Releasing AP early

[Anonymous]

Our current AP is due to leave late August. Many European APs we've spoken to prefer to arrive by July. My understanding is there's a way to let APs leave early, whether to go home or extend, but we lose our agency fees for those last few weeks and it's not a rematch if the timing is less than a month left.

Anyone does this? Or have more details about it? We're with APC.

[Anonymous]

You can't get your money back---you will still need to pay the AP. We had this happen this past year.

[Anonymous]

That’s kind of a sh*tty thing to do. How would you feel if she left a month early? By now she’s probably already started planning her travels with friends who are also off in aug. Please don’t get another aupair, you sound very selfish.

[Anonymous]

Our son goes to sleepaway camp in mid-July until mid-August, and we are on a late August arrival schedule. This means that for the last 5 weeks of Ap's stay, there is nothing to do. We offer AP one of three options: 1) stay and do child-related tasks for some of the time and otherwise hang out 2) go home early if they would like or 3) do their travel month then and then come back to us when our son gets home from camp for their last days and goodbye party. Most of our APs have chosen options 2 or 3 (some version of leave early). Only one stayed, and he painted a gorgeous train table for our son as his "work" for that time.

I do not care what they pick, but if they choose to go home or travel, they do not get paid for that time, and we tell the agency their last working date and end their contract as of that date. We do obviously lose the agency fee for those weeks. If they stay and "work" during that time, we obviously pay them. It's entirely their choice what they want to do.

As long as you offer it this way, I think it's totally fine. Several of our APs have had friends who were traveling in mid-July and they were perfectly happy to go travel with them and then come back to our house at the end of summer for their final goodbye party and to get their things and head home.

[Anonymous]

Just have 2 au pairs for month if you want one that bade for July arrival.

Aps can leave 30 days or less from their last day of their year and still get credit for finishing the program.

We overlapped a couple APs for up to two weeks or so. Kind of a pja because it is kind of weird for current ap to hang out with their replacement- especially if they have had a good year with you.
May not be your case but ours typically are very sad at the end of the year. We do not extend, ever.

[Anonymous]

I was an Au Pair and was asked to leave earlier as well so that the next Au Pair would start before school starts ... I was never paid for the missing weeks.

[Anonymous]

Seems like you should just like talk to her about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our son goes to sleepaway camp in mid-July until mid-August, and we are on a late August arrival schedule. This means that for the last 5 weeks of Ap's stay, there is nothing to do. We offer AP one of three options: 1) stay and do child-related tasks for some of the time and otherwise hang out 2) go home early if they would like or 3) do their travel month then and then come back to us when our son gets home from camp for their last days and goodbye party. Most of our APs have chosen options 2 or 3 (some version of leave early). Only one stayed, and he painted a gorgeous train table for our son as his "work" for that time.

I do not care what they pick, but if they choose to go home or travel, they do not get paid for that time, and we tell the agency their last working date and end their contract as of that date. We do obviously lose the agency fee for those weeks. If they stay and "work" during that time, we obviously pay them. It's entirely their choice what they want to do.

As long as you offer it this way, I think it's totally fine. Several of our APs have had friends who were traveling in mid-July and they were perfectly happy to go travel with them and then come back to our house at the end of summer for their final goodbye party and to get their things and head home.

Just curious, what sleepaway camp is it that your son go to for one month?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our son goes to sleepaway camp in mid-July until mid-August, and we are on a late August arrival schedule. This means that for the last 5 weeks of Ap's stay, there is nothing to do. We offer AP one of three options: 1) stay and do child-related tasks for some of the time and otherwise hang out 2) go home early if they would like or 3) do their travel month then and then come back to us when our son gets home from camp for their last days and goodbye party. Most of our APs have chosen options 2 or 3 (some version of leave early). Only one stayed, and he painted a gorgeous train table for our son as his "work" for that time.

I do not care what they pick, but if they choose to go home or travel, they do not get paid for that time, and we tell the agency their last working date and end their contract as of that date. We do obviously lose the agency fee for those weeks. If they stay and "work" during that time, we obviously pay them. It's entirely their choice what they want to do.

As long as you offer it this way, I think it's totally fine. Several of our APs have had friends who were traveling in mid-July and they were perfectly happy to go travel with them and then come back to our house at the end of summer for their final goodbye party and to get their things and head home.

Just curious, what sleepaway camp is it that your son go to for one month?

