How do I move on and get past a position that ended horribly?

[Anonymous]

I recently quit a position where I was accused by the dad of doing something absolutely horrible. I was heartbroken that he thought that I had done what he accused me of. I thought they really liked me and trusted me and his accusation was a huge slap in the face. Later after I quit the mother called me telling me that he was way out of line and that she really liked me and was fuming mad at her husband right now. I broke down in tears while I was talking to her and told her that his accusation had really hurt me. She kept apologizing and asked if I would please come back, but I told her I could no longer work with her husband. She ended the conversation with saying that she understood and she told me that I could use her as a reference and that she would write a wonderful review on care.com for me.

How do I get past this? I know I need to just jump right back in and start looking for a job, but this has really scarred me. I asked the mother over and over again if I had done something to make them not trust me and she told me no that I was wonderful and that her husband just has issues trusting people. This just scares me for future jobs. What he accused me of was really serious. What if he had gotten the police involved? It would have been my word against his. I just don't even know what to think right now. I love being a nanny and have been one for 10 years. How do I move on from this?

[Anonymous]

If you dont want to tell the details then dont bother us. How can we know how serious situation was? Maybe you are overreacting...

Anyways, be a big girl a move on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you dont want to tell the details then dont bother us. How can we know how serious situation was? Maybe you are overreacting...

Anyways, be a big girl a move on

Get a life, A**hole.
OP, the only thing you can do is move forward and find a position with a family who will treat you with respect.
Eventually you won't think about it much.

[Anonymous]

Well, if you've been a nanny for 10 years then you have some context to put this in right? As in, one parent of the dozen that I've worked with turned out to be a nasty nutjob. Even his wife acknowledged that he was out of line.

Given that context you then don't take it so personally and you just move on with your life.

You cannot fix crazy, neither are you responsible for it. Just try to shake it off.

[Anonymous]

You do as the above posted said - you put it in context that this as one situation out of ten YEARS of work, chalk it up to the dad being crazy and get busy finding a new job. Then play Taylor Swift's song on repeat until the words sink in.

[Anonymous]

You seem advice of an attorney who el advise you whether you have a legitimate claim against the father. Of so, due. If not, get on the nanny hot line and tell other nannies what this man is like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You seem advice of an attorney who el advise you whether you have a legitimate claim against the father. Of so, due. If not, get on the nanny hot line and tell other nannies what this man is like.

Seek not seem.
Will not el.
If not of
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Obviously, I need to proof before posting. Mea culpa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you dont want to tell the details then dont bother us. How can we know how serious situation was? Maybe you are overreacting...

Anyways, be a big girl a move on

I agree. Getting tired of these stories (assuming its the same person just making up new threads to see where they go because they always have some hard to believe element and then no details) that have no real information but ask for advice.

"Something happened and it was bad, am I over reacting?!?" Grow up OP.

[Anonymous]

So the nanny troll must be out in full force today.