Work-From-Home Dad Situation

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nannies,

I am sometimes surprised at the posts that I see on here. This is just another one for the books! Let me see if I get this correct

1. Parents have cameras in the house that are OBVIOUSLY positioned (assumption of risk).

2. Father comes downstairs on occasion to check on his kid and the nanny

3. Nanny has issues with father coming downstairs and watching her take care of his child.


Sadly, this is exactly the same situation that I am in in as well. I also work from home, and I want to make sure my kid is ok, with a stranger. I have camera's in the house, so I don't have to 'hover' around constantly. It is less of a trust thing for the nanny, as much as it is an extra pair of eyes on my child.

Then you should take care of your child exclusively. However, you cannot because you are too lazy and do not want to spend an entire day with your brat so you have hired a nanny that you don't trust. You are nuts.

You really need to find a new profession.

And the pp really needs to stay home with their child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if the dad's employer suddenly put audio/cameras on him all day at his workplace -- after all, he is stranger to his boss.. Perhaps he was uncomfortable being observed all day and decided to work from home.

Most workplaces have cameras. Every job I've had have one and if he's working at home he can easily be tracked by his online time/connection to the company.

Tracking ones' computer is NOT the same as audio and visual. But you already knew that so your post was irrelevant.

If one works in an office, the majority of the time there are cameras. Just like there are cameras at almost all businesses you go to. It is normal. It is not irrelevant and most employers have cameras for a variety of reasons. You are caring for someone's child. Abuse happens, and young kids often cannot tell. If you are against a camera or any accountability, that raises red flags.

If you are honestly worried about abuse with your nanny then you should stay home. Abuse can happen on and off camera. Being against a camera and any accountability are two separate things. What is “any accountability” meaning to you? You can be against a camera bc frankly they are creepy and you may never feel comfortable. Most ppl don’t want to be watched and micromanaged. If I walk into a house with visible cameras in every room, that raises red flags.

I completely concur.
Cameras in an intimate setting, such as in someone else’s home where the camera is strictly focused on only ONE person IS very creepy.
Even more so if it is a man filming a young woman.

If people feel they need to go to this type of extreme in order to feel their child is safe, then it is best for everyone if that person stays at home and a.)Raises the child themselves or b.)Work evenings while your spouse is home.

People who watch others on camera are just weird.
And no - not many people in my neighborhood already have cameras installed on their property.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe this nanny is not getting more support. To me the main issue is that none of this was discussed during your interview, especially a dad working from home. Of course it would make you feel uncomfortable to have someone randomly appearing with no notice. I would never keep that from a potential nanny.
The cameras also should have been disclosed but are harder to fight against.
Honestly, I would go with your gut on this.. if you feel like something is amiss, it usually is!

Good luck op!

[Anonymous]

You need to find a new job. These people lied by omission about two very important aspects of job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have been w/my current Nanny Family eleven months.
This position came from a previous family’s recommendation.
Both families are friends.

My charge, an eighteen-month old little girl is adorable, witty + very energetic.

When I initially interviewed w/this family, I noticed cameras when I was preparing to walk out the door.
I was surprised the parents didn’t mention them in the interview & when I asked about them, they casually shrugged and acted like they were not a big deal.
Even though they included audio which is illegal in my state (CA) w/out consent.

After two weeks, I let them know I felt really uncomfortable being audiotaped so they agreed to turn that off.

The past three months or so, the Father has been working from home.
All day.
Every single day.
He stays inside his upstairs bedroom, but comes down every now and then.
My charge is a okay w/it all, but I hate it!!

It’s like I never know when he is near, I will look up & see him there at random times.
Not to mention I do not really like his personality.

I feel like they should have given me a heads-up that a parent would be home all day.
I also feel like they should have told me about the cameras during our interview.
(Speaking of cameras, I have noticed since the Dad has been telecommuting, the cameras have been taken down.)

I am starting to feel a little suspicious of my employers.
They seem to be taking me for granted.
The reason I do not like the Father’s personality is that he treats me like the help.
Plus he doesn’t clean up the breakfast dishes, crumbs + floor at all before I arrive.
(Everyone is done w/breakfast when I arrive.)

What do you guys think?
Am I being treated fairly??

TIA.

Yikes. This man is a creep!

BP here. What makes him a creep??? Because he doesn’t stay in his office all day?

[Anonymous]

Career nanny here. Personally, I don’t mind parents working from home, nor do I mind their presence when they pop in and out. I’ve never worked with cameras but would be fine so long as they were disclosed. I think that I would also want access to the cameras so that I could see what was being filmed/recorded, with the obvious caveat that I would not access them outside of my working hours. At bare minimum, I would want the family to access the camera for me at that moment so that o could verify what they had just told me in regard to location, sound, and recording.

And yes, clearly some people shouldn’t have nannies and some people shouldn’t be nannies. Make sure that you are a good fit so that you are not unhappy with your nanny or your position.

