I have no choice - I have to have a nanny who will do some cleaning

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am about to become a single parent with a newborn. My older child had the educated nanny who did his laundry and cooked/shopped for him and it was fantastic. However financial circumstances are not the same now and I need a nanny who will help a lot around our apartment (no care for the older child - just the newborn).

How do I find a loving, dependable nanny who will do some cleaning and all the laundry for the three of us?

Pay $30/hr! Who is taking care of older child when he is sick, school closing, holidays?

OP can get someone for $20 an hour easily. Be real. She is not asking for a college graduate.

[Anonymous]

Just consider getting a once a week cleaning service for $75-100. No need to pay a fortune for a nanny to take on the extra cleaning.

[Anonymous]

You have to do what is best for your entire family, OP. Yes, you can find a nanny for around $20 who will do chores and take care of the baby.

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Anonymous wrote:You have to do what is best for your entire family, OP. Yes, you can find a nanny for around $20 who will do chores and take care of the baby.

I agree, and I hope you will report back in a few months to correct the impression that nannies are inflexible and won't do household chores.

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Anonymous wrote:You say you have no choice, but you do. You are choosing to put more housework on the nanny. It'll make your life significantly easier, so I understand why you are choosing to do it, but it is still a choice.

OP here. I have no choice in the sense that I cannot do the housework myself and cannot afford to pay for housecleaners. I wish I could have the teacher-nanny like I had for my first child but I cannot afford her anymore and I don’t have a partner to help me around the house. I need a housekeeper-nanny this time. And yes, I know, my baby will not have the same advantages that my son had.

Interesting. Many parents pay daycare, can't afford a maid and do their chores themselves. Is it a question of not being physically capable of taking care of an apartment or not having time?

OP here. Then they are clearly better than me. I simply can't do it after work - I know how tired I was when my older child was a newborn and can't imagine it as a single mother with an older child to care for at night.

And I will pay the nanny more on the very, very few days that my older child has a school holiday and I have to work. For sick days for either child, I will stay home.

You clean up as you go along. It is ridiculous to say that you cannot take 30 minutes every night to put things away, leave kitchen clean with dishes in dishwasher. Millions of women work and come home and do this every day of the year. If you can't then it is simply just being lazy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You say you have no choice, but you do. You are choosing to put more housework on the nanny. It'll make your life significantly easier, so I understand why you are choosing to do it, but it is still a choice.

OP here. I have no choice in the sense that I cannot do the housework myself and cannot afford to pay for housecleaners. I wish I could have the teacher-nanny like I had for my first child but I cannot afford her anymore and I don’t have a partner to help me around the house. I need a housekeeper-nanny this time. And yes, I know, my baby will not have the same advantages that my son had.

Interesting. Many parents pay daycare, can't afford a maid and do their chores themselves. Is it a question of not being physically capable of taking care of an apartment or not having time?

OP here. Then they are clearly better than me. I simply can't do it after work - I know how tired I was when my older child was a newborn and can't imagine it as a single mother with an older child to care for at night.

And I will pay the nanny more on the very, very few days that my older child has a school holiday and I have to work. For sick days for either child, I will stay home.

You clean up as you go along. It is ridiculous to say that you cannot take 30 minutes every night to put things away, leave kitchen clean with dishes in dishwasher. Millions of women work and come home and do this every day of the year. If you can't then it is simply just being lazy.

This is true but the OP is a single mom who wants help. We don't know her profession or her physical condition, so if she can find what she wants, what is the harm in paying for the help.

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My mom was a single mom and there were four of us. She did everything and I don’t know how she accomplished half the stuff she did! It would’ve been nice and made things a hell of a lot easier if she could’ve afforded help, so I don’t blame this mom for reaching out.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - and thank you. I will treat our nanny with respect and appreciation. She will only be caring for one newborn in a four room apartment. She will have ample places to walk with the baby as it is a safe and comfortable neighborhood. I just really need more help than I did with my oldest since there is no partner around. If my laundry is too much, she could just do the kids laundry.

What exactly are you looking for? As a nanny, I do grocery shopping for the family weekly, as well as all cooking for the kids (includes family dinner a few nights per week), and all kids’ laundry and keep kids’ toys and things tidy and organized. On a typical weeknight, my bosses come home to food on the table, kids bathed and in pajamas and a clean house. If they can stay organized and keep the kids from destroying everything, then all they have to do is eat dinner, read stories and put the kids to bed then do dinner dishes. I don’t wash dirty laundry or fold adult laundry, but I am always happy to rotate their laundry so that they can start it in the morning and come home and pull it out of the dryer. I unload the dishwashwr each morning and I wash all the dishes I use to feed the kids and to preparw dinner so they just have to lod dinner dishes and start it. I order or buy all kid staples (diapers, toothpaste, lotion, etc.) so the only shopping they have to do on weekends is for themselves or for seasonal things like new clothes (and even that I will got shop for with the kids during the week if parents prefer).

Holy cow you’re amazing.

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Anonymous wrote:You say you have no choice, but you do. You are choosing to put more housework on the nanny. It'll make your life significantly easier, so I understand why you are choosing to do it, but it is still a choice.

OP here. I have no choice in the sense that I cannot do the housework myself and cannot afford to pay for housecleaners. I wish I could have the teacher-nanny like I had for my first child but I cannot afford her anymore and I don’t have a partner to help me around the house. I need a housekeeper-nanny this time. And yes, I know, my baby will not have the same advantages that my son had.

Interesting. Many parents pay daycare, can't afford a maid and do their chores themselves. Is it a question of not being physically capable of taking care of an apartment or not having time?

