Pregnant nanny

[Anonymous]

Just found out I'm pregnant, it's super early. My question is when should I disclose this to the family I work for?
I work about 50 hours a week but my doctors office can accommodate appointments on weekends. Thoughts? I have no intention of coming back to work once I have the baby. I was thinking of giving 4-8 weeks notice at the start of my second trimester. Does this seem reasonable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just found out I'm pregnant, it's super early. My question is when should I disclose this to the family I work for?
I work about 50 hours a week but my doctors office can accommodate appointments on weekends. Thoughts? I have no intention of coming back to work once I have the baby. I was thinking of giving 4-8 weeks notice at the start of my second trimester. Does this seem reasonable?

If you're not planning to return to work, don't give them the option to fire you before you're ready to leave! You don't need to negotiate maternity leave, so there's no real reason for them to know. Don't disclose, and 4-8 weeks seems very generous.

[Anonymous]

I think 4-8 weeks notice at the start of the second tri is more than fair.

[Anonymous]

Go with 2-4 wks and if they're really in a bind then you can increase to 8 but don't start with that unless you're OK with the possibility of only working 2 of the 8.

[Anonymous]

Do not tell until you are ready to leave because you be let go immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not tell until you are ready to leave because you be let go immediately.

While this seems extremely unfair to you OP, there is a good chance that this can occur.

By the way, congratulations on your news.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not tell until you are ready to leave because you be let go immediately.

While this seems extremely unfair to you OP, there is a good chance that this can occur.

By the way, congratulations on your news.

+ 1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just found out I'm pregnant, it's super early. My question is when should I disclose this to the family I work for?
I work about 50 hours a week but my doctors office can accommodate appointments on weekends. Thoughts? I have no intention of coming back to work once I have the baby. I was thinking of giving 4-8 weeks notice at the start of my second trimester. Does this seem reasonable?

If you're not planning to return to work, don't give them the option to fire you before you're ready to leave! You don't need to negotiate maternity leave, so there's no real reason for them to know. Don't disclose, and 4-8 weeks seems very generous.

I mean, they're going to figure it out at some point... When you say you're going to give 4-8 weeks notice at the start of your second trimester, do you mean that you will stop working for them by 20 weeks at the latest?

[Anonymous]

13:28 I was planning to be done at 20ish weeks.

[Anonymous]

I'm pregnant 20 weeks and I plan on leaving as well. Will let the family know by 35 weeks. I plan on working until 40 weeks.

[Anonymous]

That some people would give no notice is shocking! And telling about the kind of nanny they are. I'd give notice around 15 weeks, once the risk of miscarriage has go down (you don't want to give notice and then be out of a job and baby). And tell them that you are ready to work at least 5 weeks, but if they need you to, could stay for another week or two (you'll likely feel fit that early into the second trimester).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That some people would give no notice is shocking! And telling about the kind of nanny they are. I'd give notice around 15 weeks, once the risk of miscarriage has go down (you don't want to give notice and then be out of a job and baby). And tell them that you are ready to work at least 5 weeks, but if they need you to, could stay for another week or two (you'll likely feel fit that early into the second trimester).

It's a "dog eat dog" world. OP. Takes care of herself first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That some people would give no notice is shocking! And telling about the kind of nanny they are. I'd give notice around 15 weeks, once the risk of miscarriage has go down (you don't want to give notice and then be out of a job and baby). And tell them that you are ready to work at least 5 weeks, but if they need you to, could stay for another week or two (you'll likely feel fit that early into the second trimester).

It's a "dog eat dog" world. OP. Takes care of herself first.

+1 search the forum for the numerous posts from pregnant nannies who were fired on the spot, or from MBs planning to fire one. Nannies have absolutely no legal protection on this issue so they have to look out for themselves, just like MBs do. This is not about character it's about necessity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That some people would give no notice is shocking! And telling about the kind of nanny they are. I'd give notice around 15 weeks, once the risk of miscarriage has go down (you don't want to give notice and then be out of a job and baby). And tell them that you are ready to work at least 5 weeks, but if they need you to, could stay for another week or two (you'll likely feel fit that early into the second trimester).

It's a "dog eat dog" world. OP. Takes care of herself first.

+1 search the forum for the numerous posts from pregnant nannies who were fired on the spot, or from MBs planning to fire one. Nannies have absolutely no legal protection on this issue so they have to look out for themselves, just like MBs do. This is not about character it's about necessity.

As a MB, if my nanny told me she was leaving around the 20-week mark, and had no intention of returning after the birth, and had had no health problems thus far in her pregnancy that impacted her work ... I'd be fine with that. It eliminates nearly all of the issues MB's worry about with pregnant nannies.

[Anonymous]

Not to be a downer, but I would wait until the baby is viable outside the womb if possible.