Please correct me if I am wrong

[Anonymous]

Hi,
I just need advice. I am with a family almost two years and half. My shift is afternoon till evening. I am taking care of toddler. I started his taking care when he was only four month. So here is my issue the mom told me she will still need my care in future.
She had plan to have another baby and I will take care of my current charge as well. Since, he will be home after his pre school.
In last few months the husband and wife started issue. I never tried what was reason but they started marriage consulting.
She suddenly told me to leave . It’s good for her family if I leave.
She told me she will help me to find another job I meant she will give excellent reference.
Her husband told that wife want me to leave it’s good for their family. He told me infront of his wife .
I have respectful relations with both. I am confused why they want me to leave. We had great relationship. Still we have.
I cook for the family, before I started it was husband responsibility to cook.
Maybe she don’t want me to cook since she wants her husband to cook, I really don’t know what could be reason.
Whenever they asked me to work I worked. She told me I spend more time with my charge and she wants my charge to spend time with his brother.
I was okay to manage both kids. I meant I was able to not take my charge outside and try if they both brothers play.
The pain is I worked hard for the family. I did the tasks were not my responsibility. I did best job taking care of my charge
Then why Mom said it’s good for their family if I leave. She is still very caring and sweet with me.
Any thought?

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing they can't afford you if they're planning to separate. She probably saud, "it's what's best for our family," right?

[Anonymous]

It's not you. It sounds like the husband confessed to the wife he has a crush on you.

Just take their good recommendation and move on. Shit happens. This time it happened to you.

[Anonymous]

Op here I mostly talk infront of her with her husband. Any discussion I do with wife . Not with husband.
He is very nice too never tried to do something stupid. Very respectful to me. I feel pain since I worked hard for the family and I lost a great job opportunity bcs of them . I didn’t want to leave my charge.

[Anonymous]

I also think they might not be able to afford you or are looking for another form of child care like daycare. Another poster said maybe the dad confessed he had a crush, but based on your last comment op it seems you have minimal contact with dad. Op, I’m confused though, in the begginging of the post you said they were planning to have another child so would this be their 2nd or 3rd child? Because later on in the post you said your charge has a brother, so is this the baby that they planned on having or just a 2nd sibling and they still plan to have a 3rd? If it’s the first way, maybe they don’t plan on having another a child

[Anonymous]

Op here, Thanks for all replies. My charge is second child he has older brother. When I started working they told me they want to have another child. Now, they have issues which I don’t know reason so I don’t think they want another child.
So far what I guesss is ( husband had more responsibilities before I started working) he started to go out a lot after I started I was there to do his tasks . Wife don’t like he go out very often. It’s my guess not sure
I was very hurt when she said it’s good for our family if you leave. She is very nice with me .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, Thanks for all replies. My charge is second child he has older brother. When I started working they told me they want to have another child. Now, they have issues which I don’t know reason so I don’t think they want another child.
So far what I guesss is ( husband had more responsibilities before I started working) he started to go out a lot after I started I was there to do his tasks . Wife don’t like he go out very often. It’s my guess not sure
I was very hurt when she said it’s good for our family if you leave. She is very nice with me .

Oh ok I see. So I’m guessing they might not plan to have a 3rd. They’re hve Marriage problema and might be considering separation or divorce. As another poster said, it’s the not you. Have much notice did they give you? Also, ask if you can list them down as a reference since it seems you’ve been a good nanny to them

[Anonymous]

Yes , they are okay to give me glowing reference.
They gave me two week notice.

[Anonymous]

Your post was a little difficult to comprehend OP, but I think I got the gist of it.

I am guessing since the parents are having marital problems that things have taken a different path than the one that they originally had planned on.

Perhaps they are planning on a legal separation & will have less money to afford a Nanny.
That is my guess.
Or to cut co$t$, they are switching to daycare.

Whatever the reason, I am so sorry about the loss of your job so suddenly.
These situations are never easy.

Good luck to you in finding a new family to work for.
Hopefully you can/will find a great family to work for soon.

[Anonymous]

Is the older brother at least 12? They may have decided that he will be babysitting to “spend time with his brother.”

[Anonymous]

Op here the older is 5 years old.

[Anonymous]

They're probably getting a divorce and can't afford a nanny plus two households. That's my guess. Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Op here thanks for your reply. I felt the husband wants to keep me but the wife don’t want.
I have very respectful relationship with both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here the older is 5 years old.

Obviously not babysitting! But you don’t talk about ever having the 5 year old? Why aren’t they spending time together?!

[Anonymous]

Op here the five years old go to school in the morning and the he go to therapist he has ADHD.
He came home at 4.00. At 4.30 I take toddler to park or outside.
I don’t mind if I don’t take him so they spend time together. But Mom wants me to leave