End "Thank You" Bonus for Nanny going to PT (late afternoons only 3 hours per day)???

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd probably go ahead and give the thank you bonus since she is transitioning from one job to another with you. Personally, I think your bonus is very high, but if you have it, and she is so valuable to your family, than go for it.

The only thing I would caution you is not to expect that a thank you for a job already done won't necessarily translate into the flexibility you may want in the future. It may, because it may buy your loyalty, but you can't count on that. GL.

This. This is why I would also give the bonus now, while you're still feeling warm and loyal towards her. If it turns out that the other job doesn't work out, or your afternoon hours end up being too difficult on top of the other job, she may stop being such a wonderful, reliable nanny. Then you won't want to give her the bonus, and that would be kind of crummy.

Give her the money for her years of full time service now, and tell her that's what it's for. Then, you are both starting fresh with this new position, and if it doesn't work out for whatever reason, you can end it cleanly.

If she isn't going to continue to be flexible I don't see why I'm giving her a bonus. Greasing the wheels for what. The way I see it is if our time mutually comes to an end you might be worth a bonus, but if you leave me high and dry for any reason (new job, new boyfriend, burnout, etc) you get nothing. I've paid for your services up until that point.

I thought it was a bonus for four years of excellent service to your family. You were going to pay it when she was going to leave for good, so why withhold it because she's going to part time.

She made an excellent full time nanny. The bonus is for that. She may or may not be an excellent part time afternoon nanny. I would treat it as a new job.

I must agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DC going to FT school, so we have placed our Nanny with a new family. if she were "totally gone" we planned to give her a end of service "thank you" of $1000 per year of service (she's awesome, and been with us 4 years - only one we have had).

But, the family only needs her until 4 pm, and as asked to Sath wrh is 4:30-7:30 pm daily to pick up our kiddo from school, serve dinner, bath etc and we agreed ......

So, what end of service "thank you" should we give when she's really not leaving?

Thanks!!!!

Are you really as grateful as you said you were? Then give her your intended bonus.

[Anonymous]

Op here - 12:39 is NOT me.

13:28 - I agree with you.

[Anonymous]

OP AGAIN - 12:39, if you want to pretend to be me, please ID yourself.

[Anonymous]

OP again - the real OP - Thanks to all for the advice / we are going to give her the full thank you bonus, and start fresh. Thanks for all
Of your input

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd probably go ahead and give the thank you bonus since she is transitioning from one job to another with you. Personally, I think your bonus is very high, but if you have it, and she is so valuable to your family, than go for it.

The only thing I would caution you is not to expect that a thank you for a job already done won't necessarily translate into the flexibility you may want in the future. It may, because it may buy your loyalty, but you can't count on that. GL.

This. This is why I would also give the bonus now, while you're still feeling warm and loyal towards her. If it turns out that the other job doesn't work out, or your afternoon hours end up being too difficult on top of the other job, she may stop being such a wonderful, reliable nanny. Then you won't want to give her the bonus, and that would be kind of crummy.

Give her the money for her years of full time service now, and tell her that's what it's for. Then, you are both starting fresh with this new position, and if it doesn't work out for whatever reason, you can end it cleanly.

If she isn't going to continue to be flexible I don't see why I'm giving her a bonus. Greasing the wheels for what. The way I see it is if our time mutually comes to an end you might be worth a bonus, but if you leave me high and dry for any reason (new job, new boyfriend, burnout, etc) you get nothing. I've paid for your services up until that point.

I thought it was a bonus for four years of excellent service to your family. You were going to pay it when she was going to leave for good, so why withhold it because she's going to part time.

She made an excellent full time nanny. The bonus is for that. She may or may not be an excellent part time afternoon nanny. I would treat it as a new job.

I paid her for her services over those 4 years. A bonus is to ensure continued good service amongst increasing competition.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd probably go ahead and give the thank you bonus since she is transitioning from one job to another with you. Personally, I think your bonus is very high, but if you have it, and she is so valuable to your family, than go for it.

The only thing I would caution you is not to expect that a thank you for a job already done won't necessarily translate into the flexibility you may want in the future. It may, because it may buy your loyalty, but you can't count on that. GL.

This. This is why I would also give the bonus now, while you're still feeling warm and loyal towards her. If it turns out that the other job doesn't work out, or your afternoon hours end up being too difficult on top of the other job, she may stop being such a wonderful, reliable nanny. Then you won't want to give her the bonus, and that would be kind of crummy.

