Mb volunteering me

[Anonymous]

Just found out mb volunteered me to feed and take care of the neighbors pets this weekend while both families are out of town. How do I handle this ? I really don't want to do it.

[Anonymous]

How come you don't want to do it?

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Anonymous wrote:How come you don't want to do it?

Do I have to have a reason ? My boss deciding how I spend my weekend is not okay with me. Taking 2 hours out of my day this weekend is not ideal. Normally people are asked to pet sit and are compensated for it. I wasn't asked , I was told and I won't be getting paid.

[Anonymous]

You tell her that you cannot do this and you also have a talk immediately about her "volunteering" your services. Stop this now!

[Anonymous]

Are you a live in? Are you doing anything for your NF over the weekend?

This will be an uncomfortable conversation, but I would have to have it -- I would not agree to work for someone else, period, much less doing a different job, and on my day off.

I think I would start with, "MB, I'm sorry, but I was really taken aback when you said I was going to pet sit for the nieghbors this weekend. I'm not sure it's something I would have agreed to if you had asked, but since you didn't ask, I mostly feel like I'm being taken advantage of, and I can't even really consider it. I need to understand how this happened. Do you see my job as including weekend house care when you're gone?"

[Anonymous]

Your MB put you in a terrible position, OP. You were hired as a nanny and not a pet sitter. You are WELL within your rights to say no.

So, simply have a conversation with MB and tell her that you are not comfortable with her telling you to do work for which you were not hired.

- signed, an MB

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MB here. This is actually SO bizarre that I feel like we must be missing something. Are you a live-in? That wouldn't make it OK, but at least more understandable. (Like, our nanny lives 15 minutes away, of course I wouldn't volunteer her to come in on her day off for someone else's nominal task. It wouldn't even occur to me to ask her to do it on a paid basis.) Are you doing something else for your family while you're gone that weekend? You say while they're *both* out of town, so I wonder if you're house or pet sitting for your HF and being paid for it? That would make MB a bit clueless not to have discussed it with you first, but not necessarily out of line (since you would, essentially, be being paid by her/it wouldn't be much out of your way). Basically, this makes so little sense that you're going to be looking for a new job soon because your MB is nuts... or there's relevant information missing.

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. This is actually SO bizarre that I feel like we must be missing something. Are you a live-in? That wouldn't make it OK, but at least more understandable. (Like, our nanny lives 15 minutes away, of course I wouldn't volunteer her to come in on her day off for someone else's nominal task. It wouldn't even occur to me to ask her to do it on a paid basis.) Are you doing something else for your family while you're gone that weekend? You say while they're *both* out of town, so I wonder if you're house or pet sitting for your HF and being paid for it? That would make MB a bit clueless not to have discussed it with you first, but not necessarily out of line (since you would, essentially, be being paid by her/it wouldn't be much out of your way). Basically, this makes so little sense that you're going to be looking for a new job soon because your MB is nuts... or there's relevant information missing.

Yes I am a live in nanny. Yes I will be taking care of my nf's pets. I won't be paid for it but I do get tomorrow off work as a paid day. So it's kind of a trade off. However I wasn't asked about the neighbors, I was told.

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. This is actually SO bizarre that I feel like we must be missing something. Are you a live-in? That wouldn't make it OK, but at least more understandable. (Like, our nanny lives 15 minutes away, of course I wouldn't volunteer her to come in on her day off for someone else's nominal task. It wouldn't even occur to me to ask her to do it on a paid basis.) Are you doing something else for your family while you're gone that weekend? You say while they're *both* out of town, so I wonder if you're house or pet sitting for your HF and being paid for it? That would make MB a bit clueless not to have discussed it with you first, but not necessarily out of line (since you would, essentially, be being paid by her/it wouldn't be much out of your way). Basically, this makes so little sense that you're going to be looking for a new job soon because your MB is nuts... or there's relevant information missing.

Yes I am a live in nanny. Yes I will be taking care of my nf's pets. I won't be paid for it but I do get tomorrow off work as a paid day. So it's kind of a trade off. However I wasn't asked about the neighbors, I was told.

