Child told me that the family won’t need me soon anymore...

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP, it seems like you’re a trooper for even sticking it out this long. I wouldn’t want to work for that kind of person, especially not if she’s home all day! I would accept the job, give as much notice as possible and just prepare to be let go immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Several of the teachers where my former charge was attending school half-day told me on Christmas Day that I was getting fired so don’t feel bad about how you found out! Just embrace the new position and leave now with as much grace as possible.

It is never easy but generally is for the best. Good luck, Nanny!

Wow. You are so lucky to be out of that job!

[Anonymous]

Take the new job!!! Summer will be here soon. The kids will be fine and this way you’ll know when your last day is and can start to get them ready for the transistion. Take the job, op. I would hate for you to not be given another opportunity like this and left scrambling in the summer for a job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

Last employer asked me to stay on for a full eight years for their one child. They didn't want to scramble for every sick day and school holiday. And no "household management" (housecleaning). Agree that most families can't afford that, but consistently and security was important to them.

Household management is not house cleaning. We manage other household staff, including the housekeeper.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

Last employer asked me to stay on for a full eight years for their one child. They didn't want to scramble for every sick day and school holiday. And no "household management" (housecleaning). Agree that most families can't afford that, but consistently and security was important to them.

Household management is not house cleaning. We manage other household staff, including the housekeeper.

Exactly. I’m the house manager. I schedule and am here when the plumber, carpet cleaner, pest control, furnace repairman come. The housekeeper let’s herself in and out; I order her supplies. I change the driver’s base schedule and let him know what he’s doing. I’m in charge of the family calendar. The only housekeeping I do is directly tied to the children. I could choose to buy and serve processed food every night, but I prefer to cook as much from scratch as the schedule permits. I could order grocery deliveries, but I prefer to pick myself, especially for produce. I could skip washing the kids clothes with them, but I want them to learn to do it. The only non-negotiable housekeeping tasks are feeding the kids and being responsible for the dishwasher (only kid/my dishes, so makes sense). I don’t do any housekeeping unless I want to do so.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

Last employer asked me to stay on for a full eight years for their one child. They didn't want to scramble for every sick day and school holiday. And no "household management" (housecleaning). Agree that most families can't afford that, but consistently and security was important to them.

Household management is not house cleaning. We manage other household staff, including the housekeeper.

Exactly. I’m the house manager. I schedule and am here when the plumber, carpet cleaner, pest control, furnace repairman come. The housekeeper let’s herself in and out; I order her supplies. I change the driver’s base schedule and let him know what he’s doing. I’m in charge of the family calendar. The only housekeeping I do is directly tied to the children. I could choose to buy and serve processed food every night, but I prefer to cook as much from scratch as the schedule permits. I could order grocery deliveries, but I prefer to pick myself, especially for produce. I could skip washing the kids clothes with them, but I want them to learn to do it. The only non-negotiable housekeeping tasks are feeding the kids and being responsible for the dishwasher (only kid/my dishes, so makes sense). I don’t do any housekeeping unless I want to do so.

So PP, do you anything with the kids, apart from teach them to wash their clothes and cook? How many kids? Do you help with homework? A "driver" takes them to activities? Plumber, carpet cleaner, pest control, etc are all very intermittent visitors to our home. Some of these sound like things you could do on a computer at home. How many hours a week do these duties actually take (honestly)?

[Anonymous]

OP, you are offering a service and getting compensated for it. That’s it in their eyes.
You think they would consider you as a human being but you are just someone who serves them. It hurts but this is the reality in the USA. Give them your notice and quit. Do not think of keeping in touch with the children— mom boss won’t like it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are offering a service and getting compensated for it. That’s it in their eyes.
You think they would consider you as a human being but you are just someone who serves them. It hurts but this is the reality in the USA. Give them your notice and quit. Do not think of keeping in touch with the children— mom boss won’t like it.

Why are some parents so selfish this way?

[Anonymous]

Accept the other job and as soon as a contract is signed, give 2 weeks notice. That’s it’s. I understand you’re upset about now you found out, but it happens. Move on

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

Last employer asked me to stay on for a full eight years for their one child. They didn't want to scramble for every sick day and school holiday. And no "household management" (housecleaning). Agree that most families can't afford that, but consistently and security was important to them.

