I have walked into a mess from hell...

[Anonymous]

I walked into work this morning to find an absolute hellhole of a mess.
*Last night's dinner dishes are still in the sink-not soaked
*Dishwasher is full of clean dishes for me to put away
*Drying rack is full of clean dishes that I washed and put away on Friday
*There are toys EVERYWHERE
*Both diaper pals are overflowing
*Toothpaste is all over my charge's bathroom counter/mirror
*Empty rolls of TP in all bathrooms (except MB/DB's)
*Full garbage can
*The 100 or so books on my charge's bookcase are on the floor

I've noticed job creep over the past 2 years or so. I tried to dismiss it, as I wanted to be a team player. This is ridiculous. I'm going to have to have a reset conversation with them. On top of all of this, I wash all of my charge's laundry, batch cook meals for their parents to feed them and have their dinner ready to go when they come home (among countless other things). Blerg.
Rant over.

[Anonymous]

This is beyond any idea of reasonable. A "reset" discussion is in order for sure, and I would do it this evening before you leave.

Unless life went completely sideways this weekend (ie: family emergency) there is no reason for this. If something did happen they could have given you a heads up.

[Anonymous]

Wow thats atrocious. I left my nanny a pile of baby clothes to wash since we went away this weekend and I feel bad about that and having not made the bottles from frozen milk last night. Definitely have a conversation of what is and is not part of your duties and takes away from spending time with your charges.

[Anonymous]

Not only does a reset conversation sound necessary, I would probably leave all the mess that I couldn't work around. It would be better if they actually have to LOOK at it when you have the discussion of what is reasonable.

- MB who thinks your NF is ridiculous

[Anonymous]

Its their home. If they want to leave it a mess, its their choice. You either help or don't. Maybe they had a lot going on or were just really tired.

[Anonymous]

Leave every damn thing ecactkybas you found it this morning. When they get home have a sitvdiwn, serious discussion. You tell them the job creep did over. If it ever happens again, you walk. Take time dayedvphotos of today's mess. This is a valid reason for quitting and drawing unemployment while looking for a new job.

You should have stopped job creep from the beginning. Never let it happen again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leave every damn thing ecactkybas you found it this morning. When they get home have a sitvdiwn, serious discussion. You tell them the job creep did over. If it ever happens again, you walk. Take time dayedvphotos of today's mess. This is a valid reason for quitting and drawing unemployment while looking for a new job.

You should have stopped job creep from the beginning. Never let it happen again.

Oops. Corrections. Sorry.

Exactly as

Sit down

Time and date photos

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow thats atrocious. I left my nanny a pile of baby clothes to wash since we went away this weekend and I feel bad about that and having not made the bottles from frozen milk last night. Definitely have a conversation of what is and is not part of your duties and takes away from spending time with your charges.

You could have washed clothes last night as well as made bottles. Just laziness on your part. You are also guilty of job creep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow thats atrocious. I left my nanny a pile of baby clothes to wash since we went away this weekend and I feel bad about that and having not made the bottles from frozen milk last night. Definitely have a conversation of what is and is not part of your duties and takes away from spending time with your charges.

You could have washed clothes last night as well as made bottles. Just laziness on your part. You are also guilty of job creep.

OP here. Stop. It sounds like PP usually makes bottles for her nanny, which is very thoughtful. As for baby laundry, I think that is a pretty general nanny responsibility. Don't be rude.

[Anonymous]

I agree that a conversation is due here. Your employers were dead wrong to do this to you. I would be furious as well. Please address this situation immediately with them or this will become standard behavior on their part.

[Anonymous]

I agree that a conversation is due here. Your employers were dead wrong to do this to you. I would be furious as well. Please address this situation immediately with them or this will become standard behavior on their part.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't "demand" that if it happens again you will walk. Geez. My boss asks me to do things all of the time that are not in my job description (I am not a nanny.) If my nanny demanded anything - I'd be angry and she'd be gone. don't clean it up - but it is their home and they can keep it how they want.

Maybe ask if they need extra help and would like you to spend some time on those things - then ask for a raise.

That's what I've done - Hi, I have taken on X Y an Z responsibilities and deserve to be compensated.

I agree that it is annoying and I always make sure the house was a nice clean place to work. If it wasn't - I'd apologize. most of the time nanny would just help me out. I'd thank her and then she'd get a huge bonus. life does get crazy sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't "demand" that if it happens again you will walk. Geez. My boss asks me to do things all of the time that are not in my job description (I am not a nanny.) If my nanny demanded anything - I'd be angry and she'd be gone. don't clean it up - but it is their home and they can keep it how they want.

Maybe ask if they need extra help and would like you to spend some time on those things - then ask for a raise.

That's what I've done - Hi, I have taken on X Y an Z responsibilities and deserve to be compensated.

I agree that it is annoying and I always make sure the house was a nice clean place to work. If it wasn't - I'd apologize. most of the time nanny would just help me out. I'd thank her and then she'd get a huge bonus. life does get crazy sometimes.

Bull. There is never an excuse for leaving house in a god awful mess and exect the Nanny to clean up your filth.

[Anonymous]

I would start a conversation about anything op. Just work around it and do what part it is your responsibility and let them see you've been focused on you charge all day and not cleaning up after grown people that know better. It would lol be a rude awakening for them to see that kitchen still a mess when they come home and realize it'll happen again if they leave it that way again. They know what they are doing and job creep only occurs if you allow or they outright say "oh would you mind doing so and so?" To which you can say you will or won't. If unloading the dw is in the agreement I would unload it and anything I use that day out in it and ignore the sink. How dare these people. Good luck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its their home. If they want to leave it a mess, its their choice. You either help or don't. Maybe they had a lot going on or were just really tired.

Guilty much? Your home, but it's the nanny's job. If nanny doesn't want to do the extra work and/or you don't want to compensate her for it, why would she stay?