When extended family visits...

[Anonymous]

MBs family is here for the week and while I adore my NF I’m not to keen on either MBs or DBs extended family.

They tend to be confused about my role, and think it’s perfectly acceptable to leave dishes out for me to clean up. I empty/load dishwasher every morning as a “thank you” to my NF for being a great family but I don’t clean up after grown adults who are very much capable of rinsing out a bowl and putting it in the dishwasher.

I politely let MBs brother know I wasn’t going to wash his dishes, and that didn’t go over well. Is the next step to just allow dishes to pile up or address it with my employers?

Thanks in advance.

[Anonymous]

Just clean it up.

I assume with so many family members there you are made pretty redundant and have a lot of free time.

Make yourself useful. They’re there to spend time with their family, not clean up.

[Anonymous]

I would not clean up other adults stuff. Its rude and demeaning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just clean it up.

I assume with so many family members there you are made pretty redundant and have a lot of free time.

Make yourself useful. They’re there to spend time with their family, not clean up.

They are there to visit and not clean up? After themselves??? I am working and we have a total of 9 people in the house with both sets of grandparents. I generally help out a little more in regard to cleaning up after adults. One grandfather, particularly, never cleans up after himself. If they were all like this then I would let the dishes pile up, but we all like each other and jump in where needed.

What happened when you told your boss that you weren’t cleaning up after them?

[Anonymous]

Personally, I would let the dishes pile up. I wouldn’t say anything about it to my boss as it’s technically not part of your duties. In the future, you shouldn’t say anything to the extended family either.

[Anonymous]

MB. Yep, let them pile up!

[Anonymous]

I would not allow my family members to rely on our nanny for basic chores like dishes. She unloads the dishwasher as a favor to us but all adults are expected to take care of themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just clean it up.

I assume with so many family members there you are made pretty redundant and have a lot of free time.

Make yourself useful. They’re there to spend time with their family, not clean up.

Ugh... you, again.

You are wrong again. No surprise there.

OP, please talk to your employers. If my parents or siblings were doing this to our nanny I would certainly want to know and curtail it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MBs family is here for the week and while I adore my NF I’m not to keen on either MBs or DBs extended family.

They tend to be confused about my role, and think it’s perfectly acceptable to leave dishes out for me to clean up. I empty/load dishwasher every morning as a “thank you” to my NF for being a great family but I don’t clean up after grown adults who are very much capable of rinsing out a bowl and putting it in the dishwasher.

I politely let MBs brother know I wasn’t going to wash his dishes, and that didn’t go over well. Is the next step to just allow dishes to pile up or address it with my employers?

Thanks in advance.

Don't clean it up! Your a nanny not a dish washer! How dare they disrespect you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just clean it up.

I assume with so many family members there you are made pretty redundant and have a lot of free time.

Make yourself useful. They’re there to spend time with their family, not clean up.

Well said!! Nanny if you choose to fight you choose to find another job. The last time i checked being a basic care-taker didn't require any degrees or special training.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just clean it up.

I assume with so many family members there you are made pretty redundant and have a lot of free time.

Make yourself useful. They’re there to spend time with their family, not clean up.

Well said!! Nanny if you choose to fight you choose to find another job. The last time i checked being a basic care-taker didn't require any degrees or special training.

F off. You are not a nanny and do not employ a nanny. You are just the resident, fat and lonely troll.

[Anonymous]

Our resident troll makes the grand assumption that the extended family is playing and watching the children. Could not be farther from the truth in my job! My charge’s grandparents and aunt cold not possibly be less interested in my charge. There is zero redundancy. They do, however, clean up after themselves and make me gourmet lunches when they visit!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just clean it up.

I assume with so many family members there you are made pretty redundant and have a lot of free time.

Make yourself useful. They’re there to spend time with their family, not clean up.

Well said!! Nanny if you choose to fight you choose to find another job. The last time i checked being a basic care-taker didn't require any degrees or special training.

F off. You are not a nanny and do not employ a nanny. You are just the resident, fat and lonely troll.

1. I actually DO employee a nanny @ 14.00 in DC
2. It is factually true, your job profile does NOT require a degree, or really any education.
3. Most parents believe the more they pay the better service they get. You ride this fear, just like we do as lawyers
4. What scares nannies the most is the fear their job can quickly be outsourced to other high school students, or foreign workers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our resident troll makes the grand assumption that the extended family is playing and watching the children. Could not be farther from the truth in my job! My charge’s grandparents and aunt cold not possibly be less interested in my charge. There is zero redundancy. They do, however, clean up after themselves and make me gourmet lunches when they visit!

Currently my parents are staying with me and my wife. We also have a nanny as well, and I have found her job (nannies) has been heavily abated by the fact my parents are helping and taking care of our young child. The original poster is correct when he said the job is a bit redundant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just clean it up.

I assume with so many family members there you are made pretty redundant and have a lot of free time.

Make yourself useful. They’re there to spend time with their family, not clean up.

Well said!! Nanny if you choose to fight you choose to find another job. The last time i checked being a basic care-taker didn't require any degrees or special training.

F off. You are not a nanny and do not employ a nanny. You are just the resident, fat and lonely troll.

1. I actually DO employee a nanny @ 14.00 in DC
2. It is factually true, your job profile does NOT require a degree, or really any education.
3. Most parents believe the more they pay the better service they get. You ride this fear, just like we do as lawyers
4. What scares nannies the most is the fear their job can quickly be outsourced to other high school students, or foreign workers.

1. You’re cheap and clearly just want to be able to say you have a nanny to impress ppl. No one is impressed by your ability to outsource cheap care for your child except other cheap people.
2. But with a degree you can demand more and most families with sense actually like a nanny who is experienced and have some education.
3. The only person harping on this is you. It is well known you get what you pay for. So again, families with sense understand a nanny is a luxury not a right. You pay for what you want.
4. Doesn’t scare me one bit bc the families offering $15/hr aren’t families I would even reply too. High school students and foreign workers usually don’t know their worth. I’m happy they scoop up those jobs bc it’s easier for me to get the $20/hr and higher jobs.