Child told me that the family won’t need me soon anymore...

[Anonymous]

Hi Nannies
One of my charges just told me that when his younger brothers turn 5, mommy said I wasn’t going to come anymore.
My mom boss is very selfish and hinted once before that she’s signing the kids up for summer camp, but I brushed it off.
I also know that they will be going to pre K probably full day after the summer, and I was ok with being let go soon.
What I’m not ok is that my kindergarten charge just told me that. I didn’t realize that the mom told him about that,
without first talking to me and find a way as to how to transitioning the kids to a live without me, especially since I’ve been there for years since they were
babies.
I obviously got really upset about it. I’ve been looking for jobs to start by then summer or during the summer, but a family is interested in me starting in a month. God pay and more benefits than this job, plus both parents work whereas this job here the mom is home all day.
How would you Annie’s handle this situation? I mean I feel bad leaving before the end of the school year, but after hearing what my charge told me, I’m really upset about it, plus they are going away next month for a week without paying me. I wanted to give them 2 weeks notice, but I’m sure once I tell them the mom will let me go immediately, because she’s so selfish. I was gonna stay till the end of the school year. What would you do nannies? Thank you so much!

[Anonymous]

Give at least 2 weeks notice. I actually think a month is appropriate if most situations but if your MB is home all day anyway Im sure she can manage.

[Anonymous]

Give two weeks notice after you sign the contract for your new job. Leave on as good terms as possible, OP, as I am sure you will want to see the children from time to time.

Good luck! Sounds like it is a good time to leave.

[Anonymous]

Several of the teachers where my former charge was attending school half-day told me on Christmas Day that I was getting fired so don’t feel bad about how you found out! Just embrace the new position and leave now with as much grace as possible.

It is never easy but generally is for the best. Good luck, Nanny!

[Anonymous]

Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

[Anonymous]

Kids are in school full time so most people don't need a nanny. She was probably doing school/summer plans and talking to the kids to prepare it. Just email her and ask her that you know the kids will be in school full time and what will your hours be or do you need to find a new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

Last employer asked me to stay on for a full eight years for their one child. They didn't want to scramble for every sick day and school holiday. And no "household management" (housecleaning). Agree that most families can't afford that, but consistently and security was important to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

My brother’s family has had the same lovely nanny for nearly 15 years. She still covers school holidays and sick days full time but has moved her hours to 11 to 7 on most days. School pick up, sports practice, tutoring, music lessons, etc make her as valuable to the family as when the children were young. Plus she handles all grocery shopping now but still cooks just for the kids.

I don’t think OP thought her job would last forever but finding out it was ending from a charge is pretty crappy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi Nannies
One of my charges just told me that when his younger brothers turn 5, mommy said I wasn’t going to come anymore.
My mom boss is very selfish and hinted once before that she’s signing the kids up for summer camp, but I brushed it off.
I also know that they will be going to pre K probably full day after the summer, and I was ok with being let go soon.
What I’m not ok is that my kindergarten charge just told me that. I didn’t realize that the mom told him about that,
without first talking to me and find a way as to how to transitioning the kids to a live without me, especially since I’ve been there for years since they were
babies.
I obviously got really upset about it. I’ve been looking for jobs to start by then summer or during the summer, but a family is interested in me starting in a month. God pay and more benefits than this job, plus both parents work whereas this job here the mom is home all day.
How would you Annie’s handle this situation? I mean I feel bad leaving before the end of the school year, but after hearing what my charge told me, I’m really upset about it, plus they are going away next month for a week without paying me. I wanted to give them 2 weeks notice, but I’m sure once I tell them the mom will let me go immediately, because she’s so selfish. I was gonna stay till the end of the school year. What would you do nannies? Thank you so much!

Accept the new job. You are an expense current MB is looking forward to eliminating. Don't let her decide when you move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

My brother’s family has had the same lovely nanny for nearly 15 years. She still covers school holidays and sick days full time but has moved her hours to 11 to 7 on most days. School pick up, sports practice, tutoring, music lessons, etc make her as valuable to the family as when the children were young. Plus she handles all grocery shopping now but still cooks just for the kids.

I don’t think OP thought her job would last forever but finding out it was ending from a charge is pretty crappy.

The family should have spoken to nanny but if they are keeping her though the summer, that's 6 months away. Few families can afford to keep full time care and most aren't willing to pay a someone full-time and they only work part-time, especially fi they will not cook and clean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

My brother’s family has had the same lovely nanny for nearly 15 years. She still covers school holidays and sick days full time but has moved her hours to 11 to 7 on most days. School pick up, sports practice, tutoring, music lessons, etc make her as valuable to the family as when the children were young. Plus she handles all grocery shopping now but still cooks just for the kids.

I don’t think OP thought her job would last forever but finding out it was ending from a charge is pretty crappy.

The family should have spoken to nanny but if they are keeping her though the summer, that's 6 months away. Few families can afford to keep full time care and most aren't willing to pay a someone full-time and they only work part-time, especially fi they will not cook and clean.

If you want cooking and general housekeeping, you hire someone who does that. Not a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

My brother’s family has had the same lovely nanny for nearly 15 years. She still covers school holidays and sick days full time but has moved her hours to 11 to 7 on most days. School pick up, sports practice, tutoring, music lessons, etc make her as valuable to the family as when the children were young. Plus she handles all grocery shopping now but still cooks just for the kids.

I don’t think OP thought her job would last forever but finding out it was ending from a charge is pretty crappy.

The family should have spoken to nanny but if they are keeping her though the summer, that's 6 months away. Few families can afford to keep full time care and most aren't willing to pay a someone full-time and they only work part-time, especially fi they will not cook and clean.

Again, this is not about a nanny cooking or cleaning! Holy hell, how is that so hard for you to understand! OP never said she wanted to stay with the family until death! She just expected the mother to tell her - not the child!

Now OP is wondering if she should leave before the mother fires her and take a new job she’s been offered. No one is talking about staying forever and ever!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

My brother’s family has had the same lovely nanny for nearly 15 years. She still covers school holidays and sick days full time but has moved her hours to 11 to 7 on most days. School pick up, sports practice, tutoring, music lessons, etc make her as valuable to the family as when the children were young. Plus she handles all grocery shopping now but still cooks just for the kids.

I don’t think OP thought her job would last forever but finding out it was ending from a charge is pretty crappy.

The family should have spoken to nanny but if they are keeping her though the summer, that's 6 months away. Few families can afford to keep full time care and most aren't willing to pay a someone full-time and they only work part-time, especially fi they will not cook and clean.

Again, this is not about a nanny cooking or cleaning! Holy hell, how is that so hard for you to understand! OP never said she wanted to stay with the family until death! She just expected the mother to tell her - not the child!

Now OP is wondering if she should leave before the mother fires her and take a new job she’s been offered. No one is talking about staying forever and ever!!!

The last poster talked about keeping their nanny forever. That was the comment. She should clarify with the family and take the other job. How is that hard?

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP, this happened to me with a family I loved and it hurt more than I care to admit