I need help with a good excuse!
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So I gave my notice a month ago because my MB is a nightmare. I don't know what I was thinking when I agreed to stay into mid June. My contract states that I would give 30 days notice and I know my MB to be a snake that would easily fire me on a friday and tell me to never come back. That is how she operates but I decided to honor the contract + 2 more weeks. This Beech even tried to reduce my hours right after, said "well, I was over employing you, I don't need you this many hours (I work 40). I said it is not worth it for me to come for less hours then what we have agreed.
Anywhooo, my situation now is that I've done my month and I honestly don't feel she deserves any more from me. She is a bitch from hell and I can not deal with coming into work any longer. I know, I should not have accepted, I'm not being honest or even mature or as professional as I should. But I am where I am and the circumstances don't let me just go "fuck it, goodbye". They know my entire network of families in this area and I don't want to burn a bridge. Anybody know a good excuse that wont make me look bad? |
Anonymous
| "I'm starting a new job [with a new family] on Monday, I'm really sorry I can't stay any longer. I'll really miss the kids!" |
Anonymous
| I have to go out of town to help my grandma move into assisted care. |
Anonymous
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Do you have another job yet OP?
I know you're hating it, but mid June is only 2 more weeks. Can't you just stick it out to avoid jeopardizing your reputation or any fall-out from them? |
Anonymous
| Op here...Yes I do have another job starting in June (3rd week). I honestly don't even care about being 2 weeks without pay. I just want out but I don't know how to do it while also keeping an ok relationship, not only for the occasional babysitting but more importantly so that she doesn't badmouth me all over town. I get a lot of work from several different families they know. Ugggh. Ever felt stuck and unhappy??? <shoot> <me> |
Anonymous
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What are the reduced hours that she wants you to work? If you can come to an agreement where you work the same amount of hours in a day, but come fewer days per week, I would just stick with it if it's worth commuting to the job. If you can't come to some sort of agreement, just tell her that you won't be breaking even if you are only coming for x amount of hours per day, so you will have to end your employment early. It sounds like no matter what you do this woman may just be crazy enough to bad mouth you. Hopefully you have built up a positive enough reputation with your other clients, and if anyone mentions it, just say that you couldn't afford to work any less hours or whatever.
I will say that it is only a few weeks, and I would just suck it up. I recently had a HORRIBLE internship for school, and I seriously wanted to quit in my last month. Luckily I stuck it out, and now I can at least put them down for a reference on my resume when I'm looking for jobs in the future. |
Anonymous
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Well, if you're starting another job right on the heels of this one then I'd say something like:
"Dear Jane, I know you had asked me to stay into June, but I need some time in between ending here and starting my next job. I'm not going to be able to continue working past next Friday, June 5. I might be able to do a handful of limited hours for a few days past that, if it would be helpful, but next week will have to be my last full=time week." If she's horrible about just hold your ground, graciously and professionally, but just reiterate that you have given them a month's notice and accepted another position and simply can't work after next week. Don't lose your cool and don't lie. That way you can at least tell the truth to any other families if they question you, and you can know that you behaved professionally. It is entirely likely that if your employer is really awful w/ you then she's awful with others also. And if other families have had good experiences with you, they may be very able to put your current employer's attitude in an appropriate context. Focus on getting out quickly and calmly, taking some time to clear your head before your next job starts, and then moving on with your life. Good luck! - MB |
Anonymous
| It is 2 weeks. Suck it up if you care about not burning there bridge or how she will talk about you. |
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Anonymous
I can't think of any excuse that you can give today for not showing up on Monday that won't make you look bad and definitely give her cause to bad-mouth you to the entire neighborhood. I agree with PP posters that it's worth feeling her out if she's still interested in reducing your hours or telling her that you have a few things that you need to take care of that you will need some time off for before you start your new job, but if you leave them having to scramble for childcare at all in the next week then you can be pretty certain that it will affect your relationship with them. |
Anonymous
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You sound as awful as the MB you're badmouthing.
Do yourself and your MB a favor and just leave. If she's smart, she won't give you a good reference and you should consider yourself lucky she doesn't badmouth you all over town like you do to her. |
Anonymous
| Sorry, but you have to stick it out. It's the only professional thing to do and will ultimately earn you points with the family and any others who know you through them. It will be bad for your reputation to do anything else. |
Anonymous
You were exposed to Ebola . Just tell her that the situation is untenable and you are leaving as of June 1. Just go because she is going to bad mouth you no matter what. |
Anonymous
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Just let her know that you thought about it in depth, and that you feel that you were only obligated to honor your original contract.
If she really is a bitch to work for, (she sure sounds like one!) then no matter when you leave, that bridge most likely has already burned to the ground. It could be soot now. |
Anonymous
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OP here. Thanks for all the pps with constructive criticism and suggestions. I have decided to suck it up and finish what I've agreed to.
To the one pp who felt the need to be negative and say that I am as awful as MB. Why would you say that when you have NO idea what I have put up with? SHE is lucky that I haven't left her with any notice whatsoever! And just so that you understand the level of high maintenance of this lady.... She doesn't work and my charges are TEENAGERS! There is also a housekeeper that comes in everyday! Quite frankly I am not sure how I stayed this long! I don't need/want her references. All I can do is learn from my mistakes: If it feels like you're being taken advantage of, if there are any details of routine, contract, method and procedures that you need to clarify, sit down and talk right away and if it doesn't get better then ultimately that is not the family for you... |