Should I ask?

[Anonymous]

My MB is staying home with the kids and I stopped working last month. When she first told me she made sure to include that she was going to keep paying me for a while and "make sure I'm taken care of". Well I received my last check Monday. And nothing. No severance or extra pay.

I feel really weird asking them about it. But also confused as to why they mentioned paying me for awhile after.

Anyway disappointed and hurt but also just wondering what is appropriate. My fiancé thinks I should email them I kind if feel like letting it go. If they truly wanted to pay they would right?

[Anonymous]

What is it you plan on asking them? "You know how you said you were going to take care of me well I don't really feel taken care of. Please send some money."

Sounds good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: What is it you plan on asking them? "You know how you said you were going to take care of me well I don't really feel taken care of. Please send some money."

Sounds good.

You're a smart ass.

Op- tough call. Any chance they will continue to pay you? And just not bring it up? When would/is your next check scheduled for? It would be hard for me to bring up too. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

When exactly did you stop working? If they have been paying you for a couple/few weeks since you stopped working then I think they did what they promised.

But you're in a tough spot given that you got nothing in writing, and nothing specific. Why on earth did no one say or ask for anything specific???

[Anonymous]

maybe sent a note thanking her for the check - perhaps that will prompt a response?

[Anonymous]

I get direct deposit every two weeks. My last check was the pay period of the last two weeks I worked. So no, hasn't been any extra pay or anything.

I didn't even expect anything until she made it a point to make sure I wasn't worried financially. I said oh wow that's very thoughtful and in thanked them. After that they didn't bring it up again.

Its not exactly an easy thig to ask...or bring up without hurting our relationship.

[Anonymous]

maybe something will appear in 2 week?

[Anonymous]

Pp that's what I'm hoping for. Seems so weird. Why say anything at all. If not I'll be hurt after 4 years..... But worse part is acting like everything is fine. They still call daily to say hi. And as much as I would want to put some distance I can't for the kids sake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp that's what I'm hoping for. Seems so weird. Why say anything at all. If not I'll be hurt after 4 years..... But worse part is acting like everything is fine. They still call daily to say hi. And as much as I would want to put some distance I can't for the kids sake.

If they're still calling you regularly then the next time they call, ASK! It's easy:

"[MB] I wanted to speak to you, because I'm confused. When we last spoke a couple of weeks ago, you said you would take care of me for a little while financially. I now realize that I have no idea what exactly you meant by that. If you don't mind letting me know what you had in mind specifically I would very much appreciate it, so I can plan accordingly as I may need to dip into my savings while I continue searching for a new position. Thank you."

If you're not up to saying that on the phone then you can email it to her. Either way, you MUST ask her because 1) You have NO idea what she meant when she said that or what she is actually planning to do and 2) It doesn't make ANY sense to sit around and wait two more weeks for a direct deposit that may not actually be heading your way.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

PP here, that should say "When we last spoke about money a few weeks ago..."

[Anonymous]

Since she said "a while" she wasn't entirely clear about just how long she specifically meant.

Some people may take this to mean a few weeks while others may take it to mean longer. Since she never exactly specified a time frame to you, then I would assume she meant a month.

A month's pay is a nice deal and I would be content with what you already have received from her.

Have you been seeking another position in the meantime OP?

[Anonymous]

OP, I think I would wait for another two weeks before coming to the conclusion that your former employer "lied" to you. She may plan to pay you bi-weekly for the next one month or so.
If you don't get anything from the mail in the next two weeks, then you could e-mail her.

When my nanny was taking maternity leave, I promised to pay her for the weeks she was going to be out. The nanny had planned to work until the last day but the doctor put her on bedrest a week before she was due so I never got to see her for about a week or so. I took to her half of the payment that was promised in hospital and told her I would give her the other half a week after she returned to work.

So just give it time but meanwhile, continue looking actively for a new job. Use your savings wisely. If you qualify for unemployment you may want to look into that too if you won't have received more $$ from your former employer.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I haven't received a months pay. My last day was the end of January. My last check was paid until end of Jan. No extra pay.

I would be more than grateful for anything offered.

I wasn't able to take time off and interview/trial Now that I am done in have some leads tongollow through on.

[Anonymous]

Pp and others- thanks I think I'll hold out for another two weeks. And then email.....really hope I don't have too. Not so much for the money just for the keeping their word. That matters a lot to me.