"Kiss of Death" Phrases

[Anonymous]

I went to an interview with a family I liked. I thought it went well. The mom said " We plan to make a decision within the week. We will let you know either way. Let us know if you make a decision.". I feel like everytime I've been told " either way", I didn't get the position. I'm a little bummed because that was my guy feeling when she told me that. I'm bummed.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny and these are some of the words and phrases that scare me off:
"Salary"
"Attachment parenting"
"comp time"
"We don't use the word NO"
"light housekeeping"
"1099"

[Anonymous]

"Let us know if you make a decision" -- did you tell them you were interviewing elsewhere? It sounds like they were just letting you know that they weren't prepared to make an offer yet; maybe they're still interviewing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Let us know if you make a decision" -- did you tell them you were interviewing elsewhere? It sounds like they were just letting you know that they weren't prepared to make an offer yet; maybe they're still interviewing.

The mom asked on the phone ( before in -persons interview) if I was interviewing with other families, etc. She knew I interviewed with families throughout the week.

[Anonymous]

MB here. I don't think you need to take that as a negative OP. It sounds to me like she wanted you to keep her informed if you take another job, and that no matter what they decide they will let you know.

Sounds like she knows it's rotten to interview them and never get back in touch - so it's nice that she is professional about this.

If you really want the job then follow up saying how much you enjoyed meeting them, how you think you would enjoy working for them and caring for little janie, and that you look forwrad to hearing back from them. "Let me know if you need any other information."

That lets them know you're serious, and professional, and interested.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. I don't think you need to take that as a negative OP. It sounds to me like she wanted you to keep her informed if you take another job, and that no matter what they decide they will let you know.

Sounds like she knows it's rotten to interview them and never get back in touch - so it's nice that she is professional about this.

If you really want the job then follow up saying how much you enjoyed meeting them, how you think you would enjoy working for them and caring for little janie, and that you look forwrad to hearing back from them. "Let me know if you need any other information."

That lets them know you're serious, and professional, and interested.

Good luck!

I am a nanny and agree with this

[Anonymous]

I personally do not think what this family told you is a kiss of death.

They just need time to choose the right person + obviously will put a lot of thought into doing so.

It sounds like they want to make your search as smooth as possible and vice versa.

To me a bad sign is when a family ends the interview with,"Okay....We are going to be interviewing some other people and will let you know if we are interested."

Game over.

[Anonymous]

I don't think I've ever had a family say they will get back to me. They either like you enough to stop with the games and want to make an offer during the interview or they or I say it is not the right fit. I am not trying to get every job I interview for, I am trying to find the right family. There are times I have stopped an interview because I knew it wasn't going to work out for me or also times I have helped parents come to that conclusion also by giving my honest answers even when I knew it wasn't what they wanted to hear. (i.e. would you be willing to do chores such as light housecleaning while the baby sleep and I firmly say "No, I don't do any housecleaning.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think I've ever had a family say they will get back to me. They either like you enough to stop with the games and want to make an offer during the interview or they or I say it is not the right fit. I am not trying to get every job I interview for, I am trying to find the right family. There are times I have stopped an interview because I knew it wasn't going to work out for me or also times I have helped parents come to that conclusion also by giving my honest answers even when I knew it wasn't what they wanted to hear. (i.e. would you be willing to do chores such as light housecleaning while the baby sleep and I firmly say "No, I don't do any housecleaning.)

I'm an MB. Interviewing isn't a game to me, and hiring a nanny (or anyone) isn't something I do lightly or without doing it thoroughly. I will never hire anyone "on the spot". I check references, I meet other candidates, I evaluate how a candidate behaves prior to, during, and following an interview, before I make a decision.

I think your attitude is misleading to the OP, who has perhaps simply run into a thorough and professional potential employer.

[Anonymous]

Anytime religion is brought up, I'm no longer interested. People who bring up religion tend to be difficult to work for.

[Anonymous]

I disagree w/the PP MomBoss on one thing.

Some families just KNOW when they meet a great nanny that she is the one they want.
And they like her so much that they are no longer interested in meeting w/other candidates because they don't want to take a risk that this nanny will get taken by another family.

However I do agree that hiring on-the-spot would be jumping the gun a bit.
One should always perform a thorough background check as well as contact previous employer references.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think I've ever had a family say they will get back to me. They either like you enough to stop with the games and want to make an offer during the interview or they or I say it is not the right fit. I am not trying to get every job I interview for, I am trying to find the right family. There are times I have stopped an interview because I knew it wasn't going to work out for me or also times I have helped parents come to that conclusion also by giving my honest answers even when I knew it wasn't what they wanted to hear. (i.e. would you be willing to do chores such as light housecleaning while the baby sleep and I firmly say "No, I don't do any housecleaning.)

I'm an MB. Interviewing isn't a game to me, and hiring a nanny (or anyone) isn't something I do lightly or without doing it thoroughly. I will never hire anyone "on the spot". I check references, I meet other candidates, I evaluate how a candidate behaves prior to, during, and following an interview, before I make a decision.

I think your attitude is misleading to the OP, who has perhaps simply run into a thorough and professional potential employer.

Both you and the nanny should throughly vet each other, but I usually have a pretty good gut sense if we're both interested in further discussions and negotiations. You should to.