Fair to not give nanny off early today?

[Anonymous]

We love nanny and nanny loves us.

She just took the last week off (last week Tues-Fri and Mon of this week - all paid vacation days). she hinted, but didn't directly ask that she'd like to leave early today but I am in the office all day. My parents are around watching my older kids (3 older ones - nanny just watches the baby) so technically, she would be able to leave the baby with them, but I'd really rather she stay. She's not traveling for the holiday, other than from MD to VA. If she asks to leave early, can I say no? does it make me a terrible employer?

[Anonymous]

Our nanny hinted this too but she already has Friday off and I absolutely cannot leave early today. I feel terrible but it is just how it goes sometimes...

[Anonymous]

If you're working, I don't think it's unfair. My employers are off today, had given me the day off, then reneged this morning so they could "get some things done." Your situation is much less irritating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're working, I don't think it's unfair. My employers are off today, had given me the day off, then reneged this morning so they could "get some things done." Your situation is much less irritating.

You should have told them thst you had already made plans that you couldn't reneged on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're working, I don't think it's unfair. My employers are off today, had given me the day off, then reneged this morning so they could "get some things done." Your situation is much less irritating.

You should have told them thst you had already made plans that you couldn't reneged on.

Today is not a day off in my contract. My only plans were to get a head start on cooking for tomorrow and cleaning my house. It's not the end of the world but definitely annoying. Its a new job and I thought I found an employer who wouldn't treat me like a cow to milk. Alas....

[Anonymous]

Since it IS around the major holiday season you can let her go home early as an act of goodwill. I would only do this if she has been an excellent nanny who rarely asks to leave early.

However if she does this often and you feel taken advantage of, it is fine also to let her know that you will be tied up all day at the office and do not want to burden your family with a baby to care for along with the three other kids.

[Anonymous]

OP here

We are in a share and the other mom just called and said nanny just asked to leave early and said I said it was ok. I got on the phone with nanny and said I never said that. She said she asked yesterday when she asked what time I was coming home but either she was just hoping it would be ok or she was genuinely confused when I mentioned my mom was around with the big kids and she thought my mom could take the baby too.

Either way, I am downtown and cant leave and my mom is out with the big kids, so nanny has to stay.

I am giving the benefit of the doubt that it was a misunderstanding but I am also a little annoyed bc the conversation yesterday was
Nanny: Are you working tomorrow? All day?
Me: Yes, all day, I might even work late but if I am not home on time, my mom can meet you to pick up the baby.
Nanny:: Ok, I can meet her.

[Anonymous]

I'd be pissed too, OP. My nanny is working because I am working. It's that simple. If I am surprisingly able to leave early (that won't happen) then I'll stop at the grocery store on the way home and probably the nanny will get to leave a whole 20 minutes early. This is a JOB. The priority should be the JOB.

[Anonymous]

I agree that your nanny was unprofessional, OP. In the future, I would suggest that there be a written record of what times will be, that way there is no miscommunication between parent and nanny, and no cases of the other share parents not knowing that times were already discussed and finalized.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We love nanny and nanny loves us.

She just took the last week off (last week Tues-Fri and Mon of this week - all paid vacation days). she hinted, but didn't directly ask that she'd like to leave early today but I am in the office all day. My parents are around watching my older kids (3 older ones - nanny just watches the baby) so technically, she would be able to leave the baby with them, but I'd really rather she stay. She's not traveling for the holiday, other than from MD to VA. If she asks to leave early, can I say no? does it make me a terrible employer?

Insecurity on your part. Why is that?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't ler her leave early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're working, I don't think it's unfair. My employers are off today, had given me the day off, then reneged this morning so they could "get some things done." Your situation is much less irritating.

You should have told them thst you had already made plans that you couldn't reneged on.

Today is not a day off in my contract. My only plans were to get a head start on cooking for tomorrow and cleaning my house. It's not the end of the world but definitely annoying. Its a new job and I thought I found an employer who wouldn't treat me like a cow to milk. Alas....

Well, now you know Work to Rule. Do not go our of your way for this witch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We love nanny and nanny loves us.

She just took the last week off (last week Tues-Fri and Mon of this week - all paid vacation days). she hinted, but didn't directly ask that she'd like to leave early today but I am in the office all day. My parents are around watching my older kids (3 older ones - nanny just watches the baby) so technically, she would be able to leave the baby with them, but I'd really rather she stay. She's not traveling for the holiday, other than from MD to VA. If she asks to leave early, can I say no? does it make me a terrible employer?

Insecurity on your part. Why is that?

how is that insecurity? nanny is getting paid, so she should stay (nanny here)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We love nanny and nanny loves us.

She just took the last week off (last week Tues-Fri and Mon of this week - all paid vacation days). she hinted, but didn't directly ask that she'd like to leave early today but I am in the office all day. My parents are around watching my older kids (3 older ones - nanny just watches the baby) so technically, she would be able to leave the baby with them, but I'd really rather she stay. She's not traveling for the holiday, other than from MD to VA. If she asks to leave early, can I say no? does it make me a terrible employer?

Insecurity on your part. Why is that?

how is that insecurity? nanny is getting paid, so she should stay (nanny here)

Exactly. Not knowing the obvious is what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're working, I don't think it's unfair. My employers are off today, had given me the day off, then reneged this morning so they could "get some things done." Your situation is much less irritating.

You should have told them thst you had already made plans that you couldn't reneged on.

Today is not a day off in my contract. My only plans were to get a head start on cooking for tomorrow and cleaning my house. It's not the end of the world but definitely annoying. Its a new job and I thought I found an employer who wouldn't treat me like a cow to milk. Alas....

It sucks when being a nanny starts blurring that line between casual job and real job and they make you come in and work for your money. I feel you sister. Stay strong.