I have no choice - I have to have a nanny who will do some cleaning

[Anonymous]

I am about to become a single parent with a newborn. My older child had the educated nanny who did his laundry and cooked/shopped for him and it was fantastic. However financial circumstances are not the same now and I need a nanny who will help a lot around our apartment (no care for the older child - just the newborn).

How do I find a loving, dependable nanny who will do some cleaning and all the laundry for the three of us?

[Anonymous]

You can find someone - just advertise for exactly what you want.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the poster above. Say you’re looking for a nanny/housekeeper who can do what you want. Make sure they are comfortable being a nanny and housekeeper. Don’t leave anything out.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately on a single mother’s income, it may be pretty expensive to find someone who will wear the three hats of maid, laundress + childcare provider.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the poster above. Say you’re looking for a nanny/housekeeper who can do what you want. Make sure they are comfortable being a nanny and housekeeper. Don’t leave anything out.

+1. It's all about being clear on your expectations. Most issues around cleaning, etc. arise when the family and the nanny are not on the same page about it. Spell out what you need and what you can afford to pay, and then evaluate your options based on who responds. You may be pleasantly surprised. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

OP here - and thank you. I will treat our nanny with respect and appreciation. She will only be caring for one newborn in a four room apartment. She will have ample places to walk with the baby as it is a safe and comfortable neighborhood. I just really need more help than I did with my oldest since there is no partner around. If my laundry is too much, she could just do the kids laundry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - and thank you. I will treat our nanny with respect and appreciation. She will only be caring for one newborn in a four room apartment. She will have ample places to walk with the baby as it is a safe and comfortable neighborhood. I just really need more help than I did with my oldest since there is no partner around. If my laundry is too much, she could just do the kids laundry.

What exactly are you looking for? As a nanny, I do grocery shopping for the family weekly, as well as all cooking for the kids (includes family dinner a few nights per week), and all kids’ laundry and keep kids’ toys and things tidy and organized. On a typical weeknight, my bosses come home to food on the table, kids bathed and in pajamas and a clean house. If they can stay organized and keep the kids from destroying everything, then all they have to do is eat dinner, read stories and put the kids to bed then do dinner dishes. I don’t wash dirty laundry or fold adult laundry, but I am always happy to rotate their laundry so that they can start it in the morning and come home and pull it out of the dryer. I unload the dishwashwr each morning and I wash all the dishes I use to feed the kids and to preparw dinner so they just have to lod dinner dishes and start it. I order or buy all kid staples (diapers, toothpaste, lotion, etc.) so the only shopping they have to do on weekends is for themselves or for seasonal things like new clothes (and even that I will got shop for with the kids during the week if parents prefer).

[Anonymous]

You say you have no choice, but you do. You are choosing to put more housework on the nanny. It'll make your life significantly easier, so I understand why you are choosing to do it, but it is still a choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You say you have no choice, but you do. You are choosing to put more housework on the nanny. It'll make your life significantly easier, so I understand why you are choosing to do it, but it is still a choice.

OP here. I have no choice in the sense that I cannot do the housework myself and cannot afford to pay for housecleaners. I wish I could have the teacher-nanny like I had for my first child but I cannot afford her anymore and I don’t have a partner to help me around the house. I need a housekeeper-nanny this time. And yes, I know, my baby will not have the same advantages that my son had.

[Anonymous]

Hello OP, I am available for the position you're looking for. We can have a talk if you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hello OP, I am available for the position you're looking for. We can have a talk if you want.

Are you in Los Angeles by chance? I am on the west side of LA.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You say you have no choice, but you do. You are choosing to put more housework on the nanny. It'll make your life significantly easier, so I understand why you are choosing to do it, but it is still a choice.

OP here. I have no choice in the sense that I cannot do the housework myself and cannot afford to pay for housecleaners. I wish I could have the teacher-nanny like I had for my first child but I cannot afford her anymore and I don’t have a partner to help me around the house. I need a housekeeper-nanny this time. And yes, I know, my baby will not have the same advantages that my son had.

Interesting. Many parents pay daycare, can't afford a maid and do their chores themselves. Is it a question of not being physically capable of taking care of an apartment or not having time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You say you have no choice, but you do. You are choosing to put more housework on the nanny. It'll make your life significantly easier, so I understand why you are choosing to do it, but it is still a choice.

OP here. I have no choice in the sense that I cannot do the housework myself and cannot afford to pay for housecleaners. I wish I could have the teacher-nanny like I had for my first child but I cannot afford her anymore and I don’t have a partner to help me around the house. I need a housekeeper-nanny this time. And yes, I know, my baby will not have the same advantages that my son had.

Interesting. Many parents pay daycare, can't afford a maid and do their chores themselves. Is it a question of not being physically capable of taking care of an apartment or not having time?

A nanny with one child can help out more. A SAHM does much much more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am about to become a single parent with a newborn. My older child had the educated nanny who did his laundry and cooked/shopped for him and it was fantastic. However financial circumstances are not the same now and I need a nanny who will help a lot around our apartment (no care for the older child - just the newborn).

How do I find a loving, dependable nanny who will do some cleaning and all the laundry for the three of us?

Pay $30/hr! Who is taking care of older child when he is sick, school closing, holidays?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You say you have no choice, but you do. You are choosing to put more housework on the nanny. It'll make your life significantly easier, so I understand why you are choosing to do it, but it is still a choice.

OP here. I have no choice in the sense that I cannot do the housework myself and cannot afford to pay for housecleaners. I wish I could have the teacher-nanny like I had for my first child but I cannot afford her anymore and I don’t have a partner to help me around the house. I need a housekeeper-nanny this time. And yes, I know, my baby will not have the same advantages that my son had.

Interesting. Many parents pay daycare, can't afford a maid and do their chores themselves. Is it a question of not being physically capable of taking care of an apartment or not having time?

OP here. Then they are clearly better than me. I simply can't do it after work - I know how tired I was when my older child was a newborn and can't imagine it as a single mother with an older child to care for at night.

And I will pay the nanny more on the very, very few days that my older child has a school holiday and I have to work. For sick days for either child, I will stay home.