This makes way more sense. You are getting an entire day off and, in return, you are taking care of your family's pets over the weekend. You are the big winner in this arrangement since you are giving more work than you are getting. I wouldn't be surprised if your contract says something about minor duties around the house? Yes, your MB absolutely should have asked you if you'd watch the neighbors' pets too, but it's not crazy for her to assume you would given your proximity/that you are watching her pets and that it's not that much more work. I can understand why you're miffed, but (if I were you) I wouldn't bring it up unless the other pets are very different (big dogs v house cats or something) or an unusual amount of work.

You left out SO much relevant information in the original question you posted that I have a hard time taking your word for how this went down/what your contract says anyway...

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. This is actually SO bizarre that I feel like we must be missing something. Are you a live-in? That wouldn't make it OK, but at least more understandable. (Like, our nanny lives 15 minutes away, of course I wouldn't volunteer her to come in on her day off for someone else's nominal task. It wouldn't even occur to me to ask her to do it on a paid basis.) Are you doing something else for your family while you're gone that weekend? You say while they're *both* out of town, so I wonder if you're house or pet sitting for your HF and being paid for it? That would make MB a bit clueless not to have discussed it with you first, but not necessarily out of line (since you would, essentially, be being paid by her/it wouldn't be much out of your way). Basically, this makes so little sense that you're going to be looking for a new job soon because your MB is nuts... or there's relevant information missing.

Yes I am a live in nanny. Yes I will be taking care of my nf's pets. I won't be paid for it but I do get tomorrow off work as a paid day. So it's kind of a trade off. However I wasn't asked about the neighbors, I was told.

This makes way more sense. You are getting an entire day off and, in return, you are taking care of your family's pets over the weekend. You are the big winner in this arrangement since you are giving more work than you are getting. I wouldn't be surprised if your contract says something about minor duties around the house? Yes, your MB absolutely should have asked you if you'd watch the neighbors' pets too, but it's not crazy for her to assume you would given your proximity/that you are watching her pets and that it's not that much more work. I can understand why you're miffed, but (if I were you) I wouldn't bring it up unless the other pets are very different (big dogs v house cats or something) or an unusual amount of work.

You left out SO much relevant information in the original question you posted that I have a hard time taking your word for how this went down/what your contract says anyway...

My contract says nothing about taking care of the neighbors pets. I left out the other info because it shouldn't matter. My issue isn't with taking care of my nf's pets. Of course I will do that however going into a home I've never been in and taking care of pets I don't know is not something I'm comfortable with. Honestly I don't like these neighbors and the thought of being in their home freaks me out a little.

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. This is actually SO bizarre that I feel like we must be missing something. Are you a live-in? That wouldn't make it OK, but at least more understandable. (Like, our nanny lives 15 minutes away, of course I wouldn't volunteer her to come in on her day off for someone else's nominal task. It wouldn't even occur to me to ask her to do it on a paid basis.) Are you doing something else for your family while you're gone that weekend? You say while they're *both* out of town, so I wonder if you're house or pet sitting for your HF and being paid for it? That would make MB a bit clueless not to have discussed it with you first, but not necessarily out of line (since you would, essentially, be being paid by her/it wouldn't be much out of your way). Basically, this makes so little sense that you're going to be looking for a new job soon because your MB is nuts... or there's relevant information missing.

Yes I am a live in nanny. Yes I will be taking care of my nf's pets. I won't be paid for it but I do get tomorrow off work as a paid day. So it's kind of a trade off. However I wasn't asked about the neighbors, I was told.

This makes way more sense. You are getting an entire day off and, in return, you are taking care of your family's pets over the weekend. You are the big winner in this arrangement since you are giving more work than you are getting. I wouldn't be surprised if your contract says something about minor duties around the house? Yes, your MB absolutely should have asked you if you'd watch the neighbors' pets too, but it's not crazy for her to assume you would given your proximity/that you are watching her pets and that it's not that much more work. I can understand why you're miffed, but (if I were you) I wouldn't bring it up unless the other pets are very different (big dogs v house cats or something) or an unusual amount of work.

