DB treats me like Im his wife

[Anonymous]

and its getting weird. I personally don't think he has an attraction to me like that, but he does make me uncomfortable sometimes. Ive had over nights with them when mb was traveling and he will always try to have dinner with me. After the kids are in bed already. He offers e wine. He texts me a lot during the day to see if i need anything. He has started bringing me souvenirs when he goes out of town. And he texted me today that he will miss us guys instead of saying he will miss the kids. why text me that in the first place? He told me before he left as it is. MB seems oblivious to it and they never really say much to one another. no matter what i do to distance myself he keeps popping up and finding reasons to communicate. he doesn't even know how to do anything for or with the kids and mb is the one that Im supposed to communicate with and we have a notebook that we use. I love my charges and job aside from this and now I feel like Im doing something wrong. what should i do?

[Anonymous]

Oh please go away, troll.

[Anonymous]

You should totally have sex with him. That's what you want to hear, right?

[Anonymous]

She wants to entertain us today with her nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Well, she may be telling the truth.

[Anonymous]

Bang him, probably.

[Anonymous]

Well of course perverts will think this sexual. I'm asking about it this because the dynamic is just strange. Any NANNIES ever been in this situation?

[Anonymous]

He's treating you that way because you're the one dealing with HIS kids all day. He's trying to have a good relationship with you and help you feel valued as an employee. If you want, just ignore the texts. Not really sure what the problem is.

[Anonymous]

Whenever I do an overnight, if one or both of the parents are home, we eat dinner together. It'd be weird for them to sit down for dinner and exclude me. And we're all adults so wine with dinner isn't a big deal.

Texting a lot during the day would annoy me only because of the frequency, but I don't think it's odd for a parent to want to know what their child is up to during the day, and I think it's sweet that he checks to see if you need anything. It sounds like you have a friendly, caring, involved DB. Maintain professional boundaries, but don't assume ill intent just because a man is friendly.

[Anonymous]

This is another Rosie thread, y'all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is another Rosie thread, y'all.

+1 She's been busy today.

[Anonymous]

Jeff should delete all this baseless and nonsense post from the site.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:and its getting weird. I personally don't think he has an attraction to me like that, but he does make me uncomfortable sometimes. Ive had over nights with them when mb was traveling and he will always try to have dinner with me. After the kids are in bed already. He offers e wine. He texts me a lot during the day to see if i need anything. He has started bringing me souvenirs when he goes out of town. And he texted me today that he will miss us guys instead of saying he will miss the kids. why text me that in the first place? He told me before he left as it is. MB seems oblivious to it and they never really say much to one another. no matter what i do to distance myself he keeps popping up and finding reasons to communicate. he doesn't even know how to do anything for or with the kids and mb is the one that Im supposed to communicate with and we have a notebook that we use. I love my charges and job aside from this and now I feel like Im doing something wrong. what should i do?

You have to end this thing right now!!
You have to respect your boss and her house,I heard lots stories about that,in future they going to kick your but...
Put in your place girl,respect yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeff should delete all this baseless and nonsense post from the site.

Then report the thread. If not, go away, you are as bad as the trolls.

[Anonymous]

Will you guys please stop with this troll stuff? I do NOT think he is looking for an affair and I am not interested in one with him. I am only irritated by him and feel like he is connected to me some way emotionally because of watching me with his children. My issue is I feel like boundaries will continue to stretch and I need advice on how to reset them without causing offense. Everything is not about sex. Get your brains out of the gutter.

I usually try to laugh off or straight ignore little remarks he makes like "Debra never puts things in the same place twice" or "Debra can never get him to listen to her but you can" just things that I feel are insults to her but I don't think he is intentionally wanting to insult her. I don't think some fathers realize we are professionals in the childcare field for a reason and they work where they work for a reason. Giving birth doesn't mean everything will be done perfect. Of course I'm not going to say that to him but he acts like his wife doesn't work just as many hours as he does.

I'm just wanting to vent a little and see if others have been in this situation and how they maneuvered it without getting fired