Give her the money for her years of full time service now, and tell her that's what it's for. Then, you are both starting fresh with this new position, and if it doesn't work out for whatever reason, you can end it cleanly.

If she isn't going to continue to be flexible I don't see why I'm giving her a bonus. Greasing the wheels for what. The way I see it is if our time mutually comes to an end you might be worth a bonus, but if you leave me high and dry for any reason (new job, new boyfriend, burnout, etc) you get nothing. I've paid for your services up until that point.

I thought it was a bonus for four years of excellent service to your family. You were going to pay it when she was going to leave for good, so why withhold it because she's going to part time.

She made an excellent full time nanny. The bonus is for that. She may or may not be an excellent part time afternoon nanny. I would treat it as a new job.

I paid her for her services over those 4 years. A bonus is to ensure continued good service amongst increasing competition.

Or as a thank you for putting in more effort than was required...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd probably go ahead and give the thank you bonus since she is transitioning from one job to another with you. Personally, I think your bonus is very high, but if you have it, and she is so valuable to your family, than go for it.

The only thing I would caution you is not to expect that a thank you for a job already done won't necessarily translate into the flexibility you may want in the future. It may, because it may buy your loyalty, but you can't count on that. GL.

This. This is why I would also give the bonus now, while you're still feeling warm and loyal towards her. If it turns out that the other job doesn't work out, or your afternoon hours end up being too difficult on top of the other job, she may stop being such a wonderful, reliable nanny. Then you won't want to give her the bonus, and that would be kind of crummy.

Give her the money for her years of full time service now, and tell her that's what it's for. Then, you are both starting fresh with this new position, and if it doesn't work out for whatever reason, you can end it cleanly.

Or not. We did something similar for our outgoing nanny, except it was 2 round trip tickets to Colombia (her home country) and $1000 cash.

That was 4 years ago. She is still in our lives, loves our kids and I often have to FORCE money on her when she babysits at night. She truly is considered family. Sometimes life is not all a business transaction.

[Anonymous]

A $1,000 per year is unbelievably generous! Good for you OP.

[Anonymous]

Op's children must be unbelievably fortunate, more so than the very richest children with not-so-bright parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd probably go ahead and give the thank you bonus since she is transitioning from one job to another with you. Personally, I think your bonus is very high, but if you have it, and she is so valuable to your family, than go for it.

The only thing I would caution you is not to expect that a thank you for a job already done won't necessarily translate into the flexibility you may want in the future. It may, because it may buy your loyalty, but you can't count on that. GL.

This. This is why I would also give the bonus now, while you're still feeling warm and loyal towards her. If it turns out that the other job doesn't work out, or your afternoon hours end up being too difficult on top of the other job, she may stop being such a wonderful, reliable nanny. Then you won't want to give her the bonus, and that would be kind of crummy.

Give her the money for her years of full time service now, and tell her that's what it's for. Then, you are both starting fresh with this new position, and if it doesn't work out for whatever reason, you can end it cleanly.

Or not. We did something similar for our outgoing nanny, except it was 2 round trip tickets to Colombia (her home country) and $1000 cash.

That was 4 years ago. She is still in our lives, loves our kids and I often have to FORCE money on her when she babysits at night. She truly is considered family. Sometimes life is not all a business transaction.

OK, great. OP doesn't have a crystal ball, and she's talking about a continuing, every day employee relationship. What's your point?

[Anonymous]

A longtime excellent nanny is NOT an everyday "employee relationship" PP. Don't be silly.

[Anonymous]

I think she's deserve that,my boss after 7 years give 3000000 thousand dollares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A longtime excellent nanny is NOT an everyday "employee relationship" PP. Don't be silly.

I meant that the woman will still be working for her every weekday, not that it wasn't a close relationship. You seem determined to misconstrue this post, though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A longtime excellent nanny is NOT an everyday "employee relationship" PP. Don't be silly.

I meant that the woman will still be working for her every weekday, not that it wasn't a close relationship. You seem determined to misconstrue this post, though.

That was a new poster and so am i. Your approach is way to anaseptic for many of us who have deeper relationships with our children's caregivers than jus a trade for currency. Maybe in your world generosity is nothing, but a transaction in order to meet an end, not all of us are like that. Giving comes from the heart, for at least some.