Nanny gave two weeks notice but we found someone to start sooner

[Anonymous]

Our nanny, who has been working with our family since August, gave two weeks notice on Monday. Her reasons are that she found another job that pays more and she feels we are not strict enough with our two year old (28 month old) daughter. For instance, the nanny said she will not play/engage with my daughter until my daughter says good morning -- even though my daughter will have just woken up 5 minutes prior; my daughter always gives her a kiss goodbye and waves goodbye. The nanny thinks it is disrespectful when my daughter doesn't want to share her toys with the nanny. In short, the nanny has many wonderful strengths, but it is not a good fit anyway. We were actually considering replacing her, at which time we were planning on giving her time to find a new family and paying out her two weeks of vacation. However, now that she is the one who ended it (and was pretty self righteous about it all), I am not feeling the need to be nearly as generous.

Amazingly, we just found a new nanny today who wants to/can start on Monday. It works well for me because I can fairly easily take off Thanksgiving week and transition her in. Our current nanny gets Federal holidays off with pay and we were additionally planning on giving her Friday off with pay.

My question is, do we have to pay her for next week? Any other thoughts or guidance is most welcome. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you pay her for next week, unless she says her new family will let her start on Monday. She may not tell you the truth about that, but that's the risk you take.

Or, ask your new nanny to wait a week.

[Anonymous]

Does she have two weeks of vacation that are supposed to be of her choice? If at least one of the weeks is your choice, you could just count next week towards that. But otherwise you should just pay her the time to avoid any trouble or lingering ill will... Kind of mean to take away pay at a major holiday time in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

You pay her, cheapskate.

[Anonymous]

Yes, of course you have to pay her.

[Anonymous]

Yes! Pay her for next week! Geez, why would you even think that you shouldn't?

I am an MB, btw.

[Anonymous]

I would Have her come in Mon- wed and help with the transition

[Anonymous]

If you don't pay her for the full two weeks,
her next employer will get no notice.

Some nannies (and parents) have to learn the hard way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you don't pay her for the full two weeks,
her next employer will get no notice.

Some nannies (and parents) have to learn the hard way.

Yep. This is exactly why nannies ghost people and suddenly quit or tell you she’s moving to Spain Monday. Because often when we try to do the right thing and give notice we get screwed.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for the feedback! I am new to the world of nannies and appreciate the help making the right choice. I will definitely pay her last week.

[Anonymous]

She sounds pretty awful and if i were you, i wouldn’t have her come back and i wouldn’t have her interacting with the new nanny. She sounds toxic. Whether you pay her is up to you, it given the circumstances, I’d say you are ok giving her notice today that Friday is her last day.

[Anonymous]

THink about whether she has any vacation payout coming also.

If she does then I'd be more ok w/ you just saying that Friday can be her last day.

[Anonymous]

Yes. No question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don't pay her for the full two weeks,
her next employer will get no notice.

Some nannies (and parents) have to learn the hard way.

Yep. This is exactly why nannies ghost people and suddenly quit or tell you she’s moving to Spain Monday. Because often when we try to do the right thing and give notice we get screwed.

+1,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny, who has been working with our family since August, gave two weeks notice on Monday. Her reasons are that she found another job that pays more and she feels we are not strict enough with our two year old (28 month old) daughter. For instance, the nanny said she will not play/engage with my daughter until my daughter says good morning -- even though my daughter will have just woken up 5 minutes prior; my daughter always gives her a kiss goodbye and waves goodbye. The nanny thinks it is disrespectful when my daughter doesn't want to share her toys with the nanny. In short, the nanny has many wonderful strengths, but it is not a good fit anyway. We were actually considering replacing her, at which time we were planning on giving her time to find a new family and paying out her two weeks of vacation. However, now that she is the one who ended it (and was pretty self righteous about it all), I am not feeling the need to be nearly as generous.

Amazingly, we just found a new nanny today who wants to/can start on Monday. It works well for me because I can fairly easily take off Thanksgiving week and transition her in. Our current nanny gets Federal holidays off with pay and we were additionally planning on giving her Friday off with pay.

My question is, do we have to pay her for next week? Any other thoughts or guidance is most welcome. Thank you.

Okay, so nanny says good morning to the child, then waits for acknowledgement before engaging again? That's a harmless way to teach the child to respond and be polite. And if she's an only child, yes, she has to be taught go share, it won't come naturally like it does with siblings. Your examples don't show her being super strict, can you give more examples please? I'm not understanding why this nanny is so bad.