Nanny is tough
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Anonymous
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We have a great nanny who has been with our family since DD - now 2 - was born. She is fantastic and in no way in danger of losing her job with us. She has a degree in ECD and was a preschool teacher for many years. She and I agree on positive discipline, engagement, talking, etc. The only difference is that Nanny will simply ignore DD when she throws a tantrum about something. Nanny explains once and never gives in. After the tantrum, she and DD talk about what happened. Nanny also has a naturally stern voice and, I think, sometimes she scares DD.
DH and I are far more willing to give in a little when possible. Just wondering if this is going to be a problem. DD loves her nanny so much and I don't want this to change. Thanks. |
Anonymous
| You're the problem. Follow your nanny and your child will not be a brat. |
Anonymous
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She’s obviously doing something right if your child loves her.
She sounds like a great nanny! |
Anonymous
| I’m an MB, and your nanny is responding appropriately. If you give in to a tantrum, you increase future tantrums. In a few months you’ll wonder why your child is so well behaved for nanny but not for you. |
Anonymous
| Never give in to tantrums. Thats a sure fire way to guarantee more tantrums in the future. |
Anonymous
| Why would you give in? That's bad parenting. |
Anonymous
| I'm very similar to your nanny. During a tantrum I don't even give eye contact . I usually start cleaning and ignore until it's over. |
Anonymous
Bingo. I think you should learn from nanny and ignore tantrums too. Nip it in the bud. |
Anonymous
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My then toddler only threw fits when I changed his diaper. Never when his nanny did. Once, in exasperation, I said to him during a diaper change tantrum, "why don't you ever do this with nanny?!" And through his tears he yelled back, "Because Nanny means it!"
Humbling moment for me... |
Anonymous
| Children learn very quickly those who mean business and those who are push overs. Sadly, most parents are push overs |
Anonymous
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Your Nanny is reacting appropriately to your daughter’s behavior.
She sounds like she has set certain boundaries & is remaining consistent in her establishment of them. Kudos for her. You will have a child who will grow up knowing her behavior will always have consequences. Refreshing. Congrats. You sound like you have a keeper for a Nanny! 
Do not let her know you think she is tough. She sounds like she is worth her weight in pure gold! |
Anonymous
| She sounds wonderful. Talking it out afterwards shows that she is really caring while teaching DD appropriate behavior. |
Anonymous
| You dont deserve her. |
Anonymous
| Why is this a problem sounds like she's doing a pretty good job |
Anonymous
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Your nanny is doing a great job, OP.
Everybody gave you great advice. Nanny- |