End "Thank You" Bonus for Nanny going to PT (late afternoons only 3 hours per day)???

[Anonymous]

DC going to FT school, so we have placed our Nanny with a new family. if she were "totally gone" we planned to give her a end of service "thank you" of $1000 per year of service (she's awesome, and been with us 4 years - only one we have had).

But, the family only needs her until 4 pm, and as asked to Sath wrh is 4:30-7:30 pm daily to pick up our kiddo from school, serve dinner, bath etc and we agreed ......

So, what end of service "thank you" should we give when she's really not leaving?

Thanks!!!!

[Anonymous]

I'd go ahead and do the same as you were planning. Very thoughtful to honor her so generously. Your child is most fortunate. Kudos to your parenting success.

[Anonymous]

You are awesome! Most of us nannies worked for around five years and didn't get anything not eleven a thank you card.

[Anonymous]

So she's working from 7 or 8 or 9 am to 7:30 at night? That's a recipe for burnout.

[Anonymous]

Why give her anything?

[Anonymous]

I would suggest that you hold off until she actually leaves, then give her the money for every year, whether she was full or part time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why give her anything?

Your poor child!

[Anonymous]

OP here - plan on keeping her as a part-time babysitter, for overnights, weekends, when my wife and I want to go on vacation and need someone to watch the kids, etc. Buying Goodwill, plus she is family to us. Wish we had family to cover, but we don't. So we have to pay. Not treating her like family will end up screwing us in the end.

[Anonymous]

8:25 and 17:02 - this is my conundrum. Both of you provided very constructive advice, that is 180° opposite of each other. Hence my problem. Thanks to you both.

[Anonymous]

I'd probably go ahead and give the thank you bonus since she is transitioning from one job to another with you. Personally, I think your bonus is very high, but if you have it, and she is so valuable to your family, than go for it.

The only thing I would caution you is not to expect that a thank you for a job already done won't necessarily translate into the flexibility you may want in the future. It may, because it may buy your loyalty, but you can't count on that. GL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would suggest that you hold off until she actually leaves, then give her the money for every year, whether she was full or part time.

Why? No reason to withhold a bonus.

[Anonymous]

You are an A+ awesome employer OP!

You really have set the bar!!

I say go ahead and issue her the intended bonus, though you may want to lessen the amount since she will technically still be working for you still.

However if she has been an exceptional nanny, then it is entirely up to you what to do here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd probably go ahead and give the thank you bonus since she is transitioning from one job to another with you. Personally, I think your bonus is very high, but if you have it, and she is so valuable to your family, than go for it.

The only thing I would caution you is not to expect that a thank you for a job already done won't necessarily translate into the flexibility you may want in the future. It may, because it may buy your loyalty, but you can't count on that. GL.

This. This is why I would also give the bonus now, while you're still feeling warm and loyal towards her. If it turns out that the other job doesn't work out, or your afternoon hours end up being too difficult on top of the other job, she may stop being such a wonderful, reliable nanny. Then you won't want to give her the bonus, and that would be kind of crummy.

Give her the money for her years of full time service now, and tell her that's what it's for. Then, you are both starting fresh with this new position, and if it doesn't work out for whatever reason, you can end it cleanly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd probably go ahead and give the thank you bonus since she is transitioning from one job to another with you. Personally, I think your bonus is very high, but if you have it, and she is so valuable to your family, than go for it.

The only thing I would caution you is not to expect that a thank you for a job already done won't necessarily translate into the flexibility you may want in the future. It may, because it may buy your loyalty, but you can't count on that. GL.

This. This is why I would also give the bonus now, while you're still feeling warm and loyal towards her. If it turns out that the other job doesn't work out, or your afternoon hours end up being too difficult on top of the other job, she may stop being such a wonderful, reliable nanny. Then you won't want to give her the bonus, and that would be kind of crummy.

Give her the money for her years of full time service now, and tell her that's what it's for. Then, you are both starting fresh with this new position, and if it doesn't work out for whatever reason, you can end it cleanly.

If she isn't going to continue to be flexible I don't see why I'm giving her a bonus. Greasing the wheels for what. The way I see it is if our time mutually comes to an end you might be worth a bonus, but if you leave me high and dry for any reason (new job, new boyfriend, burnout, etc) you get nothing. I've paid for your services up until that point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd probably go ahead and give the thank you bonus since she is transitioning from one job to another with you. Personally, I think your bonus is very high, but if you have it, and she is so valuable to your family, than go for it.

The only thing I would caution you is not to expect that a thank you for a job already done won't necessarily translate into the flexibility you may want in the future. It may, because it may buy your loyalty, but you can't count on that. GL.

This. This is why I would also give the bonus now, while you're still feeling warm and loyal towards her. If it turns out that the other job doesn't work out, or your afternoon hours end up being too difficult on top of the other job, she may stop being such a wonderful, reliable nanny. Then you won't want to give her the bonus, and that would be kind of crummy.

Give her the money for her years of full time service now, and tell her that's what it's for. Then, you are both starting fresh with this new position, and if it doesn't work out for whatever reason, you can end it cleanly.

If she isn't going to continue to be flexible I don't see why I'm giving her a bonus. Greasing the wheels for what. The way I see it is if our time mutually comes to an end you might be worth a bonus, but if you leave me high and dry for any reason (new job, new boyfriend, burnout, etc) you get nothing. I've paid for your services up until that point.

I thought it was a bonus for four years of excellent service to your family. You were going to pay it when she was going to leave for good, so why withhold it because she's going to part time.

She made an excellent full time nanny. The bonus is for that. She may or may not be an excellent part time afternoon nanny. I would treat it as a new job.