Work-From-Home Dad Situation
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Anonymous
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I have been w/my current Nanny Family eleven months.
This position came from a previous family’s recommendation. Both families are friends. My charge, an eighteen-month old little girl is adorable, witty + very energetic. 
When I initially interviewed w/this family, I noticed cameras when I was preparing to walk out the door. I was surprised the parents didn’t mention them in the interview & when I asked about them, they casually shrugged and acted like they were not a big deal. Even though they included audio which is illegal in my state (CA) w/out consent. After two weeks, I let them know I felt really uncomfortable being audiotaped so they agreed to turn that off. The past three months or so, the Father has been working from home. All day. Every single day. He stays inside his upstairs bedroom, but comes down every now and then. My charge is a okay w/it all, but I hate it!! It’s like I never know when he is near, I will look up & see him there at random times. Not to mention I do not really like his personality. I feel like they should have given me a heads-up that a parent would be home all day. I also feel like they should have told me about the cameras during our interview. (Speaking of cameras, I have noticed since the Dad has been telecommuting, the cameras have been taken down.) I am starting to feel a little suspicious of my employers. They seem to be taking me for granted. The reason I do not like the Father’s personality is that he treats me like the help. Plus he doesn’t clean up the breakfast dishes, crumbs + floor at all before I arrive. (Everyone is done w/breakfast when I arrive.) What do you guys think? Am I being treated fairly?? TIA. |
Anonymous
| They definitely should have told you about cameras and father that worked out of home. I would be looking for new job with people who respect me and who are honest. I cannot abide sneakiness and lying. |
Anonymous
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A work-from-home parent is a deal breaker for me. I actually encourage my employers to have cameras but don’t like anyone else in the house.
I would look for another job, OP. I don’t see an option. |
Anonymous
| Look for another job while dealing with him. Once you secure it, leave!!! |
Anonymous
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Nanny,
You seem very entitled. You are are an employee, and parents are allowed to work from home. You are taking care of their kids, and you are suprised they randomlyl CHECK on you. Get real. quote=Anonymous]I have been w/my current Nanny Family eleven months. This position came from a previous family’s recommendation. Both families are friends. My charge, an eighteen-month old little girl is adorable, witty + very energetic.
When I initially interviewed w/this family, I noticed cameras when I was preparing to walk out the door. I was surprised the parents didn’t mention them in the interview & when I asked about them, they casually shrugged and acted like they were not a big deal. Even though they included audio which is illegal in my state (CA) w/out consent. After two weeks, I let them know I felt really uncomfortable being audiotaped so they agreed to turn that off. The past three months or so, the Father has been working from home. All day. Every single day. He stays inside his upstairs bedroom, but comes down every now and then. My charge is a okay w/it all, but I hate it!! It’s like I never know when he is near, I will look up & see him there at random times. Not to mention I do not really like his personality. I feel like they should have given me a heads-up that a parent would be home all day. I also feel like they should have told me about the cameras during our interview. (Speaking of cameras, I have noticed since the Dad has been telecommuting, the cameras have been taken down.) I am starting to feel a little suspicious of my employers. They seem to be taking me for granted. The reason I do not like the Father’s personality is that he treats me like the help. Plus he doesn’t clean up the breakfast dishes, crumbs + floor at all before I arrive. (Everyone is done w/breakfast when I arrive.) What do you guys think? Am I being treated fairly?? TIA. |
Anonymous
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Nannies,
I am sometimes surprised at the posts that I see on here. This is just another one for the books! Let me see if I get this correct 1. Parents have cameras in the house that are OBVIOUSLY positioned (assumption of risk). 2. Father comes downstairs on occasion to check on his kid and the nanny 3. Nanny has issues with father coming downstairs and watching her take care of his child. Sadly, this is exactly the same situation that I am in in as well. I also work from home, and I want to make sure my kid is ok, with a stranger. I have camera's in the house, so I don't have to 'hover' around constantly. It is less of a trust thing for the nanny, as much as it is an extra pair of eyes on my child. |
Anonymous
| It sounds like they are trying to accommodate you. You told them you were uncomfortable after 2 weeks, so they turned off the cameras. No one was working from the home for 8 months and then DB has to work from home. They take the cameras down completely. Did they say you need to clean up after DB? My nanny doesn’t have to. My DH would do exactly the same thing and I clean up every night. If you truly are unhappy working with DB there, look for another job. |
Anonymous
To be honest, this is a problem. If you feel that your nanny is a "stranger", nanny care is not for you. You've trusted her enough to take care of your child, and that shouldn't depend on your periodic checks. A child under competent nanny care shouldn't need another pair of eyes on him. I've looked for a trustworthy nanny for a long time. I occasionally work from home but stay out of her way except to breastfeed my baby. I would not hire anyone that I felt needed "an extra pair of eyes." Some people don't feel comfortable with their child under the care of a single unrelated caretaker, and that's OK. Group care is the answer in this case. |
Anonymous
Ignore this poster, OP. It’s a troll. |
Anonymous
| You are working in a person's home. They live there. They work from home. Where is the issue? |
Anonymous
Generally a nanny, especially a new nanny is a stranger. He's probably coming down to eat or do other things. |
Anonymous
Nannies who don’t allow cameras are a dying breed. Cameras are everywhere and in most workplaces. Seriously not an issue for me at all and I encourage cameras so my employers see how hard I work. That said - a SAHP is not okay. I would not accept a job with a SAHP and if it suddenly happened where one parent was forced to work from home, I would leave the job. |
Anonymous
She's been there for almost a year, hardly a stranger. Again, if you feel that way about nannies, you should not be leaving your children in their care. I agree dad is probably going about his day vs. checking on nanny. |
Anonymous
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There is a H-U-G-E difference between being filmed in a public place where one is amongst others vs. being filmed in a more intimate setting where only one person is the primary focus from the camera.
I am a Nanny who personally dislikes working around cameras. While I do see the upside(s) to it - I still do not like them. And yes, anyone has any right to do ANYthing in his or her home. But if you have a Nanny caring for your child in your home, you must understand that there will be some Nannies that do not like this set-up & that is okay. No one likes feeling that they are being watched/listened to/monitored all day. Nannies appreciate having complete autonomy throughout the day. And who could blame them??! |
Anonymous
| I wonder if the dad's employer suddenly put audio/cameras on him all day at his workplace -- after all, he is stranger to his boss.. Perhaps he was uncomfortable being observed all day and decided to work from home. |