OP here. Then they are clearly better than me. I simply can't do it after work - I know how tired I was when my older child was a newborn and can't imagine it as a single mother with an older child to care for at night.

And I will pay the nanny more on the very, very few days that my older child has a school holiday and I have to work. For sick days for either child, I will stay home.

You clean up as you go along. It is ridiculous to say that you cannot take 30 minutes every night to put things away, leave kitchen clean with dishes in dishwasher. Millions of women work and come home and do this every day of the year. If you can't then it is simply just being lazy.

This is true but the OP is a single mom who wants help. We don't know her profession or her physical condition, so if she can find what she wants, what is the harm in paying for the help.

Even with my spouse, I can't balance my job, my family, and household maintenance without help. Call me a lazy a##hole if you want. Kudos to the OP for recognizing her needs and getting the help she needs for her and her family.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - and thank you. I will treat our nanny with respect and appreciation. She will only be caring for one newborn in a four room apartment. She will have ample places to walk with the baby as it is a safe and comfortable neighborhood. I just really need more help than I did with my oldest since there is no partner around. If my laundry is too much, she could just do the kids laundry.

I think you will find a housekeeper/nanny who would do this but you will likely have to compromise on their English fluency and experience/education. I also live in West LA. Have you signed up for Nextdoor?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - and thank you. I will treat our nanny with respect and appreciation. She will only be caring for one newborn in a four room apartment. She will have ample places to walk with the baby as it is a safe and comfortable neighborhood. I just really need more help than I did with my oldest since there is no partner around. If my laundry is too much, she could just do the kids laundry.

What exactly are you looking for? As a nanny, I do grocery shopping for the family weekly, as well as all cooking for the kids (includes family dinner a few nights per week), and all kids’ laundry and keep kids’ toys and things tidy and organized. On a typical weeknight, my bosses come home to food on the table, kids bathed and in pajamas and a clean house. If they can stay organized and keep the kids from destroying everything, then all they have to do is eat dinner, read stories and put the kids to bed then do dinner dishes. I don’t wash dirty laundry or fold adult laundry, but I am always happy to rotate their laundry so that they can start it in the morning and come home and pull it out of the dryer. I unload the dishwashwr each morning and I wash all the dishes I use to feed the kids and to preparw dinner so they just have to lod dinner dishes and start it. I order or buy all kid staples (diapers, toothpaste, lotion, etc.) so the only shopping they have to do on weekends is for themselves or for seasonal things like new clothes (and even that I will got shop for with the kids during the week if parents prefer).

Holy cow you’re amazing.

May I ask what your compensation package is? I am looking for someone just like you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - and thank you. I will treat our nanny with respect and appreciation. She will only be caring for one newborn in a four room apartment. She will have ample places to walk with the baby as it is a safe and comfortable neighborhood. I just really need more help than I did with my oldest since there is no partner around. If my laundry is too much, she could just do the kids laundry.

I think you will find a housekeeper/nanny who would do this but you will likely have to compromise on their English fluency and experience/education. I also live in West LA. Have you signed up for Nextdoor?

+1. This is a great resource in LA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am about to become a single parent with a newborn. My older child had the educated nanny who did his laundry and cooked/shopped for him and it was fantastic. However financial circumstances are not the same now and I need a nanny who will help a lot around our apartment (no care for the older child - just the newborn).

How do I find a loving, dependable nanny who will do some cleaning and all the laundry for the three of us?

Totally fine. Babies nap 3x a day, toddlers nap 2x a day and preK naps 1x a day. Plenty of time to keep things tidy or fold clothes.
Our nanny of 6 years always kept things looking good (as did we), did laundry and later some groceries.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am about to become a single parent with a newborn. My older child had the educated nanny who did his laundry and cooked/shopped for him and it was fantastic. However financial circumstances are not the same now and I need a nanny who will help a lot around our apartment (no care for the older child - just the newborn).

How do I find a loving, dependable nanny who will do some cleaning and all the laundry for the three of us?

Totally fine. Babies nap 3x a day, toddlers nap 2x a day and preK naps 1x a day. Plenty of time to keep things tidy or fold clothes.
Our nanny of 6 years always kept things looking good (as did we), did laundry and later some groceries.

My charge naps 3x a day while I’m there but only for 20-30 mins. That’s when I take my breaks. So I wouldn’t not accept this position even if the baby was spending 1+ hours sleeping. A nanny should have a break when the charge is sleeping. That’s just me. If baby is napping 3+ hours a day then maybe the nanny can get to some housework

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You say you have no choice, but you do. You are choosing to put more housework on the nanny. It'll make your life significantly easier, so I understand why you are choosing to do it, but it is still a choice.

OP here. I have no choice in the sense that I cannot do the housework myself and cannot afford to pay for housecleaners. I wish I could have the teacher-nanny like I had for my first child but I cannot afford her anymore and I don’t have a partner to help me around the house. I need a housekeeper-nanny this time. And yes, I know, my baby will not have the same advantages that my son had.

Interesting. Many parents pay daycare, can't afford a maid and do their chores themselves. Is it a question of not being physically capable of taking care of an apartment or not having time?

OP here. Then they are clearly better than me. I simply can't do it after work - I know how tired I was when my older child was a newborn and can't imagine it as a single mother with an older child to care for at night.

And I will pay the nanny more on the very, very few days that my older child has a school holiday and I have to work. For sick days for either child, I will stay home.

You clean up as you go along. It is ridiculous to say that you cannot take 30 minutes every night to put things away, leave kitchen clean with dishes in dishwasher. Millions of women work and come home and do this every day of the year. If you can't then it is simply just being lazy.

Are you the same bitter person who post negative comments on all posts? OP doesn’t need to justify why she need help!