Am I not getting an offer? MB's preferred

[Anonymous]

I interviewed with a family that liked me. They brought up the topic of a nanny share - something I've never done in the past. The parents said they would keep me updated after meeting with the family to see if it it can turn into a potential fit ( strangers w/mutual friends). I received an email yesterday saying
" We want to make you an offer, but we are not sure in what capacity." Then it goes on about if I am interested in a share or not. I emailed the parents to let them know I was me interested in a many share, but would I was interested in seeing a contact offer if they wanted to work with me individually. I also wrote something to the effect of them taking a few days to decided what's best for their family.

Today I get a response of " We understand your disinterest in a nanny share. We are definitely still interested if we decide the nanny share isn't an option. While we understand your need to get something lined up, we ask that you give us until the bed of next week to get everything figured out."

I do not know how to respond to this. I do have time to wait until next week, but I'm confused. In their first email they said they wants to give me an offer, but now they only want to work with me if a nanny share doesn't work out for them. I stupidly thought " we want to make an offer, my sure in what capacity.." meant they would forego the share idea if I were interested in working with them.

How do I respond back to them? How would you handle this situation? Please no snarky comments. I am a newbie nanny.

[Anonymous]

Seriously? This is your 3rd post abou this. You're not mature enough to be a nanny

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but it's kind of ridiculous to think that they would forgo the share because you were willing to work with them.

I was recently interviewing nanny candidates, and there was one woman who had an attitude like you did, OP. Like she had the job in the bag and got to dictate the terms of her employment. But the terms are what they are for a reason. We are looking for someone who can meet our needs.

If I were you, I would respond back that you can certainly give them to the end of the week, and you hope that things work out, but you understand if they decide to go with a share...then move on. Don't stew over it. Don't send them a weird email saying that you thought the job was yours and now it isn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but it's kind of ridiculous to think that they would forgo the share because you were willing to work with them.

I was recently interviewing nanny candidates, and there was one woman who had an attitude like you did, OP. Like she had the job in the bag and got to dictate the terms of her employment. But the terms are what they are for a reason. We are looking for someone who can meet our needs.

If I were you, I would respond back that you can certainly give them to the end of the week, and you hope that things work out, but you understand if they decide to go with a share...then move on. Don't stew over it. Don't send them a weird email saying that you thought the job was yours and now it isn't.

I definitely did not mean to come across this way. I am a little annoyed because they advertised for one child and during a phone interview I asked if they were doing a nanny share. They said they weren't and I'm not interested in one either. I get there and have a nice 2hr interview. At the end the mom said they had decided it may be an option. Then I got the email about wanting to make an offer and asking if I sure I wasn't interested in a share.

I guess I am just surprised because I had been more than up front from the start and I misinterpreted their first email. I was under the impression they were going to either give me a solid offer, or tell me they are deciding to pursue candidates who will do a nanny share. I wasn't expecting them to ask me to wait almost two weeks for them to decide what they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? This is your 3rd post abou this. You're not mature enough to be a nanny

This is my 2nd. MYOB.

[Anonymous]

pls stop.

[Anonymous]

OP, what was your first post? It would help me to have some context for the situation and I have no idea what you posted previously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but it's kind of ridiculous to think that they would forgo the share because you were willing to work with them.

I was recently interviewing nanny candidates, and there was one woman who had an attitude like you did, OP. Like she had the job in the bag and got to dictate the terms of her employment. But the terms are what they are for a reason. We are looking for someone who can meet our needs.

If I were you, I would respond back that you can certainly give them to the end of the week, and you hope that things work out, but you understand if they decide to go with a share...then move on. Don't stew over it. Don't send them a weird email saying that you thought the job was yours and now it isn't.

I agree to some extent. Yes, nanny is here to meet your needs, but it's just as much the babies choice to choose the family as it is for the family to choose her. It's not all about the employers. We have to want you too.

Plus, seems like they were less than truthful with OP from the start. OP I would write them off. I wouldn't trust people who tell me one thing and then switch their choice in the interview. They seem selfish not to be honest.

[Anonymous]

Okay, I don't want to be snarky OP, I truly am one of the nicer posters on this forum, but your posting was a little hard to comprehend. There were a lot of wrong words inserted and it didn't make much sense.

No offense, but perhaps it is because of this that there is a miscommunication between you both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I don't want to be snarky OP, I truly am one of the nicer posters on this forum, but your posting was a little hard to comprehend. There were a lot of wrong words inserted and it didn't make much sense.

No offense, but perhaps it is because of this that there is a miscommunication between you both.

Let me tell it again in short form. Had a phone interview with a family. One of my preliminary Q's was to ask if they want a nanny share, they said no. Met for an interview, then told at last 5 mins that they might want a nanny share. I told the mom it was a deal breaker for me. 48 hours later they tell me they want to make me an offer but not sure in what capacity. They again ask if I would be interested in a nannyshare. I stay firm and tell them no. If they want to work with me individually, I'd be happy to see their contract. A day later they told me they are interested in extending me an offer if they decide a nanny share won't work out. Then asks if I can wait 1.5wks so they can figure it all out.

In my mind, I figured they would either give me an offer, or tell they are pursuing candidates that want a nanny share. I was blindsided in the interview and now they are asking me to wait 1.5 week for them to make up their mind.

[Anonymous]

OP don't wait then just take up one of other offers you got

[Anonymous]

They initially weren't planning on a nanny share, but now they are, and since you're firm in your stance that you're interested in a share, then they have to move onto other candidates. If you were willing to consider a share, you would be offered the position, but you're not, so they're asking you to wait.

You don't have to wait, but that's where you're at.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They initially weren't planning on a nanny share, but now they are, and since you're firm in your stance that you're interested in a share, then they have to move onto other candidates. If you were willing to consider a share, you would be offered the position, but you're not, so they're asking you to wait.

You don't have to wait, but that's where you're at.

I get that. I was asking if I should wait or just walk away? I did like them but I felt blindsided about the nanny share.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They initially weren't planning on a nanny share, but now they are, and since you're firm in your stance that you're interested in a share, then they have to move onto other candidates. If you were willing to consider a share, you would be offered the position, but you're not, so they're asking you to wait.

You don't have to wait, but that's where you're at.

I get that. I was asking if I should wait or just walk away? I did like them but I felt blindsided about the nanny share.

No you shouldn't wait. Move on. If they happen to come back later, and you're still looking for a job, you can reconsider but no reason to let them keep you on the hook.

[Anonymous]

Then just walk away OP. THey haven't figured out what they want to do (which may or may not be an indicator of what they will be like as employers) and you don't want to wait for them to figure it out.

That's totally fine. Just move on.

Or, if you have no better immediate prospects keep looking and keep them on the back burner in case you don't get a better offer.

Not sure what else you think anyone here can tell you.