As a woman, TRUST YOUR GUT! There are many creepy men out there. Personally, nothing in the post is too alarming, the camera issue is alarming but not in a way that would creep me out. But if you get a creepy vibe from the dad, you should move along.

[Anonymous]

This family is asking for a law suit for an accusation of unwanted sexual attention from the dad. Beyond stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This family is asking for a law suit for an accusation of unwanted sexual attention from the dad. Beyond stupid.

Where was anything mentioned about the father being sexual toward the nanny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been w/my current Nanny Family eleven months.
This position came from a previous family’s recommendation.
Both families are friends.

My charge, an eighteen-month old little girl is adorable, witty + very energetic.

When I initially interviewed w/this family, I noticed cameras when I was preparing to walk out the door.
I was surprised the parents didn’t mention them in the interview & when I asked about them, they casually shrugged and acted like they were not a big deal.
Even though they included audio which is illegal in my state (CA) w/out consent.

After two weeks, I let them know I felt really uncomfortable being audiotaped so they agreed to turn that off.

The past three months or so, the Father has been working from home.
All day.
Every single day.
He stays inside his upstairs bedroom, but comes down every now and then.
My charge is a okay w/it all, but I hate it!!

It’s like I never know when he is near, I will look up & see him there at random times.
Not to mention I do not really like his personality.

I feel like they should have given me a heads-up that a parent would be home all day.
I also feel like they should have told me about the cameras during our interview.
(Speaking of cameras, I have noticed since the Dad has been telecommuting, the cameras have been taken down.)

I am starting to feel a little suspicious of my employers.
They seem to be taking me for granted.
The reason I do not like the Father’s personality is that he treats me like the help.
Plus he doesn’t clean up the breakfast dishes, crumbs + floor at all before I arrive.
(Everyone is done w/breakfast when I arrive.)

What do you guys think?
Am I being treated fairly??

TIA.

Okay, I'm not going to speak to the rest, but why is it his job to make sure the kitchen is spotless before your arrival? That doesn't mean he thinks it's your job to clean it up.

--former nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies,

I am sometimes surprised at the posts that I see on here. This is just another one for the books! Let me see if I get this correct

1. Parents have cameras in the house that are OBVIOUSLY positioned (assumption of risk).

2. Father comes downstairs on occasion to check on his kid and the nanny

3. Nanny has issues with father coming downstairs and watching her take care of his child.

Sadly, this is exactly the same situation that I am in in as well. I also work from home, and I want to make sure my kid is ok, with a stranger. I have camera's in the house, so I don't have to 'hover' around constantly. It is less of a trust thing for the nanny, as much as it is an extra pair of eyes on my child.

To be honest, this is a problem. If you feel that your nanny is a "stranger", nanny care is not for you. You've trusted her enough to take care of your child, and that shouldn't depend on your periodic checks. A child under competent nanny care shouldn't need another pair of eyes on him.

I've looked for a trustworthy nanny for a long time. I occasionally work from home but stay out of her way except to breastfeed my baby. I would not hire anyone that I felt needed "an extra pair of eyes." Some people don't feel comfortable with their child under the care of a single unrelated caretaker, and that's OK. Group care is the answer in this case.

Generally a nanny, especially a new nanny is a stranger. He's probably coming down to eat or do other things.

She's been there for almost a year, hardly a stranger. Again, if you feel that way about nannies, you should not be leaving your children in their care.

I agree dad is probably going about his day vs. checking on nanny.

I am a Nanny, and I still DO NOT get why cameras its a such big deal for some Nannies. Cameras are everywhere nowadays. Nanny please see this situation as you were a parent. This is the way I see it: If I were a parent I would like to check once in while that everything is OK at home. Or just to see my baby playing, signing, laughing for a second. How about an emergency? How about If a robber gets in the house if you don't get any chance to call 911?

[Anonymous]

I am a Nanny, and I still DO NOT get why cameras its a such big deal for some Nannies. Cameras are everywhere nowadays. Nanny please see this situation as you were a parent. This is the way I see it: If I were a parent I would like to check once in while that everything is OK at home. Or just to see my baby playing, signing, laughing for a second. How about an emergency? How about If a robber gets in the house if you don't get any chance to call 911?

[Anonymous]

He’s probably busy trying to get started on his workday. You don’t need to clean up a huge mess. You clean up after the kids.

I don’t get why anyone cares if the employer works from home. As long as he’s not following you around and being critical, what’s the difference?

[Anonymous]

I am a Nanny too, and I don't get it either. As long as they aren't being disruptive, what is the problem with that? It's THEIR house.

[Anonymous]

Because there are some people that do not want to work in a home where the parent is also home.

The Nanny may be uncomfortable being alone in a single-family residence w/a Male.
She has every right.

Plus the man may not want to put himself in a situation that may look improper if appearances count.

The Nanny being filmed should have total access to ALL video which consists of her.
The owner(s) of the video should be prosecuted if they use the video inappropriately.
(Like to show other people.)

Too much of a slippery slope imo.