What to do about mb always being late?

[Anonymous]

I'm so frustrated. She doesn't apologise and I don't get paid extra. Why can't she come home on time? 10 hours is a long day already! 30 more minutes really makes a huge difference. I can go to a yoga class or spend more time with my family.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you need to quit. Lot's of selfish mbs out there. They like to take advantage of nannies.

[Anonymous]

"Mb, I just wanted to let you know about my late policy:
beginning in 2018 I will be charging a late fee of $2 for every minute someone is late relieving me past five minutes beyond when I'm supposed to leave. If someone is late more than three times in a month, I will be giving my notice."

[Anonymous]

I would not tolerate that, OP.

[Anonymous]

Oh my GOSH!!! My employers do the SAME thing to be 4 or 5 nights a week. I end up working 60-70 hours in a week, and NEVER get extra money for the extra hours. Last week it was a sale at bloomingdales that kept her from getting home in time so that I could make my doctor's appointment for my broken ankle (that I broke at their house because their dog tripped me, no less!). I have been late ONE time in a whole year of employment and they threatened to "let me go" because it caused chaos in their day. They never seem to consider that them getting home at 8 or 9 causes chaos in my life. I have things I need to do too!

[Anonymous]

They take advantage of you because you slide them to do so. Be assertive and tell them "no more." Presumably, you have a signed contract with your hours specified.

[Anonymous]

Talk to them, OP. That really is all you can do. Tell them that you have to be out the door right at * o'clock as specified in your contract and point out how many times they have been late.

Make sure you are NEVER late. I have never once been late to work so I have firm ground to stand on when I demand my employers be precise.

[Anonymous]

Start being late while you find a new job. Lol.

[Anonymous]

You should have kept track of all the times they have been late. You are an hourly employees and they must pay you for all time worked and pay OT, if over 40 hours. Present her with an invoice!

[Anonymous]

Ugh, I hate threads like this: my employer is doing Unacceptable Thing and I can’t figure out how to make them stop, and yes they have been doing it for a long time and no I have never mentioned it. Use your words! It is so much easier to bring this stuff up early on than to ignore it for months or years and then have a big discussion.

At this point, you should ask her for a sit down. Explain that A) You are an hourly employee who must be paid for all work, B), you have currently been donating X time each week by working for free and you can no longer continue that (this will work best if you have actual records of what time she arrives for a few weeks prior)
C) Describe what you want: on days when you are not here by X time I am going to...drop the kids at grandma’s, take them home with me, etc. Tell her that you will need to chargw your full rate for all time the children are with you. If you are happy to adjust your work hours by 30 min but need to be paid for that time, tell her that. If you don’t want to work past your wnd time, tell her that.
D) Start looking for a new job now, right away, because an employer who is late and doesn’t pay you doesn’t care much about you in any case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, I hate threads like this: my employer is doing Unacceptable Thing and I can’t figure out how to make them stop, and yes they have been doing it for a long time and no I have never mentioned it. Use your words! It is so much easier to bring this stuff up early on than to ignore it for months or years and then have a big discussion.

At this point, you should ask her for a sit down. Explain that A) You are an hourly employee who must be paid for all work, B), you have currently been donating X time each week by working for free and you can no longer continue that (this will work best if you have actual records of what time she arrives for a few weeks prior)
C) Describe what you want: on days when you are not here by X time I am going to...drop the kids at grandma’s, take them home with me, etc. Tell her that you will need to chargw your full rate for all time the children are with you. If you are happy to adjust your work hours by 30 min but need to be paid for that time, tell her that. If you don’t want to work past your wnd time, tell her that.
D) Start looking for a new job now, right away, because an employer who is late and doesn’t pay you doesn’t care much about you in any case.

This, OP. You teach people how to treat you (and not just employers - all people).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, I hate threads like this: my employer is doing Unacceptable Thing and I can’t figure out how to make them stop, and yes they have been doing it for a long time and no I have never mentioned it. Use your words! It is so much easier to bring this stuff up early on than to ignore it for months or years and then have a big discussion.

At this point, you should ask her for a sit down. Explain that A) You are an hourly employee who must be paid for all work, B), you have currently been donating X time each week by working for free and you can no longer continue that (this will work best if you have actual records of what time she arrives for a few weeks prior)
C) Describe what you want: on days when you are not here by X time I am going to...drop the kids at grandma’s, take them home with me, etc. Tell her that you will need to chargw your full rate for all time the children are with you. If you are happy to adjust your work hours by 30 min but need to be paid for that time, tell her that. If you don’t want to work past your wnd time, tell her that.
D) Start looking for a new job now, right away, because an employer who is late and doesn’t pay you doesn’t care much about you in any case.

Op here: This is only week 2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, I hate threads like this: my employer is doing Unacceptable Thing and I can’t figure out how to make them stop, and yes they have been doing it for a long time and no I have never mentioned it. Use your words! It is so much easier to bring this stuff up early on than to ignore it for months or years and then have a big discussion.

At this point, you should ask her for a sit down. Explain that A) You are an hourly employee who must be paid for all work, B), you have currently been donating X time each week by working for free and you can no longer continue that (this will work best if you have actual records of what time she arrives for a few weeks prior)
C) Describe what you want: on days when you are not here by X time I am going to...drop the kids at grandma’s, take them home with me, etc. Tell her that you will need to chargw your full rate for all time the children are with you. If you are happy to adjust your work hours by 30 min but need to be paid for that time, tell her that. If you don’t want to work past your wnd time, tell her that.
D) Start looking for a new job now, right away, because an employer who is late and doesn’t pay you doesn’t care much about you in any case.

Op here: This is only week 2.

Perfect. It's Saturday, let her know that you need to have a discussion PRIOR to starting on Monday morning. Detail how much she owes you at the meeting, let her know that you either expect a call to let you know that she will be late AND the appropriate pay for the entire amount of time worked OR she needs to decide what happens when she is inevitably late again. Explain that you have your own things to do after work, and you will have to have either of the former in writing added to the contract, or you will have to find another position.

[Anonymous]

I go through this in my nanny share but it’s only one family being late. My anniversary is coming up and I’m going to mentioned moving forward, I need to be compensated and I will not be able to accommodate the extra “unexpected” time, every time- I have a life too. If they continue I would be forced to leave. It’s been a year of ongoing shit, seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Start being late while you find a new job. Lol.

Lol. Just tell her what you just wrote. If she doesn't apologize then find a new job. I loved my former employer she would pay me if the grandmother showed up even 2 mins. Late.
Good,luck