My MB may be on the autistic spectrum

[Anonymous]

MB is perhaps the rudest woman I have ever encountered in my life! She never says thank you; will walk through the kitchen first thing in the morning without even acknowledging my presence; never says good-bye when I leave; never has given me a compliment. She seems oblivious to common practices in polite society. I have been with this family for four years and in those four years she has been passed up for promotions at work every single year and her "team" never stays with her. Her DH does whatever she says - I have never once seen her vacuum or clean a bathroom but he will rush in from work and do it.

Oddly, I still like her. More importantly, I love their child.

The more I learn about autism (what they used to call Aspergers), the more I think she may well be on the spectrum. I have no clue what is wrong with DB aside from being totally whipped.

Here is why I am posting: as nannies, our employers may well have issues and problems that we will see clearly and really don't reflect our work at all.

[Anonymous]

I agree. My employers have a terrible marriage and are most likely headed for divorce. Their rude behavior towards me has nothing to do with me.

[Anonymous]

As nannies, we see parents with their guards down at home - we see a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As nannies, we see parents with their guards down at home - we see a lot.

I often wonder if the employers of nannies know how much the nanny knows about them...

[Anonymous]

The thread title made me laugh out loud!

I think my MB is bipolar!

[Anonymous]

Even if your MomBoss DOES have Autism, she should still be polite to you.

Autism is not a free pass to be rude to someone else.

[Anonymous]

This has nothing to do with Autism and do you have the proper credentials to diagnose?

[Anonymous]

Why do people think rude= autism?

Maybe she’s just rude?

I had an employer who had HFA and she was a legitimate genius as well.

Best boss I ever had. Communicating was easy because she was blunt and matter of fact. She sometimes said things without thinking but was pretty good at realizing it and apologizing.

I much preferered her and her quirks to other employers who wee “nice” but not kind.

Best family, adored the kids and still see them regularly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has nothing to do with Autism and do you have the proper credentials to diagnose?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has nothing to do with Autism and do you have the proper credentials to diagnose?

+1

OP said "MB may be on the autistic spectrum". Anyone has the credentials to speculate.

Calm down.

[Anonymous]

She may or may not be on the Autism Spectrum.

You, on the other hand, are definitely rude and judgmental.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She may or may not be on the Autism Spectrum.

You, on the other hand, are definitely rude and judgmental.

Oh, calm down, Crazy Poster! OP said she still liked her and loved the woman's child. Did this hit a little close to home for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even if your MomBoss DOES have Autism, she should still be polite to you.

Autism is not a free pass to be rude to someone else.

Autistic people have trouble understanding social rules. It is not obvious to them that saying hello etc is required to be polite.

[Anonymous]

I have a former employer - the DB - who is simply rude. This man is such a phony and truly a pig. I wish he had a "condition" it could be blamed on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a former employer - the DB - who is simply rude. This man is such a phony and truly a pig. I wish he had a "condition" it could be blamed on.

+1 I had a high profile DB like this - so pathetically phony. He basically ignored his boys when no one was looking but put on such a show of fatherhood when anyone of 'importance" was around. His posts about the importance of family could make you puke. "Rude" does not adequately describe him.