It's a special needs sleepaway camp in PA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our son goes to sleepaway camp in mid-July until mid-August, and we are on a late August arrival schedule. This means that for the last 5 weeks of Ap's stay, there is nothing to do. We offer AP one of three options: 1) stay and do child-related tasks for some of the time and otherwise hang out 2) go home early if they would like or 3) do their travel month then and then come back to us when our son gets home from camp for their last days and goodbye party. Most of our APs have chosen options 2 or 3 (some version of leave early). Only one stayed, and he painted a gorgeous train table for our son as his "work" for that time.

I do not care what they pick, but if they choose to go home or travel, they do not get paid for that time, and we tell the agency their last working date and end their contract as of that date. We do obviously lose the agency fee for those weeks. If they stay and "work" during that time, we obviously pay them. It's entirely their choice what they want to do.

As long as you offer it this way, I think it's totally fine. Several of our APs have had friends who were traveling in mid-July and they were perfectly happy to go travel with them and then come back to our house at the end of summer for their final goodbye party and to get their things and head home.

Just curious, what sleepaway camp is it that your son go to for one month?

20-25 years ago I went to Girl Scout camps back to back for two months each summer. Pick up was Saturday anytime after noon, drop off was Sunday by noon. Even if the kid was doing something similar (and technically home for one night per week), AP wouldn’t be needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our son goes to sleepaway camp in mid-July until mid-August, and we are on a late August arrival schedule. This means that for the last 5 weeks of Ap's stay, there is nothing to do. We offer AP one of three options: 1) stay and do child-related tasks for some of the time and otherwise hang out 2) go home early if they would like or 3) do their travel month then and then come back to us when our son gets home from camp for their last days and goodbye party. Most of our APs have chosen options 2 or 3 (some version of leave early). Only one stayed, and he painted a gorgeous train table for our son as his "work" for that time.

I do not care what they pick, but if they choose to go home or travel, they do not get paid for that time, and we tell the agency their last working date and end their contract as of that date. We do obviously lose the agency fee for those weeks. If they stay and "work" during that time, we obviously pay them. It's entirely their choice what they want to do.

As long as you offer it this way, I think it's totally fine. Several of our APs have had friends who were traveling in mid-July and they were perfectly happy to go travel with them and then come back to our house at the end of summer for their final goodbye party and to get their things and head home.

Just curious, what sleepaway camp is it that your son go to for one month?

20-25 years ago I went to Girl Scout camps back to back for two months each summer. Pick up was Saturday anytime after noon, drop off was Sunday by noon. Even if the kid was doing something similar (and technically home for one night per week), AP wouldn’t be needed.

DS does not come home at all for the month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our son goes to sleepaway camp in mid-July until mid-August, and we are on a late August arrival schedule. This means that for the last 5 weeks of Ap's stay, there is nothing to do. We offer AP one of three options: 1) stay and do child-related tasks for some of the time and otherwise hang out 2) go home early if they would like or 3) do their travel month then and then come back to us when our son gets home from camp for their last days and goodbye party. Most of our APs have chosen options 2 or 3 (some version of leave early). Only one stayed, and he painted a gorgeous train table for our son as his "work" for that time.

I do not care what they pick, but if they choose to go home or travel, they do not get paid for that time, and we tell the agency their last working date and end their contract as of that date. We do obviously lose the agency fee for those weeks. If they stay and "work" during that time, we obviously pay them. It's entirely their choice what they want to do.

As long as you offer it this way, I think it's totally fine. Several of our APs have had friends who were traveling in mid-July and they were perfectly happy to go travel with them and then come back to our house at the end of summer for their final goodbye party and to get their things and head home.

Just curious, what sleepaway camp is it that your son go to for one month?

20-25 years ago I went to Girl Scout camps back to back for two months each summer. Pick up was Saturday anytime after noon, drop off was Sunday by noon. Even if the kid was doing something similar (and technically home for one night per week), AP wouldn’t be needed.

DS does not come home at all for the month.

I understand that. My point to PP was that there are many scenarios in which the child would not be home at all during the week for a month or more.

By the way, I know of a few girls who are going to a girls only sleepaway camp. Two two week camp sessions, and they'll be gone for a total of a month, but they're coming back for 2 weeks in the middle. The same camp offers 4 consecutive weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s kind of a sh*tty thing to do. How would you feel if she left a month early? By now she’s probably already started planning her travels with friends who are also off in aug. Please don’t get another aupair, you sound very selfish.

K au pair lol