The dishes debate

[Anonymous]

Maybe I am being picky or get annoyed easily but does anyone else think it's disrespectful that I cook dinner... Clean all dishes.. And then come to work the next day and they leave their plates and dinner dish in the sink for me. When I started I stated I do not clean dinner dishes that if I leave empty sink I should come back to empty sink. It's gotten to point where it's everyday. I said something to the dad and he said just leave dishes. But I can't leave dirty dishes for 10 hours. Gross

[Anonymous]

BTDT. It's disrespectful of them, but it's not going to change. God luck OP.

[Anonymous]

If you don't want to see their filthy mess every morning, simply put them someplace on the counter, and cover with dish towels. The more you treat them like babies and do it for them, the you enable their bad behavior.

[Anonymous]

MB here. I am usually on the side of "just do the dishes and move on" when people complain about their MB leaving out a coffee cup or getting breakfast started for the kids then leaving without doing the dishes. But leaving out crusty dishes from the night before is disgusting. First thing I would do in your shoes is have a talk with your MB. I would frame it like "I am not sure you realize..." There is a slight possibility that MB and DB both think the other one is taking care of it, and I would start the conversation with this frame of mind. Then let them know that YOU are actually doing it, an if it continues , you will have to look for other employment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you don't want to see their filthy mess every morning, simply put them someplace on the counter, and cover with dish towels. The more you treat them like babies and do it for them, the you enable their bad behavior.

*the more you enable their bad behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you don't want to see their filthy mess every morning, simply put them someplace on the counter, and cover with dish towels. The more you treat them like babies and do it for them, the you enable their bad behavior.

This is the definition of passive agressive behavior. I doubt anyone would find this to be helpful, productive behavior from their employee.

[Anonymous]

I've been with the same family for 10 years and really you nannies need to relax. Sometimes there's a couple dishes and it takes all of 2 minutes to put them away. Big deal.

All you nannies complaining about a few dishes here or there are probably the same ones complaining that you don't get a bonus every year either.

I have time during nap and really don't mind putting a few extra things in the dishwasher just to make my bosses lives easier. I even sometimes make their bed when they don't have time!

In return my bosses let me leave early, take vacation at my choosing, pay me well above market rates, give generous bonuses and pay for health insurance and into my retirement. Look at the big picture ladies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been with the same family for 10 years and really you nannies need to relax. Sometimes there's a couple dishes and it takes all of 2 minutes to put them away. Big deal.

All you nannies complaining about a few dishes here or there are probably the same ones complaining that you don't get a bonus every year either.

I have time during nap and really don't mind putting a few extra things in the dishwasher just to make my bosses lives easier. I even sometimes make their bed when they don't have time!

In return my bosses let me leave early, take vacation at my choosing, pay me well above market rates, give generous bonuses and pay for health insurance and into my retirement. Look at the big picture ladies.

Did you read the post before you stepped on your soapbox? OP isn't talking about "a few dishes" she's talking about all of their dishes from the prior evening's dinner, and with dishes in the sink I doubt they wash their breakfast dishes either. This is NOT the same as putting a couple of coffee cups in the dishwasher. But it's fun to tear down other nannies to prove your superiority isn't it!

And to your making your bosses' bed- gross. Do you even know they want you doing that? I don't even go in their bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been with the same family for 10 years and really you nannies need to relax. Sometimes there's a couple dishes and it takes all of 2 minutes to put them away. Big deal.

All you nannies complaining about a few dishes here or there are probably the same ones complaining that you don't get a bonus every year either.

I have time during nap and really don't mind putting a few extra things in the dishwasher just to make my bosses lives easier. I even sometimes make their bed when they don't have time!

In return my bosses let me leave early, take vacation at my choosing, pay me well above market rates, give generous bonuses and pay for health insurance and into my retirement. Look at the big picture ladies.

Not every boss are generous like yours.. so you should relax ..you don't know other nannies situation or pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been with the same family for 10 years and really you nannies need to relax. Sometimes there's a couple dishes and it takes all of 2 minutes to put them away. Big deal.

All you nannies complaining about a few dishes here or there are probably the same ones complaining that you don't get a bonus every year either.

I have time during nap and really don't mind putting a few extra things in the dishwasher just to make my bosses lives easier. I even sometimes make their bed when they don't have time!

In return my bosses let me leave early, take vacation at my choosing, pay me well above market rates, give generous bonuses and pay for health insurance and into my retirement. Look at the big picture ladies.

How can you go to your bosses bedroom?

[Anonymous]

lol green nanny again- As always, the complaining continues. It's called give and take. Maybe if you weren't so petty about dishes your bosses would be a little more generous. They're not leaving dishes from a banquet dinner.

[Anonymous]

Haha I meant long term nanny here*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol green nanny again- As always, the complaining continues. It's called give and take. Maybe if you weren't so petty about dishes your bosses would be a little more generous. They're not leaving dishes from a banquet dinner.

It sounds like you've landed a pretty cushy gig. Just wait until it ends. You'll deal with the same kind of s**t we do.
Your employers ARE NOT the norm. You remind me of someone who comes from a wealthy family, never has to work for anything they have and then complains about how lazy other people are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol green nanny again- As always, the complaining continues. It's called give and take. Maybe if you weren't so petty about dishes your bosses would be a little more generous. They're not leaving dishes from a banquet dinner.

You're like one of those women who tears down and stereotypes other women to fit in with the guys. Again if you read the freaking post, OP HAS been cleaning their dishes!!! This has nothing to do with how generous her bosses are or aren't. It has to do with their bad habit of leaving their mess for their employee to clean up. Imagine sharing an office with your boss, bringing them their lunch daily, and then them expecting you to clean it up for them too. It's ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

You do realize this is their home and it is not reasonable for them to wash every dish on your schedule. Either do them or leave them. Simple.