Awkward Nanny (Group) Situation

[Anonymous]

I have been a Nanny for a four-yr. old boy since he was four-mos.

I watch him 4x a wk. now & take him out on daily outings in his neighborhood.
(I am not permitted to drive him anywhere.)

Well for the past 1.5 yrs., we have been hanging out w/a group of three other nannies
and their charges who are around the same age.
The kids get along really good and we all did too.

Recently one of the Nannies has been getting under my skin.
I have always been kind to her, but lately she hasn't been to me.

When I say something, she will roll her eyes at me + I hear her making snide remarks about
me to the other Nannies after I say something.
One of the other Nannies who I thought was cool w/me seems to always laugh along w/the rude Nanny
whenever she mocks me.

If it matters, both of these Nannies are mid-late 20's while I am mid-40's.

This all started happening when these two Nannies started socializing outside of work.

My charge loves loves to get together w/their charges & play whenever I care for him.
Yet w/all due respect, I no longer want to be in the company of these 2 immature + rude Nannies.

We will still see each other at the park, playgroups, library and playground,
It will be awkward seeing them and my charge will want to join up w/them since he knows the Nannies
as well.

One last point:
I texted one of the Nannies last night & told her that I knew the rude Nanny mocked me when I was around
and that I felt it was best for me if I just wasn't around her anymore.
She of course denied this + defended the other Nanny to the hilt.

I have today (Friday) off, but will see them next week.
The Nanny that I texted abruptly stopped texting me yesterday even though she promised to call me last night.
So I am assuming she told the other Nanny and now they both are mad now.

What do I do now when I run into them??
Most importantly, what do I say to my charge about the changed dynamic??

TIA Everyone!

[Anonymous]

Why did you write this like a poem?

[Anonymous]

Are you really in your mid 40's?

You sound like a high school girl.
I hope you didn't ruin future playdates because of childish behavior.

[Anonymous]

If you see them again I'd just play it cool and be cordial. Let your charge join up with them and then cut loose after 20 min or whatever. Meanwhile see if you can look for a better group to hang with. If they say anything to you about why your not hanging around anymore, be blunt and call them out on their bad behavior. Let them know it's noticed and won't be glossed over. Tell them you know they mock you and whisper about you and you're too old to play games so you've moved on to a more mature group. The end. I'm in my 40s and wouldn't put up with that nonsense for a second. The beauty of turning 40 is no longer caring what anyone thinks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you see them again I'd just play it cool and be cordial. Let your charge join up with them and then cut loose after 20 min or whatever. Meanwhile see if you can look for a better group to hang with. If they say anything to you about why your not hanging around anymore, be blunt and call them out on their bad behavior. Let them know it's noticed and won't be glossed over. Tell them you know they mock you and whisper about you and you're too old to play games so you've moved on to a more mature group. The end. I'm in my 40s and wouldn't put up with that nonsense for a second. The beauty of turning 40 is no longer caring what anyone thinks.

OP Here:
The last line in your post was right on point!
And your advice was great.
Very sensible too.

[Anonymous]

You sound a little immature. I'm went through a situation like this when I was 25. The woman was in her 50's and she was a Christian. She always tried to put her faith on us and kept asking why " Americans" would be nannies and how we should leave that for the minorities. Once in class I turned around because I was looking to see who was at the baby class. She later brought it up how she knows I'm upset because I thought she was talking about me. I had no clue what she was talking but she was very adamant.

We were a group of nannies and my charge loved the other charges. I didn't stop hanging out with them because they hurt my feelings. It's a job and I acted professional and cordial. Why would I make my charge suffer when he did nothing wrong? I'm a grown up and can act like one. He doesn't need to be punished because I feel I got my feelings hurt. This is a job. Your charge deserves a nanny who can be mature and put her ego aside.

[Anonymous]

^^Why should one adult put up with frequent put downs from another adult just so her charge can play with certain children??
That's asking too much of another person.
A Nanny needs to have a set of balls and set a good example to her charge re:boundaries and respect.
Bar none.
To put up with someone else mocking her would be a huge immaturity on her part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^Why should one adult put up with frequent put downs from another adult just so her charge can play with certain children??
That's asking too much of another person.
A Nanny needs to have a set of balls and set a good example to her charge re:boundaries and respect.
Bar none.
To put up with someone else mocking her would be a huge immaturity on her part.

Why hang around a toxic person if you don't "have" to.

That's the beauty of the Nanny Profession.
You don't have to deal w/annoying co-workers.

[Anonymous]

I would confront them. The next time you bring your charge to your group, say that you've noticed the mocking and the eye rolling and would like to know what's up. Maybe it turns out you've done something, or they're just rude bitches. Either way, you can proceed once you have it all out in the open. I'd be inclined to fuck them and find a new group to hang out with - no 4yo's friendship is worth you being put down like that every day. When you meet these nannies in the park, be polite and cordial. You're above all this high school bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would confront them. The next time you bring your charge to your group, say that you've noticed the mocking and the eye rolling and would like to know what's up. Maybe it turns out you've done something, or they're just rude bitches. Either way, you can proceed once you have it all out in the open. I'd be inclined to fuck them and find a new group to hang out with - no 4yo's friendship is worth you being put down like that every day. When you meet these nannies in the park, be polite and cordial. You're above all this high school bullshit.

Thanks!!

~ OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would confront them. The next time you bring your charge to your group, say that you've noticed the mocking and the eye rolling and would like to know what's up. Maybe it turns out you've done something, or they're just rude bitches. Either way, you can proceed once you have it all out in the open. I'd be inclined to fuck them and find a new group to hang out with - no 4yo's friendship is worth you being put down like that every day. When you meet these nannies in the park, be polite and cordial. You're above all this high school bullshit.

Wait....

Be kind and cordial or confront them?

Please do not confront them at the park and have an argument in front of a group of children. If word gets back to your employers that you were in a shouting match in front of your charge (in the right or not) you could be fired.