They want me to work 14 hours for two weeks straight

[Anonymous]

Hi there, I am nanny and MB is going out of the country for 2 weeks. DB works everyday (except Sunday) from 7 am -6 pm. They have asked me if I can work 6 days a week from 6 am to 8 pm Monday to Saturday. I told them I would get back to them, mainly because I don’t feel comfortable saying yes. MB is a stay at home mom so I regularly only woke 8–4 Monday to Friday. I feel like 14 hours is too much to ask for. I was thinking of suggesting I work from 6 am - 2 pm and I have a friend (who has filled in for before when I have needed a day off) who can work 2-8 pm. My charges are almost 4 and 2. Youngest one is amazing and never gives any problems. Older one can be a lot to handle and it’s really hard to deal with her mainly because she refuses to do anything. She does go to school from 9-2 Monday to Wednesday but I just think it’s too much of them to ask. Should I suggest to them my friend? To be honest I really don’t want to come for 14 hours for 2 weeks. Sounds horrid especially because the older one is a nightmare

[Anonymous]

Just say "I am not available for those hours, but can split the shift with my friend Kim, who has covered for you before - I've already checked and she is available then. What I propose is working 6am - 2pm and Kim would take the 2-8pm shift. How does that sound to you?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi there, I am nanny and MB is going out of the country for 2 weeks. DB works everyday (except Sunday) from 7 am -6 pm. They have asked me if I can work 6 days a week from 6 am to 8 pm Monday to Saturday. I told them I would get back to them, mainly because I don’t feel comfortable saying yes. MB is a stay at home mom so I regularly only woke 8–4 Monday to Friday. I feel like 14 hours is too much to ask for. I was thinking of suggesting I work from 6 am - 2 pm and I have a friend (who has filled in for before when I have needed a day off) who can work 2-8 pm. My charges are almost 4 and 2. Youngest one is amazing and never gives any problems. Older one can be a lot to handle and it’s really hard to deal with her mainly because she refuses to do anything. She does go to school from 9-2 Monday to Wednesday but I just think it’s too much of them to ask. Should I suggest to them my friend? To be honest I really don’t want to come for 14 hours for 2 weeks. Sounds horrid especially because the older one is a nightmare

So, say so. They asked. They might have thought you'd be thrilled with the overtime. They will probably be happy that you have someone to fill in the extra time.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I think it’s great that you already have a solution prepared! I don’t see why not, as long as someone they know and trust is with the little ones. I would definitely offer that to them.

[Anonymous]

Op here, thanks for comments! I will let them know today ! I just wanted to know others thoughts on the matte. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

How much are they paying?

[Anonymous]

Most nannies work 9-10+ hours per day, so 14 is a little long, but nothing extraordinary, since it’s only 2 weeks and only 6 days. Heck, the older child is in school for a good portion, so it shouldn’t be that hard anyway. If you can’t handle the older child, maybe tell the family that they need to find someone else permanently and look for another position with more manageable children? The child’s going to develop more independence and attitude, not less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much are they paying?

Op here. They pay me $21/h. Anytime after 8 hours is OT at 1.5 the rate of $21 so $10.5+21= 31.5

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most nannies work 9-10+ hours per day, so 14 is a little long, but nothing extraordinary, since it’s only 2 weeks and only 6 days. Heck, the older child is in school for a good portion, so it shouldn’t be that hard anyway. If you can’t handle the older child, maybe tell the family that they need to find someone else permanently and look for another position with more manageable children? The child’s going to develop more independence and attitude, not less.

Op here, yes I am aware that most nannies work 9-10 + hours per day. I just find it sort of too much for me. I have bee worked for them passed 9 hours in one day, and by 8 hours I am ready to call it day and go home especially when I have the oldest all day.

[Anonymous]

You’re not obligated to work beyond your shift so don’t beat yourself up. I know most nannies work at a maximum of 12 hrs per day so 14 hrs is A LOT! I work 10.5 hrs and I am drained at the end of my shift. And I know how it can be working with a difficult child, you don’t want to passed your normal time and it doesn’t mean you love them any less. You providing them with a solution is perfect and I’m sure they will be happy and appreciate you making the effort to help them during this time.

[Anonymous]

Be firm- say no I'm sorry I'm not available after 4.
Don't be wishy washy. You can mention you have a friend who might have late afternoon/evening availability if they can't find anyone else.
-MB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re not obligated to work beyond your shift so don’t beat yourself up. I know most nannies work at a maximum of 12 hrs per day so 14 hrs is A LOT! I work 10.5 hrs and I am drained at the end of my shift. And I know how it can be working with a difficult child, you don’t want to passed your normal time and it doesn’t mean you love them any less. You providing them with a solution is perfect and I’m sure they will be happy and appreciate you making the effort to help them during this time.

Are you the OP of the other thread, working more than your scheduled shift? The one that got beat up for presumably not paying taxes?

[Anonymous]

Hi there, op here and no that was not me. I saw that post too and I believe the OP would work 8:30-5. I stayed in my post I usually work 8-4. My MB is a SAHM and the other post was a WAHM

[Anonymous]

Personally, I'd do it, no problem. I'd stash every extra dollar in savings for travel or whatever. If you don't need the money and don't have any savings goals, then by all means say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi there, I am nanny and MB is going out of the country for 2 weeks. DB works everyday (except Sunday) from 7 am -6 pm. They have asked me if I can work 6 days a week from 6 am to 8 pm Monday to Saturday. I told them I would get back to them, mainly because I don’t feel comfortable saying yes. MB is a stay at home mom so I regularly only woke 8–4 Monday to Friday. I feel like 14 hours is too much to ask for. I was thinking of suggesting I work from 6 am - 2 pm and I have a friend (who has filled in for before when I have needed a day off) who can work 2-8 pm. My charges are almost 4 and 2. Youngest one is amazing and never gives any problems. Older one can be a lot to handle and it’s really hard to deal with her mainly because she refuses to do anything. She does go to school from 9-2 Monday to Wednesday but I just think it’s too much of them to ask. Should I suggest to them my friend? To be honest I really don’t want to come for 14 hours for 2 weeks. Sounds horrid especially because the older one is a nightmare

If you don't want to - don't. But I have worked like that in the past and it isn't that bad - plus the extra money is wonderful!