You left out SO much relevant information in the original question you posted that I have a hard time taking your word for how this went down/what your contract says anyway...

My contract says nothing about taking care of the neighbors pets. I left out the other info because it shouldn't matter. My issue isn't with taking care of my nf's pets. Of course I will do that however going into a home I've never been in and taking care of pets I don't know is not something I'm comfortable with. Honestly I don't like these neighbors and the thought of being in their home freaks me out a little.

Context does matter. Your original post made MB sound like an outrageously inconsiderate b*tch whereas with context, she sounds just potentially clueless. Your MB probably has no idea how you feel about the neighbors and their pets. Why not tell her your concerns.

[Anonymous]

Tell her that you cannot do this. You owe her no explanation

[Anonymous]

I agree that you should tell her "no" in no uncertain terms. Your employers are taking advantage of you. If you don't stop this, it will only get worse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How come you don't want to do it?

Do I have to have a reason ? My boss deciding how I spend my weekend is not okay with me. Taking 2 hours out of my day this weekend is not ideal. Normally people are asked to pet sit and are compensated for it. I wasn't asked , I was told and I won't be getting paid.

No, No and NO!

I'm sorry, MB, but I have plans this weekend. Since you volunteered me, I know you won't mind letting the family know that I won't be available.

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. This is actually SO bizarre that I feel like we must be missing something. Are you a live-in? That wouldn't make it OK, but at least more understandable. (Like, our nanny lives 15 minutes away, of course I wouldn't volunteer her to come in on her day off for someone else's nominal task. It wouldn't even occur to me to ask her to do it on a paid basis.) Are you doing something else for your family while you're gone that weekend? You say while they're *both* out of town, so I wonder if you're house or pet sitting for your HF and being paid for it? That would make MB a bit clueless not to have discussed it with you first, but not necessarily out of line (since you would, essentially, be being paid by her/it wouldn't be much out of your way). Basically, this makes so little sense that you're going to be looking for a new job soon because your MB is nuts... or there's relevant information missing.

Yes I am a live in nanny. Yes I will be taking care of my nf's pets. I won't be paid for it but I do get tomorrow off work as a paid day. So it's kind of a trade off. However I wasn't asked about the neighbors, I was told.

This makes way more sense. You are getting an entire day off and, in return, you are taking care of your family's pets over the weekend. You are the big winner in this arrangement since you are giving more work than you are getting. I wouldn't be surprised if your contract says something about minor duties around the house? Yes, your MB absolutely should have asked you if you'd watch the neighbors' pets too, but it's not crazy for her to assume you would given your proximity/that you are watching her pets and that it's not that much more work. I can understand why you're miffed, but (if I were you) I wouldn't bring it up unless the other pets are very different (big dogs v house cats or something) or an unusual amount of work.

You left out SO much relevant information in the original question you posted that I have a hard time taking your word for how this went down/what your contract says anyway...

My contract says nothing about taking care of the neighbors pets. I left out the other info because it shouldn't matter. My issue isn't with taking care of my nf's pets. Of course I will do that however going into a home I've never been in and taking care of pets I don't know is not something I'm comfortable with. Honestly I don't like these neighbors and the thought of being in their home freaks me out a little.

Context does matter. Your original post made MB sound like an outrageously inconsiderate b*tch whereas with context, she sounds just potentially clueless. Your MB probably has no idea how you feel about the neighbors and their pets. Why not tell her your concerns.

Um, not, it's more than being clueless. Does your boss volunteer you for work across the street after you finish your job for the day, just because you are already there and they need someone to do something small? Oh, and they don't need to pay you, you'll be happy to do it for free? I don't think so.

Live-in nanny here, and OP, I completely understand. I'm in the camp that I would have agreed if asked (and paid something! ANYTHING!), but I wouldn't do it if my MB/DB volunteered me to do something free for one of their friends. It's not my friend, I wouldn't have a choice, and I'm not paid? No.