in and out of doctors appointments in 15 minutes. It really depends on the doctor and staff.

I agree your post was nasty. Maybe you did all the right things but your attitude is terrible.