family members at home

[Anonymous]

When nanny is working, what are your views on this as a nanny? Would you be upset if a family member was suddenly in the house all the time when you were on shift?

[Anonymous]

It is always there right to have in their home anyone they want, so I would not feel justified in complaining about it to them or asking them to change it, but depending on the layout of the house, who it was, how our interactions went to, the ages of the children, and many other factors, it might really negatively impact my job satisfaction and speed up the point at which I will need to quit.

[Anonymous]

I would not allow any kind of interference that might create confusion for the child.

[Anonymous]

A family member as in a parent? Or do you mean a family member as in a grandparent or older sibling?

A parent is a deal-breaker for me. I like having autonomy when it comes to my charge and a parent being present makes it harder for my charge. A grandparent or older sibling doesn't bother me.

[Anonymous]

Its their house. It may be your workspace but ultimately it is their home and they are paying you to do your job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its their house. It may be your workspace but ultimately it is their home and they are paying you to do your job.

Since OP used the word "suddenly", I am assuming the family member present was not part of the initial agreement - thus not the job she was hired to do. We also don't know if this is the family member's home ( could be an out of work brother in law).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its their house. It may be your workspace but ultimately it is their home and they are paying you to do your job.

Since OP used the word "suddenly", I am assuming the family member present was not part of the initial agreement - thus not the job she was hired to do. We also don't know if this is the family member's home ( could be an out of work brother in law).

It does not matter. You are working in someone's home. You cannot expect them to leave the 8-10 hours you are there. And, if you don't want anyone around, what do you have to hide?

[Anonymous]

I am the nanny and it is my DB's brother who is always around every afternoon I work. I didn't take on the job with the expectation that a family member would always be in the house. He sings loudly,can be disruptive and it seems my bosses appreciate me less now he is around

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its their house. It may be your workspace but ultimately it is their home and they are paying you to do your job.

Since OP used the word "suddenly", I am assuming the family member present was not part of the initial agreement - thus not the job she was hired to do. We also don't know if this is the family member's home ( could be an out of work brother in law).

It does not matter. You are working in someone's home. You cannot expect them to leave the 8-10 hours you are there. And, if you don't want anyone around, what do you have to hide?

You don't have children, do you? Anyone with children knows that the children generally want to be with their parents if they are home and it is hard to go about their routine. There are cameras where I work. I have nothing to hide. I simply want what is in my charge's best interest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the nanny and it is my DB's brother who is always around every afternoon I work. I didn't take on the job with the expectation that a family member would always be in the house. He sings loudly,can be disruptive and it seems my bosses appreciate me less now he is around

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Not okay, OP. Talk to the brother and express your feelings and then talk to your employers. Personally, I would not be okay with the brother in the house.

[Anonymous]

This was me thing we screened for when we hired our nanny. My parents live out of town and may visit for a few days at a time here or there, DH works at night sometimes and is home sleeping during the day, I may take a day off work to get some things done around the house, etc. People had very different tolerances to family being in the home while they were working. I don't think there is a universal right answer to this. Only what works for you and your NF.

[Anonymous]

No. Just no. I would not feel comfortable with the brother there all afternoon! Is he living there? Why doesn't he go home?

[Anonymous]

I would if the family member started micromanaging me.

Or if this particular person would tell my MB certain things that I did during my shift.

I wouldn’t want them around all day long though.
It would change the good dynamic too much.

[Anonymous]

He is living there, occasionally he goes out but not very often

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its their house. It may be your workspace but ultimately it is their home and they are paying you to do your job.

Since OP used the word "suddenly", I am assuming the family member present was not part of the initial agreement - thus not the job she was hired to do. We also don't know if this is the family member's home ( could be an out of work brother in law).

It does not matter. You are working in someone's home. You cannot expect them to leave the 8-10 hours you are there. And, if you don't want anyone around, what do you have to hide?

Your ignorance is astounding.