Household management is not house cleaning. We manage other household staff, including the housekeeper.

Someone would have to be very wealthy to have that which is not a normal family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

Last employer asked me to stay on for a full eight years for their one child. They didn't want to scramble for every sick day and school holiday. And no "household management" (housecleaning). Agree that most families can't afford that, but consistently and security was important to them.

Household management is not house cleaning. We manage other household staff, including the housekeeper.

Someone would have to be very wealthy to have that which is not a normal family.

Not unusual or abnormal at all in many communities where nannies work. We have a chef who prepares our lunch for us (is being a housekeeper, two nannies and a newborn nurse) every week day. On weekends the weekend nannies have to reheat their meals - poor things!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

Last employer asked me to stay on for a full eight years for their one child. They didn't want to scramble for every sick day and school holiday. And no "household management" (housecleaning). Agree that most families can't afford that, but consistently and security was important to them.

Household management is not house cleaning. We manage other household staff, including the housekeeper.

Someone would have to be very wealthy to have that which is not a normal family.

Not unusual or abnormal at all in many communities where nannies work. We have a chef who prepares our lunch for us (is being a housekeeper, two nannies and a newborn nurse) every week day. On weekends the weekend nannies have to reheat their meals - poor things!

That is not normal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

Last employer asked me to stay on for a full eight years for their one child. They didn't want to scramble for every sick day and school holiday. And no "household management" (housecleaning). Agree that most families can't afford that, but consistently and security was important to them.

Household management is not house cleaning. We manage other household staff, including the housekeeper.

Someone would have to be very wealthy to have that which is not a normal family.

Not unusual or abnormal at all in many communities where nannies work. We have a chef who prepares our lunch for us (is being a housekeeper, two nannies and a newborn nurse) every week day. On weekends the weekend nannies have to reheat their meals - poor things!

That is not normal.

What is “normal”? Wealthy couples originated the concept of the nanny/governess. The concept of middle class couples hiring a nanny instead of one staying home or avoiding daycare is what is new.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

Last employer asked me to stay on for a full eight years for their one child. They didn't want to scramble for every sick day and school holiday. And no "household management" (housecleaning). Agree that most families can't afford that, but consistently and security was important to them.

Household management is not house cleaning. We manage other household staff, including the housekeeper.

Someone would have to be very wealthy to have that which is not a normal family.

Not unusual or abnormal at all in many communities where nannies work. We have a chef who prepares our lunch for us (is being a housekeeper, two nannies and a newborn nurse) every week day. On weekends the weekend nannies have to reheat their meals - poor things!

That is not normal.

What is “normal”? Wealthy couples originated the concept of the nanny/governess. The concept of middle class couples hiring a nanny instead of one staying home or avoiding daycare is what is new.

Exactly!

It’s not normal to some ppl bc they’ve never been around households that have a full staff. There are plenty of families with lots of full time staff. The middle class saw that and decided they deserved nannies too. However, they didn’t realize that ppl pay well for good help bc they can afford it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't seem to much care about their own kids, so the nanny is definitely a nobody!

Most people don't keep full-time nannies when kids go to school. It has nothing to do with the kids or nanny but finances and need. If you do more than just caring for the kids, it may be easy to justify a household manager but if you strictly care for kids and during your work hours are doing the day, its hard to justify.

Last employer asked me to stay on for a full eight years for their one child. They didn't want to scramble for every sick day and school holiday. And no "household management" (housecleaning). Agree that most families can't afford that, but consistently and security was important to them.

Household management is not house cleaning. We manage other household staff, including the housekeeper.

Someone would have to be very wealthy to have that which is not a normal family.

Not unusual or abnormal at all in many communities where nannies work. We have a chef who prepares our lunch for us (is being a housekeeper, two nannies and a newborn nurse) every week day. On weekends the weekend nannies have to reheat their meals - poor things!

That is not normal.

Doesn’t matter. The point is that a house manager does not clean the house generally.